F65
ok..my vulnerability
August 11 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
Nice is better than shithouse I guess. And I have had a few shithouse firsts in my time. And by the way I doubt you will find many women who say the first time was orgasmic either. I reckon if it was nice or good or you just like the guy you give it a second chance. I mean the first time is often figuring out what you both like, no? For me, the stronger the initial connection or chemistry with someone the better it is the first time. And if it doesn't improve, well then you can don the strapon and show him how you like it. Just my opinion. :-) Meeka
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RHP User
14 years ago
Or am I missing out on something?? By the way to all you lovely boys & girls I may have met. The first time with you was absolutely mind numbingly orgasmically awesome. I haven't called because I have been a little busy, that's all. Obviously I wasn't talking about you in my post above. :p
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RHP User
14 years ago
...speaking from my own perspective/experience, an encounter with a new partner usually follows a fairly significant dry spell ('cos the hand don't count!), and so I tend to spend more time on foreplay, knowing that once the entrance has been breached, it will be a very short time until there's a perfect bum print on the ceiling. Add to that the time it can take to get to know a person's body, their likes and dislikes, and just getting everything positioned right to get that orgasmic experience up to the next level means that the first time is often not the best. The second, third, fourth, fifth, sixth and seventh times, however, are a whole 'nother story......especially within the space of 4 hours!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Very few men will give mind blowing orgasmic sex straight up. It takes time to get to know someone enough to appreciate all thier little likes and dislikes and that is one of the reasons I like to have friends with benefits and dont like random one night stands. My body does not respond with full capacity either, no matter how relaxed I am or how horny I am. It is the subconcious ruling the conscious. The men are probably just as nervous as you are anyway. Dont always take everything that is written on here as gospel truth. Take it all with a grain of salt. What works for you will not work for another. "Nice" is good first time with someone new. It gets better each time you meet.
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RHP User
14 years ago
There's a reason I don't do one night stands :) Not a hope in Hades that 'm going to let my guard down completely for a stranger in bed, no matter how long we've known eachother. The first trip's for reconnaisance, and I want to know that when I do go down the rabbit hole I can find my way out again! You worry about your own comfort and sodd what the rest of the world thinks. It is your body, your sanity, and your safety on the line. We're all different in how and what we trust, and in how readily that comes. Nice save, Meeks, do you think anyone noticed?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Somethiing I possibly should have mentioned earlier too... I do appreciate those men who have the courage and the honesty to come out and say that it takes time to get to know me, so to speak. We women are lucky, stagefright can be so much more apparent in men! Nothing embarrassing about knowing what you're both dealing with, and how to get the best out of it. Far better than finding out the hard way. I suppose that is one of the joys of need going after the lunchtime random root.
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RHP User
14 years ago
not! I meant, "not going after the lunchtime random root!" On another note, how the hell do I get line spacing between paragraphs, and is there a formatting tips page on this thing?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I don't think that's abnormal at all. We're all not just on/off switches, everyone has an unwritten manual to discover and lucky too else we'd all be only interested in one night stands.It's a shame we all feel pressured to have the best orgasm each and every time we have sex. I remember when I was first dating Mrs Pup, I was so besotted and in such a new and different way that I used to spend hours pleasuring her and often didn't orgasm myself. Funny thing was I was as content as could be, it just wasn't my focus. These times were probably the best sex I have ever had.Great sex is way more than a prerequisite orgasm!
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RHP User
14 years ago
You're not unusual or different! Noone is 100% comfortable with a brand new partner hell some people may not even be comfortable with their long term partner when they're naked and getting their grind on in bed....point of the story is go out get drunk and find some guy to nail you to the bed let your inner freak out girl, start screaming random shit like "i'm a motherfucking dinosaur RAWR bitch" and then when you see him in town the next week pretend you've never seen him then whisper rawrrrrr really softly as he turns to leave....i lost my train of thought but yeah do that and then message me the results!!!!
