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why?
December 22 2016
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
Because single males are in oversupply on RHP and females / couples get inundated with flirts & messages , many of which are disrespectful, vulgar & lewd. These quickly put one off. It is far easier, and wiser, ignore the message and not reply, than to face a barrage of anger and frustration, by the rejected recipient. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Suggest they may be interested to know more about you and once you send the message they are no longer interested. As Dynamic Couple said above, if they reply with a no thanks, sometimes they receive much more negative feedback from the guy, rather than a "thanks for letting me know" message back from the guy. Others may feel it easier to not respond rather than to potentially offend you when having to advise of the reason they are no longer interested. So maybe it's your messages you send, or maybe it's all the other guys on here not helping your cause?
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RHP User
9 years ago
You need a thick skin, and to not expect anything when you send a message. Then if you get a response, it's a nice surprise!
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't know that the "males in oversupply" applies since he says they've responded requesting further contact (unless after sending the flirts to him they filled their dance card before he could get back to them) Might just be the messages you're sending... are these flirts asking for contact, ones that you get the week before your membership is due to renew? it's surely a coincidence ;)
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RHP User
9 years ago
first i think 5 messages a day is enough how many do you need? Second, iv been in a long relationship and just recently became single again. When together we were looking for single straight guys and say you sent a flirt and i read your profile, i think you beg for sex and thats a big turn-off. I wouldve never replied plus couples really get lot of flirts from single men. Third, maybe you aiming too high or ppl you like looking something different. PS you dont even have a public photo. Hope my thoughts help. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
If you ignore someone, what is it you're trying to tell them?? That you're an ignorant cunt, or that you wish not to engage?? No replies are as good as someone turning away from you when you speak to them face to face..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Maybe your profile inspired them.... .... but your message sunk the ship faster than the Titanic. Only you can answer that - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Stirry is bang on the money, it's equal to zero interest. Most women don't do blind dates btw 😉
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
If we are worthy enough to want to get to know, we are worthy of one of your precious messages......Or not.
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MissBishere
9 years ago
I don't have anything constructive to add. I just want to point out that people are fickle and complex. Maybe they were interested and have since changed their mind. Maybe your message was off putting. Maybe it was a robot response. Sooo many maybes. Maybe your message got lost in the 60 she received that day...
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RHP User
9 years ago
You're not flirting/messaging a real profile?? Lemme guess....1 pic, nothing much written about themselves, or they're looking for a god fearing man, and they're pic is making your dick hard?? Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Fake profiles? Or maybe just too many for the other party? Yes agree with @MissBe4 - too many maybes. I don't bother replying if I'm not interested and it's in my profile so they can't blame me or be left wondering. I don't like playing mind games. This is just me and not by any means a representative of the population, but could give you some insight...? Ok, I have 40 pages of ~10 flirts since profile inception (app). 1. I look at messages and view profiles and decide if I want to reply 2. I go to who's viewed me. Then if they have no photo like I say on my profile - I don't bother. If they look good and they are a man (sometimes I check out couples, not that I look for 3somes - they are better spontaneous at a party for me), I don't even discriminate by age or location too much - then I reply, with something real, whether it's just thank you, message me or I like your profile too or yes yes yes oh god YES! Hahahaha 3. Flirts are like templates so I read about 5% and maybe reply to 2%. When I get the message I follow through. Some messages I just delete cos I don't want to spend time and lead people on. With one particular couple I thought about meeting them an hour away to go on their boat but then deep down I'm not into pleasuring couples. Even when they kept asking, I only have "seeking Man" on there. 3somes aren't a particular fantasy that I need to satisfy. Have done MFM and MMF. They were fun at the time but they were spontaneous. I'm ok to never do it again in my lifetime but if it happens at a party that's fine too. So that's my human filter. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
So many guys have asked for advice/suggestions on their profile. Work on your profile standing out before you send someone several flirts which are never read. Do you see the problem? Understand the other side of the story. Each individual is different and I don't wish to be lumped into the general female population, even though I look and am female and have some female traits. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissRedFox
9 years ago
Women not upgrading to send a message - well would you pay for something that works reasonably well for free? And as for women not responding to your message after sending a flirt asking you to- maybe consider the content of your message. Messages really have to stand out amongst the many that are recieved. I often come across profiles that seem really appealing but once I start messaging sometimes the messages don't live up to the impression of the profile. My best advice is that - the first message really counts - make her feel like she's worth the effort of a good one XX - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Perhaps those guys that failed at messaging that had a good profile, were of those had their profile written for them, or have been reading the profile advice here in the fora?? Funny how it catches up with them eh?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have over 100 unopened flirts, sometimes I just don't have time and then they build up. But I never say 'send a msg' unless I'm interested in talking. I do send back a lot of the not my type, but still get a msg saying why not? Which I then feel rude if I don't answer, when I didn't really want to engage in the first place. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
If you say you don't want a message and they send one then they're being rude, not you. Don't feel rude by not replying to those idiots!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Given the subject title of this thread....I have some more questions for you... Why... Why do you feel it's expected they reply?? And.... Where does one stop expecting?? You get a reply that's a no, will you expect a reasoning as to why ?? Like one of the other posters have mentioned... If you get a reply will you then expect them to change their mind about you or give you a go and see?? If they give you a go and then it's still not what they want, will you then expect a second chance?? Of course you don't NEED to answer these questions as they're mostly rhetorical... The point is that it's better to know early through no reply and not expect anything than to do your head in over essentially someone you've never met...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
We have a winner!! Summer, that is so common. After a while, you dont even look at the flirts because they just never are "exactly what Im looking for" because I didnt look for them in the first place.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_in_Sydney' Considering you sent me the "You're exactly what I'm looking for, please message me" flirt, when you don't meet my criteria one iota and you're not even in the same state, I can't take you seriously here. Flirts and messages from guys who won't respect our preferences are why some of us get over it and stop replying, and I think you ruin it for other men. I goes both ways. You've sent me a couple of flirts but don't match my seeking criteria either. You should start reading profiles and taking notice of what they say, not just look at the pretty pictures.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Quoting 'Summer_in_Sydney' Considering you sent me the "You're exactly what I'm looking for, please message me" flirt, when you don't meet my criteria one iota and you're not even in the same state, I can't take you seriously here. Flirts and messages from guys who won't respect our preferences are why some of us get over it and stop replying, and I think you ruin it for other men.You've sent me a couple of flirts but don't match my seeking criteria either. You should start reading profiles and taking notice of what they say, not just look at the pretty pictures. oh, I think you guys misunderstood - we're not disrespecting your profiles, just informing you of a potential opportunity that you may avail yourselves of should you choose, we're just trying to help... This is like people not saying thanks when you hold the door open Sending flirts to the really pretty pictures is a compliment, maybe we just thought we could have a drink some time later, smile, don't blush baby ;)
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