after some advice please

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  AnnieWhichway

  7 years ago

  Seems to be the day for appraisals. Photos are ok. You even have the obligatory doggy cuddle shot. Nice touch. Perhaps offsets the beer stubblie shot but least your not slogging on it. Being a smoker will wilt a few candidates but points for honesty with that and drinking. Now your profile script....... There is a happy medium. You can be too short. And you can be too long. Ladies like longer rather than shorter but there is a limit. But content is the big key. You are focusing too much on your own needs too much. The way l read it you are more after bi guys? Tone your script down to your personality type. Your sexual needs are secondary at the meeting stage so you need to encourage a message response. From there you can develop things about each others needs in the bedroom. You dont need war and peace on your anal needs at this stage. Good luck

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Thanks annie i will go through and make some changes.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  A regular smoker, your profile has lots of contradictions and comes across self indulgent and confused. Which equates to hard work and a nasty tasting kiss. Put on your anonymous browser and read some of the guys profiles your competing with, because statistically you are. Personally and from experience it’s not worth my while to respond to each message especially when it’s obvious he doesn’t match my description or doesn’t care what I want and writes anyway. These are more than likely the guys who have fragile egos and respond back after a polite no with a nasty reply. I would have blocked you.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  You seem like a nice guy on paper. Your are honest and upfront. As a non smoker, reading that anyone is a regular smoker is an instant no for me. Good luck, you'll get there.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  looks honest and you have put some effort in which is a good touch but the smoking is an instant no thanks for me.Check out some of the male profiles you are competing with here and maybe take some hints from there

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  As someone that is fairly close in location to you (that's always a positive), if you messaged me it would be a no based on the fact that you smoke (and that you drink regularly). I appreciate the honesty but the smoking is the turn off for me. Your profile has a lot in it but I don't think it really captures the essence of what you're doing on here. It seems like a lot of waffling on and, to be honest I love a lot of info on a profile, but yours was too long. You mention your kids as being in your pictures...delete that line cause I didn't see any kids in your pics (and there shouldn't be on any kind of dating site anyway). Hope this helps you. Good luck 😊

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Smoker is a no- go for me, and a brief look at your profile and the length of the text makes me wonder if there is anything left to talk about on a date.

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  FeistyFatty

  7 years ago

  The smoking would be an instant swipe left for me. But appreciate your honesty in your profile with the drinking and smoking. As far as the profile length AND depth of detail therein...... excessive. I kind of feel like there would be bugger discovery left, which to me, getting to know a lover organically/fluidly is alot of my attraction to people. Pics are ok. Take out the bit about the kids though, i can't see any corresponding pic and thank God for that..... would probably warrant being reported..... not appropriate here. Good luck in your search 😊

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  thank you all for taking the time to respond to my post I seem to have gotten some mixed responses. on everything except the smoking any way :-) But I am always open to take on others views and advice so I will make some changes. on the smoking side of things I am a courteous smoker, I know not possible you say. but to be honest I am not a heavy smoker and don't expect others to put up with it so I wouldn't smoke before or during a meet with a non smoker if that is what they preferred. Again thank you all. I cant say that I am going to look at other men's profiles but because in the end I am who I am and I like who I am. but I will definitely take away some of the jumble and unnecessary information.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  It would have to be getting hard to ignore that little voice of reason in your head now. http://www.quitnow.gov.au/ or perhaps discuss with your GP Aside from that, my input is that you are explaining too hard about not wanting a relationship, almost apologising for it like there is something wrong with that. You want what you want so own it, so many women here want the same thing it's not weird. Besides even if you were or they were looking for a relationship we're at profile reading stage, way too early to be discussing that sort of thing anyway. Be positive/proactive and state what you do want. Something like you are looking to explore your sexuality through fun and mutually satisfying sexual adventures.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I’m not going to look or give advice because personally I don’t believe people should be coached in this area. You are who you are and you should seek a partner who accepts you, not someone you can fool into thinking you’re someone you’re not with a profile you’ve made up based on other people’s advice.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  LOL yes it seems that quitting smoking has a lot more benefits then just my health. its been on the cards for a while.but to be honest I'm to full of excuses atm. and I still enjoy it.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Profiles are just like a photo....a small glimpse at a very specific time.... So read your own profile, and ask yourself what it says about that moment in time when you constructed it.....

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  If you enjoy smoking, keep doing it.... Sure there will be those who say no to it, but giving it up because other people say to is walking someone else’s path not your own.....

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  so I have redone my profile. its finally how I think it should be. feel free to have a read.

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