M66
Married and attached
April 24 2017
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Your quite happy not to name call a woman names, but quite proud to call men dicks. I find that odd, quite judging, as it makes you appear jealous cause you want to know their secrets. I can see why you've been here 12mths and not got anything. Good luck. Ms Foxy
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NudesRus
9 years ago
I think you may have read it wrong. And he could have worded it better. I read it as "it's your dick, do what you like with it". I could be wrong. It's happened before. Mr Nude 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think most married men of your vintage shave of about 10 years from their age. Being in your 40's may make you more appealing. I will get a lot of flack for this but I am sure that there is a large majority of people who do it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I feel, you've miss understood me. Ok, I take your point on name calling. That was a Figure of speech used. I've got that wrong May I ask you. Do you feel it's wrong for a Guy to say that about women. What would you think of him I'm not jealous, more envious
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' I think most married men of your vintage shave of about 10 years from their age. Being in your 40's may make you more appealing. Guilty as charged I will get a lot of flack for this but I am sure that there is a large majority of people who do it. Not from me you won't.Just recently I joined another site and shaved six years off my age, only to find that the lady I contacted is a member here too.I am one of those rare creatures who is honest on the net, which by the way OP does not necessarily make you popular here. I have been given a hard time on the forums for being married and looking here. As far I'm concerned the only people whose business it is are my wife, my lady friends and myself.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' I think most married men of your vintage shave of about 10 years from their age. Being in your 40's may make you more appealing. I will get a lot of flack for this but I am sure that there is a large majority of people who do it. Whether they get away with it is another thing. I probably wouldn't believe that the OP is in his 40s (sorry OP, not having a go at your appearance but fact is some people look closer to their actual age than others). I don't think just putting a younger age would help much if at all, there's plenty of attached guys in their 40s and younger who don't have any luck either.
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RHP User
9 years ago
You're one of those rare creatures who is honest, yet you lied by shaving 6 years off your age?? We must have a different understanding of honest. Sorry but that is deceiving women and it shits me to tears 👎
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RHP User
9 years ago
That was a bit off topic but my advice to all people, men and women, lying about their age, get your shit together and correct it, you spoil the online experience for all the honest people. On topic, op your main picture is black, so dark I can't even see you, so regardless of status or age, I wouldn't even go into your profile, even less chance of me reading a message 😃
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RHP User
9 years ago
...and to add, appearing needy will never do a man in this place any favours. Be normal. My advice..
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't think it's a married man thing, more (playing) as a single man. As it ever comes back to, it's a numbers game. I think if you're a 'true' single you do a bit better, but it's mostly the ever hard (for males) numbers. That and at 56 there's less ladies around that age. The younger the lady, the more chance she's not grown up in an era where women lacked sexual freedom (implied or explicit). I don't see the point of lopping years off though. I could get away with late 30's, but a) I'm a hopeless liar, b) That's due to not comfortable lying and c) I have enough stuff to track in 'the real world' without adding unnecessary lies to the mix. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
So perfectly said. Finding more than just another body for activity is so much harder than it sounds.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I agree with Shells & Soft... If you're looking for more than just casual sex, it's hard work - don't think it matters if you're male or female - finding someone who is close enough geographically, with both of you physically attracted, with that oh so delicious spark, and feeling connected is rare. So very worth it when you do, though
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' That was a bit off topic but my advice to all people, men and women, lying about their age, get your shit together and correct it, you spoil the online experience for all the honest people. On topic, op your main picture is black, so dark I can't even see you, so regardless of status or age, I wouldn't even go into your profile, even less chance of me reading a message 😃 On all counts
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boobsandbusted
9 years ago
We know of couples that do it also ,cos they were worried about invites to party's ,suddenly went from 43 to 39 ,stupid really ,what are they going to do next year ,keep being just under 40 ,pfffft to much like hard work ,lieing or being dishonest takes to much memory space I just don't have it to spare ,what is age anyway ,some 50 year olds in good shape can rock it far harder and better than some punk who's 39 ,Personally I'm closing in on 51 and thanks to a life changing family matter and also rhp ,I have never been in such good shape ,age is just a number ,to a certain point Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm really 39 😉 I lie about my age so I can be a cougar 😄
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RHP User
9 years ago
Then you're just boring 😜 *now let me go hide under the table before a response comes back. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
OP, I understand your question being, as a married man, why are you having no luck. Further to the above answer regarding finding the right people, I wonder if part of it does come down to your profile. Firstly, as ITM2 mentioned, your profile picture is so dark that nothing can really be gauged from it. Secondly, and this is based on my views only, your profile is as a man, not couple, yet you list that you are married. That in itself is fine, as I know many women are happy for their men to indulge, HOWEVER, at no point is there any mention of your wife and her role in all of this. Which, for me, sounds alarm bells. Each to their own, I am not here to judge, but I certainly am not interested in perpetuating infidelity. So when I see a profile like this, it gets an instant no from me. Just my thoughts on why your success rate may be lower than you would like. Additionally, it is worth considering that the ratio of men to women here is quite staggering, and (fair or not) women really have the luxury of being picky. To that end you need to make sure your profile has that extra something that sets you apart from the rest.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Haha no I really am old, are you happy now? 😉 and um is there room under that table for me, or on it 👍 I'm not fussy 😎
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Haha no I really am old, are you happy now? 😉 and um is there room under that table for me, or on it 👍 I'm not fussy 😎 The answer is all of the above or all of the below. Heck, just table, chair and any other piece of furniture. Although lamp shade could be short lived, painful and shocking.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' You're one of those rare creatures who is honest, yet you lied by shaving 6 years off your age?? We must have a different understanding of honest. Sorry but that is deceiving women and it shits me to tears 👎 *passes tissues*I just knew someone would pick up on that, well done, it's ironic that you yourself were untruthful to me.
