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Woman trouble?

May 25 2018

Hey RHiPsters This will probably cause a bit of controversy but my beautiful girlfriend & I (who I truly, madly, deeply love) are new to the whole scene while we’re not swinging at the moment we do like to watch & have sex while others are having sex around us. Which is our prerogative. We’ve been to several parties and always the ground rules are you have to ask first don't presume it’s a yes until the other party says so. In lieu of a yes then it’s no. These rules are generally aimed at the guys now me being a guy of the male persuasion I take umbrage at the fact that guys are singled out.. always presumed we’re the predators & yes I know there’s a lot of w@nkers out there but it’s never really aimed at women & on the whole everyone behaves themselves and treats each other respectfully in accordance with those basic rules but & here’s the issue I have is we’ve never once had an issue with a guy getting up in our grill it’s always women who cause the trouble & don't take no as a legitimate response. It seems they always presume that as they don't pay or pay very little they think they are basically begged to go to these events and that gives them carte blanche to do as they please. One party we had 2 women at different times of the night basically help themselves to my girlfriend to the point I had to physically remove them from her after we both repeatedly said no we’re not interested. The last party we went to, we were having sex & in the moment with each other having a great time while others were having sex in the same room and this.. I’ll say lady in want of a better word decided that she wanted to join in, there was no asking, there was no conversation she just proceeded to push her way in. to which I politely said no thanks, she proceeded to keep pushing we thanked her for her enthusiasm and again said no thanks we only play with each other the 3rd time she started to get angry and started to insult us both f’ing and blinding pushing harder for us to accept her advances trying to get between us as we were mid-coitus in the end I basically told her to go fck herself which really killed our mood & almost ruined what was otherwise a really great evening where we met some really lovely people. She left shouting obscenities at both of us. It was actually my girlfriend that mentioned later that it’s funny how it’s always the women who we get grief from the most and up until then she had a fantasy of experimenting with a female and I but that this had put her right off the idea. Now I know a lot of you women out there probably have stories of dickhead guys being.. err.. well dickheads really but generally we do get the hint & on the whole behave ourselves and at these party’s we have to be good otherwise we get booted from them pretty quickly or will scare off the women there. I’m not women bashing as I have nothing but respect for women and cherish them all it just seems funny and hypocritical that everyone freaks out about guys misbehaving when in our experience it’s the women you have to watch out for and don't take no as an answer. We shall continue going to parties and enjoying sex on our terms not some random persons expectations of how we should behave we are there for our enjoyment at the end of the day but occurrences likes these take the fun out of an enjoyable evening. So I’d ask all people of the RHP community to be respectful of other peoples wishes & desires. TTFN - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

But Ive seen this sort of behaviour in the chat rooms. Women come in and announce "Ok guys, no private chats and no, you cant watch my cam unless I invite you". Queens of.....bugger all. All too easy to turn off your private chat mode. And the ones who tell guys they are only looking for attractive men.........when they probably wouldnt get a second look down at the supermarket. One actually said "Im so fed up of ugly men messaging me". Because of the ratio of men to women both here and at parties, some women think that they can basically do as they please. I say some.....most of the ladies Ive met on RHP are amazing girls. But a few suddenly acquire misplaced egos. Regardless of who is misbehaving, no should always mean no.

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HotNightsGC

8 years ago

There’s no way excuse for bad behaviour or harassment no matter what gender you are. And yes we’ve also seen poor behaviour by both men and women at parties and clubs. I think most men are aware of the ‘no means no’ rule which pretty much applies at all swinger events. But I not sure if some women realise that rule includes everybody. It’s a shame you and your partner have had these bad experiences at the beginning of your journey. But what I will say is, with bad experience comes foresight for future experiences. Any kind of this kind of behaviour should be made aware of to the event hosts. People who behave like that should be asked to leave because of that woman did that to you and your partner, then she’s probably doing that to many others aswell. I really hope your partner opens herself up to the idea of female play at another time. It’s such an awesome experience to discover your female bi side. Best wishes for better times ahead. Ms HNP XX - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

But some pork chops out there complicate memorable good fun times. Whale do not let some blind acting idiot at one or a few events, ruin future awesome experiences. Party on dudes!!!

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MissRedFox

8 years ago

A woman not taking no for an answer. Forward behaviour partiucularly from intoxicated females but nothing to that extent. Most of the females I know are respectful of couples and many single females wait for couples to approach them as we don't assume every couple is looking for a girl to play with. Myself and most of the girls I know don't approach swimging with a sense of entitlement and I never assume everyone will be chasing me and play is guaranteed. XX - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

The words “any contact of a sexual nature not consented to is sexual assault...be wise with your choice...” ring out as a polite warning with a zero tolerance at my end for that shit..... - Posted from rhpmobile

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Rlee552

8 years ago

I can’t imagine anyone will say your position should not be respected, regardless of gender, age, sense of entitlement etc. Curious though as to what the host, other people etc do when they observe this behaviour. Do they step up and enforce the rules?

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curiousnhorny05

8 years ago

This type of behaviour is sexual assault. I’m sorry to hear this has happened. Some women I’ve observed are quite aggressive online even. I hope your future play sessions are more respectful - Posted from rhpmobile

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bonefide

8 years ago

Well written whale. Very interesting topic, great response from all. Whale as said above be positive in future indeavours, but one bad apple can spoil the barrel. Safe travels mate

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RHP User

8 years ago

And that is I have noticed something of a shift in the way us single blokes are getting treated. Couples recently (at least with me) have been extremely polite even if it's been a "no" and we've really good conversations about the lifestyle and in a few cases played.I think the whole man bashing era is coming to a close so thank you people of rhp xxx

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RHP User

8 years ago

Quoting 'VivalaKoko' But Ive seen this sort of behaviour in the chat rooms. Women come in and announce "Ok guys, no private chats and no, you cant watch my cam unless I invite you". Queens of.....bugger all. All too easy to turn off your private chat mode. And the ones who tell guys they are only looking for attractive men.........when they probably wouldnt get a second look down at the supermarket. One actually said "Im so fed up of ugly men messaging me". Because of the ratio of men to women both here and at parties, some women think that they can basically do as they please. I say some.....most of the ladies Ive met on RHP are amazing girls. But a few suddenly acquire misplaced egos. Regardless of who is misbehaving, no should always mean no.

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RHP User

8 years ago

Being an arsehole is not gender specific. I’ve seen both sexes behaving badly

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