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being stood up
June 16 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
Oh its you bigregfun! Just posted a response to your other question. So I see you have decided to indulge in your man cravings. Good on you. But hey, now said it would be easy !xxMeeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
BUT if I ever was...there would be no second chance at all....let alone a third! I have had guys call a few hours before and cancel due to whatever (wasn't really listening) and never ended up meeting those guys anyway, my time is too precious due to being a single mum to a boy that trains/plays basketball 5 days/nights a week! I wouldn't do it to anyone, so I expect the same respect back! Delete and block and yell NEXT! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hire a private investigator to find him , then shoot the bastard........
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RHP User
15 years ago
hmm , i had been talking to a guy for about a month and we finally swapped numbers and I agreed to a meet. The night before we were txting and he said he had booked the room for 10am and would txt me the number when he got there.. Soooo the next morning , got the kids off to school , dolled myself up , went to leave and sent him txt to say i was on my way.. Well i got no reply... An hour later i sent another txt to say ' well i guess it aint happening, thanks alot'. Still no reply. so i moved on. Well This happened in Feb this year , well low and behold about a month ago i got an email from him saying ' Im so sorry about our meet and not contacting you but i got arrested that weekend and he still wanted to meet me blah blahhhhhhhhhhhhh. Well i may be abit naive sometimes but im definately not stupid. I replied rather politely ( unlike me ) saying do you think im stupid ? the ship has sailed buddy'. Despite feeling like crap for being stood up , i guess its a lesson learned. but in saying that i had another guy stand me up twice before meeting him , i should have learned as that didnt turn out great either lol.. Hold your head up bigredfun , some people are tools and timewasters but there are plenty of really nice men , (from melb ) on here who are genuine. If you find one , let me know :P nic x
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RHP User
15 years ago
hi, Thanks for the replies. Well I gave him a 2nd chance because the first time his excuse seemed reasonable - he'd had a car accident. He was very apologetic and promised to make it up to me. I stupidly believed him. We had been chatting online for about 3 weeks prior to that and then we chatted for around another 3 weeks before organising to try to meet again. This time he hasn't even bothered to try to offer an excuse. I know what you mean about limited time as I am also a single mum of a teenager as well as now being pregnant with number 2. I guess I stupidly thought he was a genuine nice guy and understood where I was coming from (in terms of meeting but not promising anything) but I guess maybe he dedided if there was no guarrantee of getting some action he couldn't be bothered... would have just been nice if he had told me that - instead of playing along and pretending to be something he's clearly not!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey bipregfun if that was the case of listing everyone from here for standing up poeple i think you would every member just about on that list. I really think its just become the norm to stand poeple up, i think so they can feel better about themselfs and think about how much time and trouble the other person went through for nothing. I THINK SOME PEOPLE GET THE KICKS OUT OF IT,,,, there way of getting horny i surpose.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Could just be one of those fake profiles, you know the kind...a hot chick with a deep voice that agrees to meet you then leaves you hanging and thinks it's funny. | Awww hell...give her another few chances, just don't show up.
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RHP User
15 years ago
i'm sad to say. fair enough if they have an excuse but as long as they tell me i dont mind, things come up. but what i hate is when they arrange a time and place to meet..... then just never show up. block and delete no second chances with me : ) plenty more (hot!) fish in the sea...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Doesn't spoil the whole bunch. No show once, set and gorget. Just please don't tar all of us blokes with the same brush. There are plenty out there that will not let you down. Good luck with your future lucky dips
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RHP User
15 years ago
A last minute cancelation is hard enough to take as you have already made plans and arrangements .... but it can and does happen. Some times work and family does get in the way at the last minute. Yes it is dissappointing but we get over it...in time. However, to be just stood up. Have the other person just not turn up.....absolutely no explaination. It is not good enough and the man would not get a second chance. It does not tke much time to send a quick text to let the other person know. Unfortunatley ti does happen and way too often. I, personally, have never been left just waiting there. The few that have cancelled have always let me know. One ot two at the last minute but hey....you get that!