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RHP User
9 years ago
How so hank? 😏
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RHP User
9 years ago
I see there's been quite a few likes on that post, that get your hackles up did it? 😉 brace yourselves, I can feel another lie coming on 😇 not from me lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks for the feed back I'll try to explain myself My picture is dark, for reasons. I'm not wanting anybody I might know, find out it's me. I have private picture I share. So the person getting a message, can see them. Sometimes I send them with a message. Or in hope, I wait for them to ask for them Besides. One thing that's got me confused on my profile picture. Many, many many profiles are not of a persons face or body. Maybe an eye or tit, or dick. That tells me nothing of an individual Yes I'm married, playing without permission. Yet most the profiles I send messages too, aren't asking themselves, for non attached. When you go to send the message, it tells you
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RHP User
9 years ago
toward men who are on here as singles but in fact married/relationships..BUT, not so much when it is Women in the same boat.. "Ashley Madison" may be the better option for you OP..Certainly less judgemental.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've tried Ashley Maddison. Same same. Yet triple the cost
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RHP User
9 years ago
CandyDelicious, 40's hey... things will be looking up for me in two months then - woo hoo! 😂 Shells, very nicely said... spot on in my book. As a married man, my two cents... I believe that having a bit in my oh so boring profile about where my wife and I stand as a couple has definitely helped and putting the name of our verified couples profile there I think is the key to that. It shows we are a couple and openly allows anyone who views my profile to view ours if they wish. And being verified it also shows it is not just a fake couples profile. But also as others have said, good pics do wonders too. Spend a bit of time in front of the mirror with the camera and find a good angle to snap. It might take a bit of time and practice, but find it, grab it, post it and own the shit out of it. Last piece of advice, confidence is king. It's sometimes hard to find, especially when you get a number of no responses and even when you thought you found the person who's profile matches yours perfectly, but pick up your shit and go looking for the next one. Think of it like tying knots, if you can't do it, do lots of it. Sooner or later it will hold when you have the right combination. No pun intended about tying the knot.... so think of it like welding then - same approach as knots.
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RHP User
9 years ago
You have clarified that you are marrried and playing without your wife's knowledge and you're an older gentleman ... the odds are stacked against you. From a personal perspective, I too am married and when I was playing more regularly I did find it hard to connect with people and I had a number of things in my favor. I played with permission and could meet at a drop of a hat, I'm a woman (lol) a MILF and Hotwife too .... These 'cat glories' obviously put me (and any other woman in the same position) second to the beautiful single ladies :) We're a sought after commodity :) Now, you may be an incredible person, but what is it that you're offering? I suspect given that you are playing without permission you'll be far more time poor and constrained and meet ups will be far more clandestine. It's not something I'd be after, I'd suspect many other women would feel the same :( it might explain your lack of 'success'. Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Categories not cat glories lol...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Cat glories. That had me scratching my head 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's not so much that you're doing anything wrong, it's that a man of your age and your circumstances is just not an appealing proposition for most women (and couples) in the RHP world. That may sound harsh but I think sometimes it's better to be upfront about these things. I doubt you would find many, if any men in your circumstances who are having much better luck, if they are then they are most likely younger and have the athletic body that like it or not is a drawcard for some of the women on here who place importance on that sort of thing. You can change your profile and all of that, but when it comes down to it you can't change the things that are your biggest barriers on here.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' toward men who are on here as singles but in fact married/relationships..BUT, not so much when it is Women in the same boat.. That's probably because the OP is a man, and this isn't a general topic about people who are cheating.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' How so hank? 😏 I answered but it got moderated...*Mystified*
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RHP User
9 years ago
Wasn't me so must have been pretty disgusting for someone else to remove it. Thanks guys/girls, whoever that was, nice one 👍 I don't know you and suggest you use the forum the way it should be used, or leave us to do that, thanks 😃
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RHP User
9 years ago
Preferring the word dishonest, is your choice. Like I said. I prefer not to use the word slut. But that's what some guys would say Please believe. I'm not wanting or trying to be disrespectfully or start a slanging war. Just my observation
