M57 F51
what do people get wrong about you
July 13 2018
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
Lol! I've been blamed for what goes on in other peoples lives and choices. It's far easier if they took responsibility for their own choices and self. Not my issue or concern. BoobsandBust- don't worry about what others think of you. 😊 I like you and your posts. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
7 years ago
This drives me nuts... I’m not too fit for anyone and can on any given day point out a half dozen things wrong with my body... And just because we like fitness doesn’t mean people we talk to have to be into fitness.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
They think I’m desirable Hahahaha They’re nearly as delusional as I am ffs.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
What anyone thinks of me is none of my business!
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RHP User
7 years ago
This is what I struggle with the most.. Just because fitness is my thing and my passion doesn’t mean it has to be everyone’s thing and everyone’s passion.. I honestly have found it so hard lately as I don’t seem to be what anyone wants... I keep trying and trying and just can’t seem to impress anyone... When talking to couples the men are ok with me but not the women.. and it’s the women I want to impress lol but I also can’t be anything else but me and fitness is me... - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
i heard this topic on the radio today and thought it would make for interesting. reading ,not actually have a problem with it ,lol, - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I run my own business, work a second job and have a pretty good social life and blessed with a few close friends the truth is that I am a true introvert and very lonely
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Hottie1
7 years ago
The feedback I get is that I’m stern looking, should smile more, have quite a serious resting bitch face and that I’m intimidating. I’m honest and direct and that frightens people. What people don’t know is that I’m fraught with anxiety and meets are a great source of stress for me. I won’t say or do anything that puts you at ease because I’m flat out managing my anxiety at being in a crowd, having to talk to new people, worrying about being judged, if there’s play do I be myself for fear of being judged or do I pretend to be something I’m not. The not laughing easily, the sternness, being direct is my coping mechanisms, you’ll only be allowed into my space if I’m completely safe (everyone poses a threat). If you’ve seen me laugh uncontrollably, if you’ve seen me smile and apparently hubby thinks I’m even more beautiful when I smile then I’m truly unguarded with you. I might add though, once you’ve broken through the barrier Of what is my shell, I’m the person you want in your corner every time because I’ll protect you. I’m loving, forgiving and loyal, I would do anything for you. The facade isn’t what it seems to be .... Mary xx
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
you may be guilty but hell you shouldn’t be ,you are more than you give yourself credit for ,to be honest it’s a weird thing that people who judge themselves to not be in good shape and pick the crap out of themselves and self perceived flaws are more super hard on themselves than anyone , surprisingly a lot of so called gym junkies are far more excepting and forgiving than you realise but find themselves the ones being outcast by the non gym people, ,there are many varied. reasons why people hit the gym, we were amoungst those people till we joined and found out for some it’s a mental thing as much as physical and a ton of weirder stuff ,i for one got thrown into it leading the way by example for our son and mrs b soon followed , although we have always eaten well ,we were on the skinny side and larger people would often comment on how skinny we were making us feel the odd ones out telling is maybe we should try eating once in a while , and that is ok but today’s standards apparently ,but wow watch the retaliation. if you say to someone maybe skip a meal you might live longer ,lol,truth be known. back in the day, i weighed 65 kg and could eat 5 of the old big macs and 5 fry’s with 5 small thickshakes ,those buggers did me in ,could never work out why ,but anyway ,i hardly paid for a friday night meal due to unsuspecting sillies who would take up my mates taints of looser pays bet ,lmao, so yes i did try to eat but this little old whippet couldnt put on an ounce until he hit the gym and started sucking down protein powders and food like never before ,i’m proud of what i’ve achieved but it doesn’t mean others have to or more to the point do i want others to be like that,there’s more to being sexy and hot than that ,you for one are a classic example wow that’s a longest response ever from me ,sorry for typos and grammar errors ,and if you now have a headache ,i think we all know it’s not my strong point ,lmao - Posted from rhpmobile
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Smilingwithfun
7 years ago
People think i like people, ha. Where is that padded cell
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
yup hearing you loud and clear , maybe should have a topic on who is an extrovert or an introvert , there’s a saying i like to say about a few things in our life we are show pony’s who hate attention ,lol, xena its a shame your in the next state cos i think i know a couple who would 😍🤪😍🤪😍🤪over you , don’t give up , patience grasshopper patience - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
7 years ago
If you’re my friend you will know who I am. You get to see the unfiltered me. If I like you and trust you I will be pretty open so maybe not that many surprises for those that I hold close and they’re the ones that matter. - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
Where do we start .........? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Constantly being judged ... meh! - Posted from rhpmobile
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nightingale8
7 years ago
That what I think others are thinking of me after often projections of my own insecurities. It's quite liberating to realise that. I'm Asian and grew up often having that pointed out to me - "wow you speak really good English", a woman seeing me idling up the stairs lost in thought "in Australia we walk on the LEFT side", "sorry when I said you had black legs I meant your stockings" 😂. Of course, had the outright racist slurs hurled and been spat on by a stranger. Later I came to think that the way people treated me was because of my ethnicity more than was justified and possibly still have a chip on my shoulder about it. I've started to look at my part in the social dynamic (I was taught to be obedient, meek and smile) and have changed the way people treat me, no longer ashamed with my tail curled under. The freedom is wonderful. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
could have written same post. both introverted which gets taken for "stuck up" or other at times. Also both slim so people assume your a body nazi, hubby actually likes larger ladies lol....
