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insecure about stretch marks.... advice?
May 07 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
There is not very much you can do about them, and they are such a common thing. I think that only the genetically blessed dont get them. I know where your coming from and I have to say it just takes time. They are a part of you, but only superfically. As a women you are much much more than some marks on your body. x (tanning and Bio oil can help, but everyone is different. Find what works for you)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm just going to throw my 2c worth in on this one. honestly there is nothing wrong with them, it's a natural thing that accures, so it really just adds to the natural beauty of a person.
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RHP User
15 years ago
It's all very well to learn to love every bit of you even those bits you'd rather not acknowledge but if it's really knocking your confidence, try dressing it up with something that makes you feel extra super-duper sexy and gradually get down to skin as you feel more comfortable, or just leave them on the whole timeSuspenders and stockings where the suspenders are attached to a wide lace bandCorsetsWaist cinchersAll my fave gearxx Sarah
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RHP User
15 years ago
...........I call the stretch marks on my tummy my Baby Map.........I never had them til I was pregnant & sometimes when I look down at them it reminds me of being pregnant, which I loved!!!! Other times I kinda wish they weren't there but with dimmed lighting they can't be seen
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RHP User
15 years ago
Nobody is perfect! we all have great assets and not so perfect bits, be comfortable in your own skin, most men would more interested in your pussy! than your stetchmarks so sweetie dont stress a bit of sexy lingerie will make you feel sexy! good luck jensta xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ahh welcome to womanhood. The reality when it comes to stretchmarks is that the large majority of the female population have them and in all honesty they really only seem to bother the owner (guys really don't care and other women think theirs are worse) I can highly recommend Bio oil available from the chemist and super cheap applied twice a day it does work over time to minimize the look of them but there really is no complete cure.Like Sarah suggested you could go for the sexy lingerie (it doesn't have to come off at all if you are not ready), sexy mood lighting like candles and dim lights are always flattering and once you get in the right mood you will forget about those pesky lines anyway, learn to love yourself and find yourself sexy and know that you are not alone most of all have some fun Mrs GC
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have worked hard to earn every single one of mine! Some have moles, freckles, scars or veins, others have stretch marks. Embrace them! Every mark on your body should tell a story. . . And if all the positive self-talk here and above fails, cover up and sit back and wait for a cure. I suspect they'll find one for HIV first
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RHP User
15 years ago
Mine are from carrying Focus. There is nothing you can do about them. I had the worst case of stretchmarks the hospital had seen in 30 years.I tried all the creams, all the oils and still nothing worked. My sister got none! Nobody ever said that life was fair. They are a part of who you are and yes we can all be a little self conscious about such things. I dont do threesomes so another woman looking at them is not an issue for me. I am over being self conscious about them in front of my male friends. Even when I do have the occassional meet wiht a younger man I make sure he is aware of the changes that age can have on a females body first. He accepts me for who and what I am or not at all. There are ways of working around these things. Lingerie can help as can dimmed lighting. After a while you will be more sure of yourself and realise that people like you for YOU and your stretch marks will not be an issue (or at least, less of an issue)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have yet to meet someone without some body image issues.. There is always something, be it stretch marks, to much weight, small boobs, big boobs, teeth.. the list goes on and on. There are endless ways to reduce what people perceive as negative about their body. The best way is to just not focus on it.I have found that when meeting people and it is clear that there may be some intimacy involved there is always the check list of body issues to be disclosed. I have stretch marks, my left tit is bigger, I have surgical scars, I smoke.....etc. I did take the view at first to just counter with my own. But that I think is not the way to go.So now when it comes down to the discloser I just let them vent it all out. I don't mind and ill insist on inspecting the offending body parts, then a light joke or two (careful). Then let them know that there is no problem at all, ill even if it feels appropriate spend extra time on what it is, make love to there insecurity, and I will always point out all the good things.So I think the best way to deal with body issues is to ignore them. You cant force people to like you, and if someone runs at the site of you then their bad luck. The strange thing is that the worst part of our bodies, the part that is hardly ever talked about, but is most important. The mind. There are some very ugly ones out there. But some so beautiful it matters not one bit as to what carries that mind.So with health, a lovely mind and tender heart what is there to worry about..
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RHP User
15 years ago
No one is perfect and your stretch marks are part of your life history and who you are...wear some sexy lingerie, if it helps, and try and be confident and not worry about it. Most guys will be far more interested in the rest of your body and you should focus on that and enjoying yourself ;-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Stretch marks....what are they?????? Miracle marks is ehat they should be called..... Dazi
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RHP User
15 years ago
I like being around humans, stretch makes just show you've lived, it's people who are insecure and constantly covering up that make me feel uncomfy, if you're relaxed i'm relaxed and if we're both relaxed we'll fuck better.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have a friend who is a massage therapist and she tells me that 99% of woman have them, and that on all ages/sizes etc.interestingly enough, quite afew guys have them too!!!! and thats including slim and athletic ones!
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RHP User
15 years ago
It just means your a real woman. Give me a woman who is attractive in every way that matters over a perfect a body any day. Nice eyes, a good face, a love of your own bodies and its pleasures,and the strength of mind to match the rest. Dont stress over the stretch marks they really are not important to real people . MR SRFUN
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RHP User
15 years ago
thankyou everyone! now I know that the world isn't such a judgemental place and I feel a little more secure knowing what you all have told me :)
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