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'GloryBe' Preferring the word dishonest, is your choice. Like I said. I prefer not to use the word slut. But that's what some guys would say Please believe. I'm not wanting or trying to be disrespectfully or start a slanging war. Just my observation Maybe if Mary called you a cheating arsehole or some other name you'd have more grounds to bring the slut thing up again. Using the descriptive adjective 'dishonest' about someone who is playing behind their partner's back doesn't have anywhere near the same level of judgment and nastiness associated with it as a man calling a woman a slut just because she's had a few partners, so I don't think you can compare the two.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I offered some suggestions as to why you may have been unsuccessful on this site, in cheating on your wife ... let's call it exactly what it is! By your own admission you are not being honest with your wife about being on this site ... the antonym of honest, is dishonest. I don't care to know why you do, I offered some feedback :) Using the word 'slut' is judgemental ... and we all know a woman is a slut because she chooses not to sleep with the guy calling her that. What number of 'fucks' makes a woman a slut? Though you have included a 'disclaimer' of sorts, I fail to see the clear and logical connection of ideas from my post to your response and you referencing the word slut. It is because of this lack of coherence in your 'discussion' that I presume the word slut is a direct value judgement of me and my behavior and I presume you've used posts on the fora to form this opinion, and I don't care. Slut shaming is not ok, end of story. If you don't actively stop those conversations around the guys using those words, you're perpetuating and condoning that behavior. Mary :(
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sometimes posts get removed before they ever appear on the forum. I have had it happen to me in the past. So it's not always because someone reported it. It's pretty frustrating when it happens. On topic. Op I have never had a good experience with a married man I personally couldn't care less if they are cheating it's just the hurdles that have to be overcome to meet. It's just too much hassle.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Firstly I never lie about my age and I especially don't hide that I am Married. I just figure best to tell it how it is. I am on this site discreetly but I don't state that in my profile, maybe I should. For the record my wife is a very good person but we have grown apart and rightly or wrongly joining the site is a choice I have made. I guess it is much about the "need to walk in my shoes" saying. I guess I could lie about my age but that's just not me, I prefer others be up front so that's what I do. Age isn't important to me, I judge you on you. Me well it may sound dumb but I am very lucky as everyone tells me I don't look anywhere near my age. That's no ego trip for me but it is nice to hear. Thing is Its more about how I feel to me and I do feel good and don't feel or think about my age. I am fit and healthy and not over weight nor super skinny, I will just say proportionate. When I look down I can see my feet!!!! Male or female we all love great sex and I guess we all think we are great at it. Thing is its is all about mutual terms and it feeling right. For me intelligent and two way conversation are really important. I am one that has the view that stimulating the mind stirs the groin.... So to speak. I guess we can all be anything in a mere profile and if you never meet up then that's ok I guess. But if you do meet up with someone then who you are is who the other person is going to see, so best just be yourself from the start.... In my view of course. We all have fantasies, I don't dream about younger women as I find my interest in my own age group or there about. But fair to say being a male, typical as we are in some ways the MFF experience is appealing, just seems impossible to find. Even the MUM option would be good to try at least but for a married guy it seems it is almost impossible to find willing couples to consider that. Maybe it's age maybe it's the married thing. Guess overall that is just life. Well of course my comments may get savaged here but by good fortune we don't all think alike, and me, well I am just me with a heart of gold and a sexual desire and passion that cannot be met at home so here I am. Sex is awsome and exploring sexually with someone who gets it is the best thing, should always put a smile on ur face. Have a great day all, remember that life is far too short so live for today, tomorrow is a whole new story. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Personally I think these sites will never provide the Great Outcome for everyone. When you have a ratio of 100 or 1000 to 1 for men vs women/couples on most common dating/hookup sites (including here) guys have little or no chance unless you're in the top 1 percent. I honestly dont think women fare much better as we always get continually hit on by men who are crude, rude and vile in their approach. There are heaps of other ways to meet people - places like this are just one avenue.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't see the point in lying, liars will eventually get caught out. I'm proud to say I'm male aged 36. At the end of the day it's just a number. If someone has a connection with you than age shouldn't really matter. My opinion only. 😀 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
With previous comments about how hard it is to find a great connection at any age or location. Each person will read your profile with their own take on social norms combined with their own attitudes and values. Having read your profile from a woman's perspective, I'd say it's a bit blunt and needs to be rewritten with a bit more content. Yes, you are clear that it's sex (and lots of it) that you're looking for, but this combined with you being attached, isn't really going to appeal to the greater audience of women on RHP. Sorry, I know you're really looking for a mans opinion but since it's women you're looking for, I figured a woman's opinion wouldn't be without value. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
..many women saying "no thanks" to married guys for; 1. Moral grounds (i.e cheating) 2. Availability reasons & hassle. (have to sneak around and hard to organise) 3. Potential problems. (getting caught and crazy wife) Largely. And the rest don't seem to mind. For what it's worth.