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
your pretty handy on the key pad ,i’m sure you can work it out a starting point ,lol mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
When I talk about my struggles with depression and anxiety. Outwardly I’m a very happy fun personality and that’s how most people perceive me. They are actually quite shocked when I shed my truths. These days I talk about it all the time. Ive found it healthy to talk openly and discuss the reality of what lurks deep inside. It’s such a drain and a burden to keep it buried. I choose to set myself free. If someone doesn’t value my inner self, well, you can politely Fek off and I certainly won’t associate socially with you. Sure takes a lot of courage to open oneself and step out of the shadows but well worth the effort. Anyone coming to the brissy Meet n Greet will be welcomed with a smile. I’ll be quietly shitting myself though 😆 actually I think I’m more nervous with clothes on 🙊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
& I don't care. Possibly some mistake my easy going nature for weakness.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’m surprised at the introverts who agains all natural instinct come on this site and put themselves out there!!! Each and every one of you are awesome!! I am one but am blessed with a people person as a partner... he leads, he’s my rock and my support and my calming influence until I feel ok in a social situation... he has learnt not too push me lol or I should say how to push me so I don’t dig my heels in and completely back out... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Lol, same. I'd never want to be mistaken for super perfect 😂 I can be quite shy in new settings or large crowds which as others have noted can be seen as rude. But I am more outgoing when I feel comfortable. I too have suffered social anxiety and have found some women can be very bitchy, whether it be their own insecurities or jealousy who knows, really no need for it though. Mary, I would never have thought that, you seem so confident. You welcomed our little Perth Trio into your home and made us feel so special. We had so much fun. Your generous nature, hospitality, smile and laughter made that night what it was, thank you xx
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
good on you ,and well done for talking about it , the more people talk about less stigma is attached ,your on a winning road to happiness - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
An extroverted appearing introvert who is at the heart of the action and shitting herself but no one would know it, same as here really. I still remember the big meet n greet thrown by SweetPetite back when they were just beginning to be a thing for forumites. I turned up by surprise to take some of the stress out of the lead up for me. Our RHP rep asked me to take over the controlling of the table of champagne glasses that were still being poured because the numbers had been so severely underestimated, I still remember smacking one women on the hand as I tried to hold up the flood, LOL! Laughing and shitting myself that she would get upset! But she laughed at m bravery. I didn't get over the group of people from the forum who laughed at me because I tripped over my feet trying to actually meet them. Thanks to RHP for that champagne, and to Sweet for the effort who is still a friend, man she has had an amazing life! Sigh... Peachy, really out there...
