that extra person advice

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Go as a couple to a club, get your GF to take the lead and make a friend, get a vibe for what she'd be up for. The girls have to bond or nothing is going to happen. You be laid back and no pressure, occassionally walk over with a couple of drinks for the girls and then stay out of the way and let your GF flirt and do her thing. Be charming, sober (pissed is soooo unattractive) and super low pressure and friendly. Have fun

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  While you're chatting up these women, why not just ask them. What are they gunna say? Yes or no! You've really got nothing to lose.HugsStalky

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Have to agree with Ms Goodgrlzsayplz... I've been approached by couples when out and it works brilliantly (for me) when the female is the one doing most of the talking to 'warm up' the situation. Go for it and best of luck!x

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I agree with the point made by others, that going out as a couple is much better.For one, the female you are approaching will know that you are a genuine couple.Also she will be able to size you both up.I think that if you read the signs correctly, an invitation to some 3way action would not be taken badly and even if it is, a polite "no thanks" doesn't hurt that much.Just take the time to relate to the third person well, don't rush, have a relaxed, natural chat and drink.When the conversation starts to get more frank and open and when the flirting becomes obvious, then quietly move on to your private venue....No problem.Good Luck!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  stalky i like your approach, but as much as i do for some reason it has only ever worked when i was single and picking up lol, anyway i think i will take the advice from the ladies. I dont know but for some reason i think a ladies advice will work alot better for this situation. As much as i like the str8 froward approach sometimes you just need a ladies help to get things going especially because she doesnt want a friend included, just the whole awkwardness of heyme and my boyfriend both know what u had for breakfast and now we have to hang out is the major turn off for having a friend involved. Anyway people i will let you know how it all goes and hopefully it will be a experience to remember. cheers all for the help and good luck averagesydneyguy

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Lol. I'd never use that approach, but the dude says its really easy for him to pick up in pubs so I was just working on the assumption that he is one of those guys that women hang off. My own personal style is to try and be in the right place at the right time, wait for the ladies to sort it out between themselves, and cross my fingers, nodding wildly at the appropriate moment. Hugs Stalky

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We are new to the couples scene, so I guess its sounds silly why we are annoyed that our profile is bombarded by single men or men who want to borrow her and her only. I dont think its too much to ask that if you want to borrow a partners other half that you offer the at least the same in return? We are happy to swap partners, but we are sick of all the guys only wanting to fuck her, or borrow her for their FFM 3some fantasies, and offerring nothing in return. Are we just dumb? A bit off topic I know...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'pollyanna_jboy' We are new to the couples scene, so I guess its sounds silly why we are annoyed that our profile is bombarded by single men or men who want to borrow her and her only. I dont think its too much to ask that if you want to borrow a partners other half that you offer the at least the same in return? We are happy to swap partners, but we are sick of all the guys only wanting to fuck her, or borrow her for their FFM 3some fantasies, and offerring nothing in return. Are we just dumb? A bit off topic I know... Borrow her and her only? It's not like a library where you walk in take out a book and return it shortly with a few of the pages folded... Your profile is quite clear in respect of what you are seeking. I would think it's just lads doing their best to 'try' their luck. Unfortunate but true in regard to some people who just do not read profiles or choose to think they may be the exception to your seeking criteria... *bashes head against desk*Hold in there P&J I'm sure once you wade through the sea of 'borrowers' you'll uncover some great people and fingers crossed you get to have some sensational experiences for the both of you.VT

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  You have only offered one pic. clear pics of both of you might help to entice. And the cold hard facts of couples play is that it's bloody hard to get 2 people to fancy each other let alone 4. My hubby and i would more often than not fancy the lady of the couple but hardly ever the guy of the couple. It's not easy to find two couples who fancy each other. Quoting 'pollyanna_jboy' We are new to the couples scene, so I guess its sounds silly why we are annoyed that our profile is bombarded by single men or men who want to borrow her and her only. I dont think its too much to ask that if you want to borrow a partners other half that you offer the at least the same in return? We are happy to swap partners, but we are sick of all the guys only wanting to fuck her, or borrow her for their FFM 3some fantasies, and offerring nothing in return. Are we just dumb? A bit off topic I know...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'goodgrlzsayplz' And the cold hard facts of couples play is that it's bloody hard to get 2 people to fancy each other let alone 4. My hubby and i would more often than not fancy the lady of the couple but hardly ever the guy of the couple. It's not easy to find two couples who fancy each other.can we 'second' this? aint it the absolute truth?

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Yes you can....so the bloke that is happy to 'share' his girl, and what does he get in return?   Im sorry I forgot I was just a dating agency for my girl..

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  we dont 'share' anything...except the guy we play with....and we only play with bi guys........... we've not yet found a couple we agree on...as it is indeed hard to please everyone...but we agreed that if either one of us wasnt 100% happy with who we had been approached by, then it wouldnt go anywhere. we are here to explore our fantasies....as we've said elsewhere.......     we are normal in just about every way....including the fact that she's by far the better looking of the two of us....... so we 'get' that when we are approached...its normally how Shel looks that is the attraction....to date...no-ones messaged us asking if they could have me (Mike) for the weekend, the night, a few hours....or even for a quickie........and I'm totally ok with that..... most of the time....lol.....

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  In the arena of pubs and clubs, it's hard enough to pick up a single female (to varying degrees) let alone a bi girl interested in couples. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but there is no cache of bi females in most public arenas. And being that females are only single for a finite amount of time, you'd have to hit that window of opportunity too. Good luck with this.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Maybe if we petition RHP to adding special keys for suitableness of contacts.   For example, couples looking for couples, have a button to tick and will only be able to receive flirts and messages from the selected criteria. IT could be made MORE fun IF we could make up our own "Auto responses" sent to those outside that criteria who attempt to message us -- "Hello XXXXX: you are getting this message because we clearly state what we are looking for.. you are NOT it." "Hello XXXXX: do you have reading limitiations or are you just plain STUPID?"   Of course, people would just create a "couples" profile... but that happens anyway.   just a thought caveman

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