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GezWouldGo
9 years ago
For a bloke that clearly asked for advice from other attached or married guys you're drawing a helluva lot of heat from the other side!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Buddy, to be brutally honest, if you are on the site as a single man (marital status of no real relevance) have some great and interesting photos, have full paid membership, take great care of yourself, fight in your weight class. I cant speak for others but if Mrs Hotcouple98 wants someone to screw, it will be a younger guy who is hot, attractive, has stamina, looks after himself, etc. If the guy is in his 40s he would have to be exceptional. She has Mr Hotcouple98! She doesnt enjoy dropping her standards! You may well be all that but you dont come across that way. We are in this for the fantasy, not to run around screwing anything in sight. We are picky in choosing who to play with and are fine with people being picky about us. So in essence, you or anyone would have to offer us (and we offer the other couple) something we dont have. You asked.....we answered. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm curious what brings you here if you are married. Have you always been a cheater? Is your wife lazy in bed? There has to be a reason behind it. I'm not here to judge. I too am married and will share my story later. Don't judge me people till I have my say. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
His target audience for his profile are women and he's asking why he hasn't been successful. On this basis alone we're in the best position to offer advice. The slang term 'guys' generically refers to people, regardless of their gender. IMO, anyone can respond lol Constructive feedback is just that, the OP asked for advice, he got it. It isn't all rainbows and unicorns, it's honest and forthright. Mary
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RHP User
9 years ago
Personally I don't think it's anyone's business what anyone does in ones life, all I no is that as being a true single guy I can't even meet one female on this site, so I say good luck to the married guys, one has to think it's easier for a majority of woman on here to hook up with a married guy knowing he is emotionally unavailable.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Iv read alot that the woman on here get vile crude abusive messages from the real deadbeats on here, but us nice polite respectful guys are on here to, just seems the opposite sex go for the wrong guys.. Maybe some woman should look past the gym junkie six pack jocks and realise us normal heathy guys are worthy too - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I would disagree with you there Chris. Ok, I'm not a woman, but there seems to be plenty of them here looking for FWB or even more than that, where emotions would need to be completely available. On the other hand I do agree with you in that everyone here is on their own journey and for their own reasons and we should not judge them for it publicly. OP, I haven't read your profile, but I would recommend getting some clear pictures up. Further I would recommend stating that you are looking for a FWB or whoever it is you are looking for without your partner's consent. If possible say why that is the case and if not then say you would discuss the scenario with any interested applicants. There are other ladies on here in the same boat as you so maybe even go looking for them and say that in your profile as well? Don't punch above your weight. Get a paid profile. Be honest and open. Be very, very patient. Sell yourself well, your profile is your advertisement. Learn from your mistakes. Good luck.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Sensual_chris' Personally I don't think it's anyone's business what anyone does in ones life, all I no is that as being a true single guy I can't even meet one female on this site, so I say good luck to the married guys, one has to think it's easier for a majority of woman on here to hook up with a married guy knowing he is emotionally unavailable.. - Posted from rhpmobile There are a couple of things I take issue with in this comment, but just to address your first statement; once you bring others into your situation then it most certainly does become their business because should things go pear shaped it can affect them as well. That's just one reason why many women prefer to not become involved with partnered men playing behind their partner's back...I know the last thing I want is an an angry woman flooding my inbox and calling me a homewrecking whore (may not happen that way but it's an example that has happened many times before). The OP hasn't actually received much judgement of his situation on this thread (at least compared to previous threads I've seen). He has been told why he isn't an attractive proposition, and those are just facts. For some reason when this topic comes up, women can't even point out reasons why they're not interested in guys who are cheating without being accused of being judgemental. Like we're expected to tiptoe around the obvious. As Mary said, people ask and they get answers, no they're probably not going to like all of those answers but surely it's pretty obvious that a cheating situation isn't exactly straightforward and will be a turnoff for a number of reasons. I'm not sure why anyone would be surprised at that, and to be honest I would say someone in that situation (man or woman) should probably be prepared to take a bit of heat.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think you have at best about 3-5 seconds to sell yourself with the odds stacked against you (you as in you, me, us), 1000:1 ratio and all that. It's a ladies market .... it's like browsing an online car yard with a "money's no object" mindset, you got a myriad of exotics from Bugatti to Farrari to Porsche and so on and so forth and on the lower end you have the usual suspects all lined up....shunning the usual suspects, admiring the exotics you notice stashed aloofly over in the corner is a 1967 Mustang Shelby GT500.........aged but exuding confidence, class, still looking streamlined and rocking a devil may care attitude!! - be a 1967 Mustang Shelby GT!!!!!! Best of Luck!!!!! 👍👍👍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Everybody's Making It Big But Me Dr Hook
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Robo355
9 years ago