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BungCpl
7 years ago
Great post BoB... For me (Mr NVC) there are 2 main points. 1. I am well educated - I happen to hold my own very well in an industry of University qualified people get I dumped school after year 10 as it bored me. 2. I came from a family of money - nothing could be further from the truth, we may not have done it as tough as others but that was all down to hard work and dedication, an attitude that will flow through my family for generations to come - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I actually don’t really feel stigmatised anymore. I’ve spoken openly and honestly with my work colleagues and to that end I’m very respected for doing so. I believe the strong seek help when required. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
That'll teach 'em. I'm inclined to add that super perfectionism (OCD) can be a real thing that has it's place in many mental health disorders and can be a warning sign to look out for that there is a problem. Peachy, has seen it many times xo
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RHP User
7 years ago
...in my pants pocket isn’t chocolate. I’m mean, nobody has a cock “that” big for chrissake! Want some candy? 🤨⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Whatever incorrect beliefs they’ve formed about me in their own mind..... ..... I usually shatter like tempered glass So why worry. 😎
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Hottie1
7 years ago
I was relaxed with the gorgeous Perthians because you had invested in, me time and time again, either through the forums or on chat :) I felt and still feel comfortable around you, what you see is what you get with you. A woman after my own heart. Till I did meet you, all I wanted to see was that drop dead gorgeous face and those boobies of yours. Lots of hugs and kisses beautiful xx
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
not what i expected ,but we have a serious amount of introverts here and a lot more than i thought at partys and the like ,who would have thought that ,gives me a whole new prospective on things ,eg,when you go to a party or a meet and greet situation and no one really talks to you it’s not they all hate you but are all prolly the same boat and quite introverted until they know you ,for some reason i’ve always thought most who swing are quite extroverted ,but now i am forming a different opinion , and from now on am going to try harder to be the ones who reach out and say hello first , rather than standing back and assessing everything and shitting ourselves . cos from previous experience it’s the ones who reach out and make you feel comfy are the ones who can make the night for everyone , mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks Mary, right back at ya gorgeous xx And Mr B what a good suggestion about reaching out first. Please let us know how it goes at your next soiree 😊
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RHP User
7 years ago
I'm hearing you re: the loneliness. Everyone thought my life was great with a nice home and family, when in reality I was living with a 2 other people and I was lonely and miserable. It's not a nice feeling.
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fundamentallaw
7 years ago
In vanilla life, people often confuse our happiness with our success. Our happiness is our greatest success, and we have worked at it every day for 43 years. In vanilla life, people often confuse our professional leadership with extroversion. We have addressed up to 15,000 people. Yet we are happiest 1:1 and 2:2. In vanilla life, people think we use words like honor, trust, and truth casually. In vanilla life, people can't imagine us in this world. Perhaps that's for the best
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Dirtyandfriendly
7 years ago
Because I'm quite tall and lean, most assume I can't fight my way out of a paperbag. A lot of women have assumed this about me. I did a half marathon in the grampians so fuck you. A lot think I'm too nice, I'm not, I just respect people enough as I want to be treated the same way, but gets misconstrued. I get friend zoned easily because I like people and when I like you I am nice, I'm a gentleman and like looking after my women. I'm not the type who's jealous, I don't rely on a woman to feed me and I sure as shit don't let issues out on you because I need attention. I have a lot of friends who go for men with issues in the hopes of fixing them, I've never needed fixing I am what I am. I hate being someones relationship project. I am an introvert now, I used to be a really out there extrovert, but people ruin that for me and assume I am lonely. I am,but not because I need to be in a relationship.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'KJ1971' I'm hearing you re: the loneliness. Everyone thought my life was great with a nice home and family, when in reality I was living with a 2 other people and I was lonely and miserable. It's not a nice feeling. incredible to hear how many people are lonely.I am too.I'm just realising I'm FAR from being the only one and whilst I cope with it, I'm afraid for some others in this position as they are not as fortunate as me in other ways.Anyone got any theories on how we all arrived at this lonely place in our lives??I have a nice place to live with good neighbours, car, full time work, pretty good health, lovely friends and family, a couple of long term respectful fuck buddies - I don't want for anything.Except that reeeeeally special man to share those exquisite moments in life with.I'm at the stage where space and privacy (as in living alone) don't mean so much.I'm ready to share.Would enjoy having a loving man to come home to at night.....to rub each others backs after a hard day at work.......to cuddle up on the couch and in bed with........to discuss the good and bad times with........someone to walk beside me in life. Not in front of me, not behind me. Just beside me.
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
i hope this thread helps someone and has made some even if it’s only 1 ,feel that they are not alone and an oddity in this world we live in, welcome to swinging an introverts passion and pain ,🌹 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hey, you are so wright. Good on you for saying it out loud 👍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
..People get my resting face wrong often. And, I don't blame them...if I wasn't smiling, I wouldn't want to run into me on a dark street either.When I stage photos I come out looking like I did hard time for a crime I did commit and a few the jury didn't know about. Anyway. As a result, I greet people with a smile always and posted photos are usually smiling, unless I'm feeling particularly arty-farty or masculine at the time. It's a strange irony that I can serve up a decent mugshot of a murderer, but I'd make a terrible fighter...I just don't have the aggression in me.