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RHP User
15 years ago
i too, feel there should be a page or a list of people who are either disrespectful, rude, or obvious fakes and dont conform to their profiles,. in the world today, everyones time is more and more precious as we get so little of it for ourselves. come on rhp maybe you can do something, i feel sure it would give your site more recognition too
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RHP User
15 years ago
I totally agree with you Northchina. Unfortunately adult dating sites are not regulated and anyone can set up a fake profile. I almost got scammed once, but realised it at the last minute. Unfortunately there are a lot of real people on these sites that selfish and this causes them to be rude and disresptful. Goes with the territory. What I hate most is when you view someone's profile, you like what you see and there is nothing in their profile that suggests that they won't meet you. You send them a message and they don't bother to reply. Very rude indeed.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sorry to hear that..but your probably better off now, by the sounds of things it would only have gotton worse ..
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'northchina' i too, feel there should be a page or a list of people who are either disrespectful, rude, or obvious fakes and dont conform to their profiles,. in the world today, everyones time is more and more precious as we get so little of it for ourselves. come on rhp maybe you can do something, i feel sure it would give your site more recognition too Would be way too open for abuse by someone with a vindictive thread. Imagine if you ended up on there because you refused to meet someone and blocked them for being a pest?
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RHP User
15 years ago
hey bigredfun , unlucky babe but haveing said that there is no f..k'n way i would do that to you , you sexy biaaaaaaaaarch.........no honestly some of these wankers do get off on hurting you or just don't respect you , them selfs , or anybody else and your allot better of without them , did well to find out this way , my wasnt so lucky and continued on down the line to find out the hard way , she doesn't even respect herself which is a real shame , we not all like that , so yea try not to group hate babe there's plenty good bloke's still looking ..............me included , if you come anywhere near me look me up bigredfun , i'd love to make your toes curl ??? nudge xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'naughtygirl4310' i'm sad to say. fair enough if they have an excuse but as long as they tell me i dont mind, things come up. but what i hate is when they arrange a time and place to meet..... then just never show up. block and delete no second chances with me : ) plenty more (hot!) fish in the sea... I just spent an hour waiting on the corner outside the coffee shop at Parramatta for a NO SHOW... come home .. log on .. only to find he is online .... send a polite message asking if by chance he might have forgotten that we had a coffee meet booked for the evening ... and he doesnt bother toread it ... let alone reply ... That now makes the 4th person in my block list .... AND im altering my profile ... NO MORE MEETS >> HERE FOR THE FORUMS ONLY >>
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rupamohan
15 years ago
For a site provider profile reference check and identity check can be complex nd expensive issue. Online if a person doesn't reply to first approach..it simply means not interested. But dn the way after few msg xchange change of mind should be conveyed. You simply need to be realistic and understand if PPL have interest in you they will reply. The rules of courtsey provided to unknown PPL online are different from meeting PPL in real. You simply move on...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Don't bother to give 2nd chance if you have been stood up once, whatsoever reason he gaves. Plenty of fishs in the sea I had this guy wanted to meet up for drinks in the city and then the last min he claimed he could not find parking so he wanted me to jump in his car to go to my place. I refused.... He didn't show up, of course. I wonder why after a few weeks, he still wanted to meet up. Blocked and deleted, I wish there is a destroy button lol Girls, always have back-up plan when meeting someone, just incase he doesn't show up. You still can do your shopping or catch up with friends. This is what I do everytime.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm quietly amazed that a woman would be willing to meet with a stranger in a hotel room who had missed the previous time because he had been arrested. It does make me feel better about my chances however! I had to cancel on someone twice. Fortunately I gave them plenty of notice and was suitably apologetic. The first time I'd honestly forgotten I had an intensive class at uni the next day and couldn't stay up all night. The second time I started to come down with a cold and had the other person's best interests at heart. It just so happens we did meet up and it was great. I think I was only extended that chance because I'd been so apologetic and given as much notice as I could. None of this a few hours before business, it was days before. I also had good reasons. Though I'll remember "I was arrested" for next time.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Just accept that some guys are unreliable.If they are unable to arrive on time or even turn up to a first date then drop them fast.No second chances.Sarah
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