I have had maybe half a dozen success as you put it. In the last twelve months. The problem is your profile. If you want to have a beard trim it at least. Put a shirt on. What have you got to offer other than sex? Good conversation, drinks and dinner. Country walks. Your profile says nothing. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think it is your age, sorry. When I first started going on these sites I looked for a guy around my own age...50, soon realised they were old men lol slowly been trying younger and younger 😎 as for women being called names, I haven't, but have been treated like a slut for being married and on these sites...my hubby knows and loves it, he also knows that I am trying (without any luck) to find a woman to have a threesome with one of my lovers and I, something I said I would never do when he wanted me to lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
In honesty we are open to it all, because we are completely open with no bullshit hang ups. Have got to say that aside from maybe two people on this post we wouldn't be interested in the majority because the underlying presupposition is judgment and ridicule.......a singularly un-attractive trait thats says volumes about the tasty or not so tasty consumables from an interaction sexual or otherwise. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's humorous that people come here and judge others on their morals. I mean....really?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Very well said mate! Would definitely buy you a beer.. At the end of the day we are all here for fun. Be open and honest with who you are fucking and if they don't like it then they can move on. Some people actually get turned on fucking an attached person. It's a kink for them just like bondage, anal, choking etc.. They cum harder fucking a married person. I think the real reason a lot of the single women on here have a problem with fucking an attached person is because they have probably been cheated on by someone and deep down they have a severe hatred now for those that do it. It's funny how they will happily fuck a married guy in a couple at a swingers club. All i will say is look after your body, treat women with respect and don't bullshit them on your age or your relationship status and be careful. Some chicks are fucking mental on here! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
As a couple who are looking for another guy to join us. We have both said we don't want attached/married cause we don't want the issues it may arise of the female finding out and causing issues with us even if she knows about it she may not be ok with him joining a couple.. and we both don't condone playing behind the others backs as it is cheating and wrong.. and both have the same view if one or other is not happy then leave as its not fair to cheat as it causes heartache that can be avoided.. dor this reason a lot of females will not go after a married man especially if the partner/wife doesnt know.. yet also weary when they say the partner/wife knows as some will say they are open relationship when rejected so they can get what they want.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_C_E_M_A_N' I think the real reason a lot of the single women on here have a problem with fucking an attached person is because they have probably been cheated on by someone and deep down they have a severe hatred now for those that do it. Iceman here has provided us with a good example of another reason many single women stay away from attached men. They get all bitter and shitty that nobody wants to fuck them and start with the woman bashing, blaming women for all their problems. I see it all the time on the forums and in profiles. Who wants to go near someone like that, let alone fuck them?
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RHP User
9 years ago
The above comment referred to some attached men, not all.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Do I hate people who cheat? Gods no, life's too short and what you do is your business as long as you don't involve me.People have different reasons for stepping out on their spouses, I agree it doesn't necessarily make them bad. I don't hate people who cheat, I don't judge them in any moral sense, but I have a number of other reasons for not wanting to be involved with them (lack of availability, unable to go out in public, potential to be abused / stalked should partner find out being just some of those reasons). I've also never been cheated on (not that I'm aware of anyway). I was actually the one who cheated in a couple of my relationships. So it would be pretty hypocritical of me to judge others for it.
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IamMrSilly
9 years ago
You have not updated your profile, as others have said your profile is unattractive and it communicates to everyone else that you are not going to put in effort. Your picture is unattractive because it is black and gloomy, no picture would be better. Find one that is attractive but does not reveal who you are. Your profile text is brief and disjointed, again like you have not put in any effort. And then there is the ultimate 'lots of sex' ... really? Redo your profile, and see how you go. There are so many beautiful people on here looking for the right person they click with, but they will pass on you with your current profile. Good luck in your search. PS: I hope the free advertising helped. :) It would be great to hear from you about what you will change. or to see you update your profile based on what has been said.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sorry to be so blunt in my description of some of the people (obviously mostly women that I communicate with). I am not into mind games. Here's what happened to me: I started chatting to a woman on here who is a single mother and nurse. I advised her upfront that i was attached and if she had a problem with this then i was happy if she walked away right now. She continued contacting me and she assured me she wouldn't have any contact with my partner. I met this woman for lunch and during the meeting alarm bells were ringing in my head but she assured me she was stable and of sound mind (lol) so anyway a few days later she is contacting my wife via facebook and sending her screenshots of conversations etc. So i find out that this woman had been a victim of domestic violence and had 4 kids to 3 fathers. She continued to mind fuck me and message my partner. So yes.. I am happy to say some women on here are very fkn mental. On the contrary i have met some lovely people too and i have to say you are very well spoken and i respect your posts. Cheers - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Your profile pic is dark, women like to see a pic. You need to sell yourself at your age, even a guy in his 40's needs to be outstanding...not necessarily in looks but personality....needs to stand out from the rest. You say you don't want to be recognised by someone you know..but if they are on here then it is to find there own fun, not to catch you out. Better pic....interesting profile...what do you have to lose - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes, there are definitely some scary people online in general. It's always a risk revealing so much of yourself online and then meeting in person.