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tcm70
7 years ago
I’ve found many assumptions made about me over the years have always surprised those that have got to know who I really am. Always tall from early age, used to get picked on in preps by older kids I was taller than, “you must’ve failed kinder coz you’re to tall to be a prep.” Even had a teacher(not from my school) at my first school sports accuse me of being in wrong age group, when he was told I was in fact in the correct group he asked me if my mother stood me in a bucket of cow shit every day as growth fertiliser. That kind of mentality continued throughout primary school, into secondary school. “You must be ruck or full forward” I didn’t even play footy after primary. “You must play basketball” well I did, so I’ll give them that one. Lol. And for some reason people must’ve thought I was living in a different country as I was very often asked “how’s the weather up there?” So, from all that attention I guess I pulled into my self and felt very self conscious, still do at times but not like when I was younger. So being a modestly handsome guy it turned to that I was arrogant, or up myself etc, but in reality I was nothing but, all I wanted was to blend in. I was to shy to talk to girls as even had girls teasing me about my height, so if a girl approached me I was instantly on my back foot preparing for some snide comment about having to duck under aeroplanes. So I must’ve seemed like a real tool. But anyway, survived my teenage years, btw I was 6’2” at 13-14, now I’m only 6’4” so havnt grown much really since then. My reservedness continues in me, but I’m not a true introvert as I’m a very social person once out and about and not feeling conspicuous and have learnt to shrug off all the tall comments, my usual response now if someone asks me how tall I am, Is that that I’m long enough to reach the ground, if I was any shorter I’d be hovering. Lol. Usually shuts them up. These days I get different assumptions, I’m reasonably private in my life except to those that are closest to me, so many still initially think I’m arrogant, yet I often can meet strangers one on one, and get into an in-depth convo and spill my guts to them and vice versa as I am told I have an aura that makes people comfortable around me, any way back to the assumptions, I’m self employed as a plumber, so it’s assumed I’m loaded, I’m not, I battle like everyone does. It’s also assumed I get covered in faeces to, tho I’ve never had a drop of shit get on me. Many assume that I’m not intelligent as I’m only a tradie, yet I finished year 12hsc/vce, started an advanced science degree in biology which I pulled out of as had enough of indoor study environment. I can navigate boats, I can fix things, I can read books and form my own opinions, yet I’m still assumed a lower class than office execs. I’m also a very laid back and soft spoken person so many assume I’m a pushover, to a degree I am perhaps, but only because I’m very patient to and happy to ride out the assumptions until they see I have my limits and morals. It’s assumed that I’m not lonely either like many have stated also in this thread, as I have my kids and friends, yet I’m not with them as much as I’m alone by myself. It’s assumed that because I’m decent looking I could have any woman I’d want and many can’t understand why I’m single simply for that reason. So I just live my own life, try and let the asssumptions fly over head and just be me. One thing I did learn from all of my experiences with assumptions tho, is to never judge a book by its cover. To assume, like they say, is to make an Ass out of U and Me. I do try to be that person who will smile and say hi to anyone, as you just never know.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'MFW_23' Before I moved here I rarely felt lonely and I loved my alone time. Since moving here lonely is my default, and it's getting pretty difficult. Hugs to you. Stay warm!
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tcm70
7 years ago
Anything77 Mate the only thing I agreed upon your post was that Everyone makes the world go round. The rest of your comments are either intentionally assuming, or you’re not looking at this in an open way. Seriously what is wrong with people opening up, there’s some pretty raw and honest comments from those who have posted. Show some respect. If you don’t enjoy the topic, don’t engage. Simple.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I respect your right to your opinion, Im just wondering if you feel better for projecting such negativity on a thread where people are letting their guard down and being vulnerable? MFW, what I’m about to write is cliche, but this state will pass. You will find your place on this spinning globe, you will You’ve had a big few months of much change, embrace this time as yours, happening things are just around the corner. Trust me :) x
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RHP User
7 years ago
I've decided that people don't get anything wrong about me. Some people have and I'm sure some people will in future but there is no consistent thing that all or most people get wrong about me. There were a few ideas that came up as I pondered but when I really considered them with self-honesty I decided that they are things I mislead myself about and that people are actually right. I hope this non-answer is still relevant OP, I wanted to share because I had put some thought into it.