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Genius_Ironman
14 years ago
Don't listen to crap on the 'net, besides giving multiple mind blowing orgasms fisrt time around (and every time after that), the average anonamous male internet poster has an IQ of 145 and an 11" cock. Not sure why they seem to spend so much time on forums...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'puppy' Great sex is way more than a prerequisite orgasm!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I can only go by what I have read in your profile and on the forums but I suspect that you really need to know a guy before you release your inner slut. Even then you still have trouble letting go of the voice in your head telling you that good girls don't do this kind of thing. Yes, I am telling you to relax but before you do that you will have to find a way to get rid of the voice and be comfortable being a bad girl. If not then just enjoy the "nice" and leave the towering orgasmic heights for when you find someone that you can relate to. I hope you find what you are looking for.Either that or you are meeting some incredibly dud bed buddies!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Wouldnt it be nice if we all had a little switch that went from zero to orgasm in no seconds flat ? Not the case though.....hell , for me it takes more than a couple of goes too, and sometimes it's worth he and I taking a packed lunch if we're waiting on my orgasm LOL. The bad girl does come out after a few times though, she doesn't stay muffled for long, but I do think those 'few' times are necessary to meter whether the trust factor is there enough for you to safely release the inner slut lol, and know that your partner isn't going to freak or run with it too far for the both of you. Clear as mud? made sense in my head
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RHP User
14 years ago
I am I think, not overly cerebral Mistress T but, a fairly sensitive nature. So what you said made some sense to me with respect to that inner 'voice' - (not exactly a voice but, a level of over thinking things, which undoubtedly is counter productive). I appreciate what the other op's said too, because they reflected my own sense and that is comforting - to not feel you are some kind of freak. I love to read your contributions because it provides some sense of balance in my own thinking and expectation of how things 'really' are. The other element is, especially on sites like these...there is a lot of mm embelishment for want of a better word, when people discuss their 'sexuality'...so Fiona, your comment was particularly insightful. I do tend to take people and what they say at face value so..yes, probably build up this incredibly erroneous expectation of what I 'should' be when measured against what other people say they 'are' (blame that on a father who was incredibly critical of me and compared me unfavorably to others at whatever opportunity he could - sigh).... Dont always take everything that is written on here as gospel truth. Take it all with a grain of salt. What works for you will not work for another. "Nice" is good first time with someone new. It gets better each time you meet.As always, it is a great pleasure to read the forums and comments of other community members. We may not always agree but, I do believe there are some wonderfully clever, insightful people herein and even the joksters (who always put a smile on my face as I muse their thinking over a cup of coffee) - it provides me a sense of kinship (does that sound overly dramatic - all I mean is.. it's nice to chew the fat over with other people who like to discuss and air their opinions ). And..it's also nice when people take the time to advise me on personal situations, such as this one - in a gentle and supportive way..thank you.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Me too, Im one of those non orgasmic women in a first up encounter. When I first meet someone, there is far too many things going on in my mind to just switch off and have a orgasm just like that. As good as the rooter he may be or may perceive he is, he too is trying to impress by going like a bull at a gate and so it just doesnt happen.. expectation that can kill the moment..If you think the guy has something there and you feel comfortable with him, then a second meeting where most of your anxiety of the first meeting is overcome and you know then what to expect, theres a better chance of success.. Otherwise' you may as well grab yourself a cup of coffee and grab a newspaper while you wait..It gets back to feeling at ease and comfortable with yourself and the person you're playing with. , then things will just hopefully happen..
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RHP User
14 years ago
...the rest flows like warm honey. | There's a lot to be said for making "the connection" and sometimes it can happen on the first run...sometimes never. I would ditch the latter in fairly short order but always give yourself and anyone else a chance to relax. | And don't show them the skyhook until it's too late!
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RHP User
14 years ago
CrackUp, I wouldn't be too concerned as it happens to all of us, even us men. There is certainly nothing wrong with you. I think the trick is too feel attraction to your partner, both physically and mentally then things will happen for you. It might help to go meet the person a few times before having sex, like meeting for coffee, lunch or dinner, etc and when you feel more comfortable with them, then it may happen. If not, it is probably time to move on to someone else. Good luck and all the best.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'And if it doesn't improve, well then you can don the strapon and show him how you like it. Just my opinion. :-) Meeka now that would be an interesting first date
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'burngeorgesbush' Quoting 'Meeka100'And if it doesn't improve, well then you can don the strapon and show him how you like it. Just my opinion. :-) Meeka now that would be an interesting first dateI doubt very much it would be the first date for Meeks... I suspect it would just be one of many, erm... dates...
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Genius_Ironman
14 years ago
A subset of women NEVER orgasm, some only occasionally, many not at all through intercourse, and some never with a partner. One lady I dated came almost continually during sex. Sounds good, but was kinda like fucking an epileptic. Don't worry about what works others, figure out what works for you & go for it!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Burn, sweetheart that isn't a gun in my pocket. I have a hard on for your lurve ;-) M
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RHP User
14 years ago
Oh Meeka Meeka Meeka! "Pain in the arse" indeed! *eyeroll* Lookout Mr Burn! :-O
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Burn, sweetheart that isn't a gun in my pocket. I have a hard on for your lurve ;-) M challenge accepted , please be gentle *blushes*Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' Oh Meeka Meeka Meeka! "Pain in the arse" indeed! *eyeroll* Lookout Mr Burn! :-O i am a strapon virgin *blushes* and should probably know better than to play with meeka
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RHP User
14 years ago
...the lamb has been lead to the alter. | Quoting 'Meeka100'Burn, sweetheart that isn't a gun in my pocket... | Go on...ignore all that nonsense in your profile and JFDI will you? You said the pocket rocket needed a test flight... | ...just so slow during the break in period.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' ...the lamb has been lead to the alter. | Quoting 'Meeka100'Burn, sweetheart that isn't a gun in my pocket... | Go on...ignore all that nonsense in your profile and JFDI will you? You said the pocket rocket needed a test flight... | ...just so slow during the break in period. test flight, sounds more like i'm a guinea pig oh wells, thems the breaks!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Take it in your stride it will happen you will find the connection you are looking for ,it does happen and its truly amazing when it does happen there is some one out there that will make it happen for you .It feels very good
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RHP User
14 years ago
always a bit of an experiment. Second and third times are the times to feel the real heat of passion IMOMrA:)
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