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itsjustsex13
9 years ago
Maybe a little more effort into having more than one grainy profile picture up. The fact that you are open to the ages of 18 to 99 reads as desperate and the phrase lots of sex just tops it off. Have a read through a lot of guys your age profiles and get some ideas on how to inprove yours. The profiles with validations are obviously working so make some notes on these . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_C_E_M_A_N' I think the real reason a lot of the single women on here have a problem with fucking an attached person is because they have probably been cheated on by someone and deep down they have a severe hatred now for those that do it. It's funny how they will happily fuck a married guy in a couple at a swingers club. All i will say is look after your body, treat women with respect and don't bullshit them on your age or your relationship status and be careful. Some chicks are fucking mental on here! - Posted from rhpmobile Nah, I fuck married guys who are in open relationships where the wife knows - it doesn't bother me,. I know plenty of others who do too,- think again iceman and maybe point the blame the other way , not toward the 'fucking mental ' women as you so eloquently put it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_C_E_M_A_N' so anyway a few days later she is contacting my wife via facebook and sending her screenshots of conversations etc. So i find out that this woman had been a victim of domestic violence and had 4 kids to 3 fathers. She continued to mind fuck me and message my partner. So yes.. I am happy to say some women on here are very fkn mental. On the contrary i have met some lovely people too and i have to say you are very well spoken and i respect your posts. Cheers - Posted from rhpmobile See though the thing is , if your wife knows that you are open the contact wouldn't be a huge issue. I know a guy who is open , he prefers not to involve his wife and vice versa but from time to time its happened and they've brushed it off as its not a huge deal as they know they are open and occasionally someone may want confirmation of that . I don't see how her having 4 kids to 3 dads has any bearing on her mental state and if she's been though DV and escaped she's probably strong as hell , not mentally unstable like you are implying.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Knows but doesn't want to know.
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RHP User
9 years ago
"I'm really 39 😉 I lie about my age so I can be a cougar 😄" hahaha. .you go girl. .love your sense of humor - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
😂😂😂 I wish 😏
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RHP User
9 years ago
I_C_E_M_A_N Yes their are some unstable people on the site and not just the women :) OP like a lot of women on here I get approached a lot from married me and couples and everyone has their reasons for accepting or not accepting and yes some hide their faces (like me) or faces and bodies. Mostly its a work choice so as not to be recognized. You can do the same with a bit of practice. Not to be rude hon, but I wouldn't look at your profile as it stands now x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Mate I'd suggest having a good look at other people profiles and taking some lessons on structure from that. But first and foremost, I'd get a decent pic of yourself. Your profile pic is bloody terrible. Sorry. Not meaning to sound nasty about it. Just my opinion. It's dark and hard to distinguish who you are. It feels like you're hiding something. I peruse other guys profiles with my wife and other playmates and yours wouldn't get opened if that picture is your opening statement. It's been said above about you not mentioning your partners involvement. If she knows then state that. " my wife and I still love each other, however we are no longer intimate. I have her approval to seek out other playmates". Or words to that effect. I don't know how active you are on this site. How many messages you send out every day, but if you're not active you won't succeed. It's my experience, that women don't always just want to fuck. Maybe it's just me, but I like to form close relationships with my partners. I talk to all of them either daily to 3/4 times a week depending on how busy I am. I schedule my playtime in with my work and social life. In other words I have a plan and I constantly work on it. I've been in Melbourne for 4 months and have been on at least 20 dates. I've not had sex with all of those women, that would be ridiculous. In fact I have been intimate with four lovely ladies, of which I have an ongoing polyamorous relationship with two of them. I still keep in contact with four other women and continue to have dinner and or coffee with them regularly. No sex involved. The other ladies I have dated mutually agreed to leave it at a single coffee date. I am a member of several sites along with this one. In every case I conduct myself in a gentlemanly manner and treat every person I meet with the utmost respect, whilst showing a real interest in their desires, wishes and boundaries. Along with their day to day lives. Mate that's my advice. It's worth every cent you've paid for it. If anyone else has an issue or has negative comments about what I've written you're entitled to your opinion. I'd just rather not hear it. Cheers and good luck in your search. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Great thread, and a couple of quick points from me.I have lied about my age and I think that's pretty normal on here for everyone, it's our acting age that's important - both physically and mentally.I've been on a few other sites but glad i found RHP.I'm married and never tried to hide it.Which meant I didn't get a lot of dates, but the ones I did I enjoyed and so did they.What started as curious and looking for intimacy missing at home, led to new confidence.My wife did work it out, she is a smart woman - they all are!But what could have been a disaster for family has actually been healing.It was what our relationship needed.The honesty so many of us can say online feels good to actually talk about it with your partner.And she is hornier than ever.Seem to have flicked a switch and I'm hoping to be back on here as a couple one day soon.:)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Seven months on RHP and no meetings at all. Not just a matter of partnership status, age is a big factor I think, we are always attracted to younger ones. Realistically though if is just sexual meets we seek then you do need a match for interests in that areadespite afe differences one way or the other. Liberation of the feminine gender and the freedom for them to be open about their sexual feelings and desires does not equate to equal numbers. Males outnumber them by a disproportionate amount on a site like this. So the odds are against us. Still I find RHP very interesting to check on regularly. It might just be a fantasy but I intend to stay a member. I get a real buzz out of a flirty experience. You notice an attractive lady, they see you looking, small back and walk on. That sort of simple exchange is just wonderful.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am who i say i am......im 45.....i am single....i live where i say i live.... I just dont have time for the games. It is a numbers game & men / woman tick very differently.....i think alot of people here just enjoy the attention in a voyeuristic sort of way. I do what i say im doing & do not pull out once committed......unfortunately again....others do....the key is too take it with a grain of salt ! "The world would be a great place if it didnt have people in it" 😂...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've just turned 50 and am so happy with my age, my body, my wrinkles and all my wiggly jiggly bits. On my profile I've written a very honest account of who I am and what I'm hoping to find and I am happy with that. My pix display my body in all its voluptuous glory 😃 and I even have a few suggestively sexy ones there too. No little white lies, no deception, this is me......and I would hope everyone else does the same. How can anybody find what they're looking for if they can't come out and be honest?? If we're not then we're all just shop mannequins - posing and looking good but with no substance underneath. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Amen to that 👍
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think the problem is its too hard to hook up with a married/attached man. My recent experience is failure to launch or your just too quick which is not much fun for a lady. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi all , I haven't had much luck either and I've put up face shots , body shots , private shots , haven't lied about my age said I was married in an open relationship so there was no cheating factor .. And still NO luck ,I've been on here for about 3 months , no flirts or likes and no one really replies to your flirts or massages . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've been a member on and off for a while now. I've not found anyone who is interested in taking the step with me. I guess I could try harder myself but coming from a town there are only so many opportunities. Will say I've had some fun chats with people though. Hopeful that I can live a few fantasies out at some point though. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tool1983
9 years ago
I find this topic interesting. I have always strayed even though in I have a very happy home life :) my goal has always been to find one or several regular playmates, call them side chicks if you will, preferably married themselves with the same mindset. OVer many years flings have come and go for whatever reasons. Whats the secret? i am SURE there has to be ladies seeking what i am near where I live! How do I find them!! The search continues.....
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Tool1983
9 years ago
I might add that a few times over the years more tham one of the women ive been with say that married men fuck the best hehehe
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Tool1983
9 years ago
I dont believe all partnered men have that attitude, I have quite a nice sex life at home ;) Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Quoting 'I_C_E_M_A_N' I think the real reason a lot of the single women on here have a problem with fucking an attached person is because they have probably been cheated on by someone and deep down they have a severe hatred now for those that do it. Iceman here has provided us with a good example of another reason many single women stay away from attached men. They get all bitter and shitty that nobody wants to fuck them and start with the woman bashing, blaming women for all their problems. I see it all the time on the forums and in profiles. Who wants to go near someone like that, let alone fuck them?
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Tool1983
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_C_E_M_A_N' Very well said mate! Would definitely buy you a beer.. At the end of the day we are all here for fun. Be open and honest with who you are fucking and if they don't like it then they can move on. Some people actually get turned on fucking an attached person. It's a kink for them just like bondage, anal, choking etc.. They cum harder fucking a married person. I think the real reason a lot of the single women on here have a problem with fucking an attached person is because they have probably been cheated on by someone and deep down they have a severe hatred now for those that do it. It's funny how they will happily fuck a married guy in a couple at a swingers club. All i will say is look after your body, treat women with respect and don't bullshit them on your age or your relationship status and be careful. Some chicks are fucking mental on here! - Posted from rhpmobile Spot on!