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
more gym time ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'MFW_23' Before I moved here I rarely felt lonely and I loved my alone time. Since moving here lonely is my default, and it's getting pretty difficult. You still have us MFW, I enjoy your posts :)
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RHP User
7 years ago
People think I'm confident and outgoing but I'm really pretty introverted. Sometimes i get very overwhelmed by social contact. I think it's amazing that i either fool people or they can't read me at all. Like xena i have an outgoing partner who supports me in both being more outgoing and supporting me when i need a little space from others - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Self-esteem...confidence...is everything. I truly believe that. It's like some holy grail of a realisation that I stumbled over in the real world, around 10 years ago...and it took root in my psyche. I'm sure I'm not the only one, of course. That acceptance, that understanding...that I don't need to be handsome, wealthy, smart, young, talented, endowed-with-a-big-dick, in a relationship or a million other things.It's been the biggest influence on me the last decade, for sure.
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Hottie1
7 years ago
I’m not going to be as polite as other posters ... seriously, people open up on forum and you decide to belittle. You don’t have to agree but YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO BELITTLE AND DEPRECATE WHAT PEOPLE ARE FEELING. You’ll definitely get people read your profile with that ridiculous post above only to repulse them with your loathing of so many things. You’re such brightness and light lol 😂
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RHP User
7 years ago
People always seem so surprised to find out that: I'm really smart Have multiple degrees Am passionate and vocal about social issues Have travelled the world and Australia on my own....and truly roughed it. Apparently when you look like me, those things don't go. - Posted from rhpmobile
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tcm70
7 years ago
I have a very dear friend, who is like a sister to me in how I see it. Never ever kissed her other than hug n kisses hello. She is big breasted and draws a lot of attention from that, so if I happen to be hanging out with her and get chatting to people, more often than not we are instantly assumed to be together, and on top of that, the first question asked of me after saying that we are only friends is if I’m gay. I mean wtf. I’m sure that would offend the LBGQT as much as it offends me. That question has come from both male and females over the years so it’s not a gender specific based asssumption. But it is so common an occurance that we are both well prepared for the quips when we get them and give each other a loving hug and laugh. Sad but.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'tcm70' Anything77 Mate the only thing I agreed upon your post was that Everyone makes the world go round. The rest of your comments are either intentionally assuming, or you’re not looking at this in an open way. Seriously what is wrong with people opening up, there’s some pretty raw and honest comments from those who have posted. Show some respect. If you don’t enjoy the topic, don’t engage. Simple. Thanks so much for responding to Anything77's post.I read his comments and thought what? what?I simply couldn't believe what I was reading and couldn't put into words a suitable (polite) response at that moment.I feel sorry for the gentleman that his life seems so sad he has now become terribly disgruntled. I have now come back a couple of hours later and found a few forumites have responded but I think tcm70 has accurately summarised what many of us are thinking....I feel you have said what I wanted to say.
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sweet_cherry69
7 years ago
I’m hearing ya both. Thank you for your honesty and opening up. Great topic BOB. Sometimes I feel closer and can relate so much more with my fwb then I can with vanilla family and friends... CheeRs R 🍒😎💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
tbh i read your post and will not be engaging you,as you seem nothing more than an insipid little troll looking for attention , to the others sorry for his needless sense of nothingness , continue in as if he never existed ,and put him back in his box of worthlessness mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
don’t worry when i was younger i had lots of friends who were all women and a lot of times were my hot looking besties , those that didn’t know assumed one of them was a girlsfriend and never approached in hindsight yup prolly looked that way with all these girls forming a wagon train around me and not sharing ,giving me hugs and kisses ,(no toungue)but then i never got anywhere with any of them cos i couldn’t work out how to turn friends into fuck buddys (still have that problem to some degree now swinging) took a year to convert mrs b,lol,anyway as a result of that cos i didn’t screw any of them and didn’t go home with randoms that i didn’t like ,for what ever reason ,stuff me dead ,years later, i find out everyone thought i was bloody gay ,lol, ,gawd should have said stuff it and screwed them all that would have shown em ,lord knows i wanted to but always got myself put in the friend zone ,no more mr nice guy ,i want to screw all you girls 😂😂😂😂😂 ok then we can be friends,lmao mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
i have not asked for anything’s post to be deleted ,as i want it left up to help everyone realise what sort of person he is and not do him a favour and get rid of the evidence of his personality - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
feeling for you ,and i’m tipping you coming off a nasty cold isn’t helping,you have made some big life changes,and your nice round smooth sided circle is feeling like a shitty flat sided hexagon pushing in on you , those sides will puff back out and be a better happier stronger circle ⭕️ change is tough at the best of times and takes time ,in the meanwhile you have people here ,talk to us ,your doing better than you think mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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BungCpl
7 years ago
I’m far from introverted online, but social gatherings are another story altogether
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RHP User
7 years ago
Narrow mindedness... people just throwing around assumptions.. I often get called a player by people who know nothing about me. One thing I never do is feed people a load of shit. I just don’t see the point. Who in their right mind would want to spend time and energy doing such thing. I’d much rather just be straight up and say what I’m after and just save everyone a lot of time and possible misunderstanding. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
People see me as that Corporate suit.... they don’t see the sexual deviant - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'MFW_23' Mr b - gym can certainly help with coping but it can't solve all the problems. Of which there are many at the moment. My mental and physical health is suffering and I'm beginning to think that I made a mistake in moving when I did. Hi MFW_23,I know our comments from afar may not help you much at the moment but from having read your posts over the journey, I also know you're strong and will bounce back.I too thought I'd made a mistake after my last house move as I ended up in an area where I knew very few people. Two weeks later I was crying every night thinking well, I've made my bed I have to lie in it.Things I found that helped keep me going were: Work. I had changed jobs at roughly the same time as moving house so learning new skills and meeting new colleagues was exciting. Alone time at home once I'd unpacked and settled in however was much harder so - Joining a Gym. This was a godsend for not only keeping fit and occupying my spare time but I also met some wonderful male PTs who became and still remain good, helpful friends. Walking. Soon got to know the area like the back of my hand by walking around the streets, preferably on sunny days when others are out walking their dogs or doing their gardening and you all smile and say hi as you walk past. It's a nice feeling. Visiting different cafes every day. Didn't stick to one café/restaurant or the other for coffee/food. I tried somewhere different just about every day in the beginning. My face soon became known by many shopkeepers so they then stop and have a chat when you visit. That really helped with settling in to the new area. I still have my moments when I wish I still lived closer to family members and lifelong friends however I do love where I live. It's a lovely area and it's safe which can't be said for all parts of Melbourne unfortunately......but that's another topic entirely. Hugs....V.
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RHP User
7 years ago
You’re right....pretty people do get the attention.... It’s just a pity that such an decently looking guy could have a profile and attitude that’s not nearly as pretty as it could be.... But with a little work, it COULD.... Choice is yours... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Obviously I don't know the ins and outs of what's happening in your life but I do know that you've had a big year with dad and moving, new job. Lots of mega change My advice is at the moment do nothing. Give it 6 months like till Xmas and then reassess.Iknow its easy for me to write but I've been there, I so have, moving somewhere strange yet exciting, knowing no one and in my case not even being able to speak the language and the first few months there were tears and blabbing and sooking and wanting to go home, but someone said to me, give it 6 months, things will change, they have a way of sorting things out and they were right Give it to Xmas and see what the next few months bring. You're doing all the right things, it will change, it will, I promise. Remember you've actually endured worse. Remember ? And we are all here for you, you are much loved here x
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
with pipsqeak ,could not have said it better ,❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️when things go shitty we always question ourselves for the worse ,things always even up ,hang in there ,it will all come good ,but nothing ever comes good from going backwards ,eyes foward ,move on forward ,one foot at a time - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’m not normal lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I play hard to get, when in reality i play hard to want
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Xena2750' This drives me nuts... I’m not too fit for anyone and can on any given day point out a half dozen things wrong with my body... And just because we like fitness doesn’t mean people we talk to have to be into fitness.. - Posted from rhpmobile Beat yourselves up too muchI don't know why, but you always highlight or look for your faults. Instead of thinking, or telling yourselves that you are the best you that there is. Its kinda saddening. Ok.......you have redhair, no ones perfect. But i'm certain that there are a lot of woman outhere that would die for your physic........AND guys
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
you know you best and only you knows all the info to be dealt with , just do the best you can with what you have got ,maybe it could be like quitting smoking. a few backward steps followed by a few more forward ones wish i could message you to chat but as guests we can’t do it ,sorry 😕 - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
she is amazing. for a women half her age. ,but try and pay her a compliment and bang it’s t’s battered away with a perceived flaw comment ,it used to drive me crazy and i always say most women would whack you into the next universe to have what you have , every one wants a little of something else ,i suppose. it just depends on if it’s a glass half full or glass half empty day ,i just want hair or loose the crap around the outside and i’d be happy , ,lol mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I am told I am extroverted. Except my mum she says I have more front than Myers. I force my self underneath I am quite shy and fear rejection. Although I do like to be looked at. Hence I wear bright red stocking with my mini and 6inch stilettos 🤪 Is that mixed signals?
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
mixed signals pffft what ever ,sounds normal to me ,just another showpony who hates attention , or a rabbit who sticks it head up wanting to see the world them ducks back down when the world worries it , - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I scare the fuck out of anyone new who starts working for us. I am a strong independent woman and really good at my job. I have patience when explaining things to new colleagues but not much patience for obtuse (not so bright) individuals. I’m actually a big softy who cries for not much reason but that could be menopause lol. Often people think I’m a hardarse but that’s just the typical cancer shell presented to the world to protect myself 💋💋
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RHP User
7 years ago
That I'm a frigid, stuck up bitch with no kinkiness whatsoever. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
We constantly are asked if we want gangbangs or 3somes.. nope, just want a gf for hubby - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Workmates that don’t know me at all and after several years don’t realize that I’m a very caring and sensitive person. I dislike ignorance - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Assuming I’m just a gym going meat head 😂👌 I feed off it now. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Assuming I’m just a gym going meat head 😂👌 I feed off it now. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hi, I have explained some of this before, the issue some have with myself is they are not sure what I am its are you male or female... if I say I,m both what happens then because those of use who are intersexed it creates a disbelieve of are you real , okay so what are you.....female born just not a complete female in all aspects and then if people are interested I tell them and I don't speak for others , I,m a female born with out my womb so could not have ...MY... OWN.... Chilld or children and being a female that is the worst put down ever, okay. with out my womb I did not have my normal sexual organs I do have my vagina clit and labias and urethra so pretty much is it of cause can not have sexual intercourse in front ,yet I do get on heat or aroused if you like and lasts for 3 days, so no guy I get frustrated and climb the wall.. so whats left ..... anal ….. does it work to some extent yes, and I,m very sensitive around my back and yes is a area that is my sexual place . okay. If a guy wonts to be with me longer than 5 min,s he will need to know I,m slow in warming up and even half way say an hour of play time I,m just as likely to stop and make a cupper, then come back 15 min,s later and carry on where I left, could a guy take that, most likely not so I would tell him about myself in detail as other wise nothing will work, I,m one out of every 7000 female with a detail like this so quess not a lot is said about this subject of cause theres much more .any way,s……. ...noeleena...
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
you are a very special person ,and from the posts i have read that you have posted ,i doubt many would get it wrong that you are a very open and genuine caring person ,who many would be lucky to call a friend mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
As a Network marketing professional in the health & wellness industry, some people assume I'm only doing it to "make money from them" but it's not true at all, my passion is to help people achieve their goals and change their lives. The money is just a bonus. Pretty sure you can't do what i do unless you're passionate. It's amazing how people would prefer to pay inflated prices and give their hard earnd to a complete stranger rather than to a friend or family member. Anyhow, i digress.... People also often presume i'm really outgoing & confident and i used to be (prior to children - why does that happen?) but not now, i'm actually extremely self conscious.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I have loved reading all these responses and seeing that it isn't just me. As for what others assume about me, I have absolutely no idea??? They never tell me hahaha But, like many on here, I am very shy and not at all confident in my looks, so in a social setting or date I potentially come across as stuck up or stand offish. In my vanilla life I cover my shyness with being loud and inappropriate humour so lord only knows what those think of me hahaha I admit I was very interested to read the posts by those that are particularly fit, I admit I am guilty of forming the assumptions that someone who has a fit and toned physique would not be interested in someone squishy like me.... which causes me no end of problems, as I am particularly attracted to those types!!! :s Thank you all for being brave and sharing your innermost thoughts with the rest of us :) Mrs E xx
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
give it a go , yes some are up themselves and not worth the time of day but a lot aren’t ,and actually like some cushion for pushing , who wants someone who thinks they are awesome and you do everything for me ,offft no thanks give me a bit out of shape with a amazing attitude and go get em style anyday,over miss universe , i honestly find it’s deffinately the none physy are judgy of themselves and those in good shape more than the other way around ,yes there’s prolly a line in the sand for most people of what’s too far left of center ,but hey that goes for anything and anyone not just gym junkies ,hair ,age skin condition ,,but it may be further than you think ,a pretty face and attitude can always make up for quite a but in my view and also. the old their partner is so hot in great shape ,why would he want me ,cos your you ,your different so everything is different and a new feeling ,there’s a big difference between a super firm toned ass and one that isn’t ,they are both way different say if rooting from behind and both awesome for there own reasons god i feel like aunt dorothy now ,,lmao - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
/ a bitch I’m not. I’m just on a learning curve. Having been so closed off from people for so long it’s hard for me to interact and I sometimes skip back into old habits and put the walls up and think everyone is against me. I think I did it this weekend 😟 I’m faulted and flawed but human and learning. Trust me I’m harder on myself when I stuff up than anyone I’m talking to can be. - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
don’t be so hard on yourself ,yes you do seem to be your harshest critic , obviously on a steep learning curve for what. ever reason from wherever ,,it’s ok ,just slow down breath ,rome wasn’t built in a day , at least you are trying and learning , demons are a hard one to exersize and rid yourself of mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
All good... was just a moment of truthfulness to myself!! Now I need to get off the forums and go to sleep! 😴 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
ms alex that is a bit harsh, probaly by men who think you owe them sex because they can joind a web site
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RHP User
7 years ago
Why would you think that about yourself?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
People are shallow and that's life. Oh he has a bigger dick than mine or she's got a better body than mine. The list goes on lol. To the point... best thing to do is just get over it and stop thinking about what others think about you. Take it or leave it...simple 🙄
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yes you heard correctly people think that because I'm colourblind that I'm an idiot. Well if having a measured IQ of 152 makes me an idiot I'll take it :). They don't realise that it's because being colourblind has made me intellectual. How I hear everyone ask? Let me give you an example: When you see a flower you don't need to think "what colour is that?" Because you've been taught that certain wavelengths of light create certain colours, it becomes instinctual that you need not think about it. Well in my case I do have to think about it, not for long maybe 1/2 second but in that time my mind process has to think " would that be green, brown or red?" I then go through a process of probability "how often would that flower be green? Would it be Brown? Not many brown or green flowers so elimination would suggest red". This causes brain synapses to work faster which in turn increases cognitive function therefore higher intelligence. Of course I'm not always correct but 9/10 times I am. Simple really. But my pet peeves is when people hear I am colourblind that start saying " what colour is this?" or "what colour is that?" Like I'm a "special needs" person, I can assure you that is far from the truth :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
This is my 2nd time on here and the first time I met 2 people. Great times all round. Hmmm I think people don't realise I shoot straight when I say I shoot straight.... hear so much about dishonesty misleading etc - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Just because I'm caring and sensitive, doesn't mean I'm not tough. The body shaming stuff is interesting to read about. Hubby and I enjoy fitness and fit bodies, but there's nothing sexier than a curvy woman. I've gotten plump in the past (not that hubby minds), and I've hated my body at those times, but can look at voluptuous women in awe. So we really are harder on ourselves than anyone else. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Red_liquorice “Hubby and I enjoy fitness and fit bodies, but there's nothing sexier than a curvy woman. I've gotten plump in the past (not that hubby minds), and I've hated my body at those times, but can look at voluptuous women in awe. So we really are harder on ourselves than anyone else.” Such truth to these words.. I bought a new pair of jeans and thought I’ll send a pic of me in the new jeans (topless 😈) to my partner but looking at myself I just wasn’t happy with what I saw. Yet I look at other women and see stunning divine curvy sexual creatures but struggle a lot of the time (not all) to see myself like this..: - Posted from rhpmobile
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