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RHP User
9 years ago
It would be nice if you clearly state you're married in your profile, saves lots of women the hassle of finding out you're married later on. Now in my books, you are lying on your profile! I'm married and was looking for a single bloke, not because I was cheated on because truth be told I don't trust many women and I didn't want another woman telling me when I can and can't see my lover or friend. I have played with married men, who have amazing women as wives, I'm lucky to have found them. I've also played with a guy who told me as I walked into a hotel room that he was partnered. The fucktard blamed me for not asking if he was married BUT his profile clearly stated he was single, the onus was on him to tell me. His daughter then hacked his KIK account and it was all on! All because that fucker wasn't honest enough to say ... he wanted it all at any cost. I DONT CARE WHY PEOPLE CHEAT but on your profile make it clear you are married, partnered, whatever your status is. In my opinion people don't put it on their profile so they can be hit up first, draw people in and if they can get away with the lie, they will sadly. Mary xx
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
I can't fathom why people "always stray" - to quote Tool1983. Why bother having a stable of fucks when you have a stable relationship? If you are open about it, and in an open/poly relationship I understand, and have no issue. But why always play around behind your significant other's back? Is it the thrill of it...the thrill of being able to secretly label your significant other as an idiot for not twigging, the variety, the delight in living a secret life? I truly do not understand. Why make a long term monogamous commitment to one person (whether it be marriage or LTR), then deliberately, consistently and with relish, chase others without your partner knowing?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yeah short term I can understand while they sort their shit out, have time to consider the fallout and future for all concerned, but long term, pretty pissweak really isn't it? I've been fairly outspoken about not judging and I did mean that, but I've changed my view somewhat, particularly how entitled many of them feel on here and how they treat women in general. Even children aren't a good enough excuse to stay together, kids are very perceptive, they notice more than you think they do, and to keep them in a broken environment isn't ultimately good for them either. I do think best to make the tough call to sever the relationship and move forward with life in an honest and positive way, the key thing though is not to drag the kids into it, keep it respectful and always ALWAYS put them first 😃 Life doesn't have to be the dead end road portrayed by the unhappily married. There are other options, not easy ones, tough choices granted but life goes on 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
can go for hours, some men are a lot younger and can't go 10mins, I love sex - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Judge all books by their cover. Well I don't For those who Bae asked On the pictures, I 99% of the time, send my private gallery On the user name. It's my, third change On my profile read. I've changed it over a dozen times
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RHP User
9 years ago
there are plenty of fish... and there have been many posts from ladies offering their own perspective too. To draw further on the fishing analogy, guys might consider a contribution from a popular Australian sports fishing website (on fishing for Carp): "I answer this question, not so much for the person who wrote it all that time ago but more for the lad googling the answer... In my experience fishing for carp i have used... all sorts of slimy and often smelly stuff... No finesse in my methods and i am not to proud to admit that i have been snapped off in the snags by some monsters more than once!... Hope this helps. New fish" So really you've got to ask yourself what kind of fish you want to catch, and then select appropriate bait, tackle, and other gear, check the weather, the tides etc etc etc. It's not a five minute job. If you don't put effort into your preparation, it won't matter what species of fish, or where you try to wet your line!
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RHP User
9 years ago
You're welcome to all the Carp you can catch - I don't want 'em - I won't fish for 'em!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Yeah short term I can understand while they sort their shit out, have time to consider the fallout and future for all concerned, but long term, pretty pissweak really isn't it? I've been fairly outspoken about not judging and I did mean that, but I've changed my view somewhat, particularly how entitled many of them feel on here and how they treat women in general. Even children aren't a good enough excuse to stay together, kids are very perceptive, they notice more than you think they do, and to keep them in a broken environment isn't ultimately good for them either. I do think best to make the tough call to sever the relationship and move forward with life in an honest and positive way, the key thing though is not to drag the kids into it, keep it respectful and always ALWAYS put them first 😃 Life doesn't have to be the dead end road portrayed by the unhappily married. There are other options, not easy ones, tough choices granted but life goes on 😉 My sentiments exactly.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am married and say that on my profile, I don't have any luck but that is OK I respect the needs of others and so forth. I do find it disappointing though that people are so judgmental of others when they are single, life is complex and is not just about the partner it also involves children, etc. Even when it comes to the partner the effects on the partner in terms of quality life, etc could be extremely devastating. Every relationship has its own twists and even though in some aspects such as gay marriage, etc their is more understanding and empathy in many other ways society has become far more polarised and judgmental. To me everything has a shade of grey nothing is just black and white it has complexity and requires intelligent thought and consideration.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Betty7216' I agree with Shells & Soft... If you're looking for more than just casual sex, it's hard work - don't think it matters if you're male or female - finding someone who is close enough geographically, with both of you physically attracted, with that oh so delicious spark, and feeling connected is rare. So very worth it when you do, though So true
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi all, new and looking - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Very very very well said Thank you.
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islandkinks
9 years ago
Im married in open relationship and seeking naughty times, I dont see anything wrong with it
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Plain280
9 years ago
And find the old favorite subjects turn up, its your profile, change it or are you not capable of change. Both issues do not attract a person of the opposite sex, as in COMPROMISE life is full of it, I find the intellectual discussion leads to other things but first you must show that you are not a neanderthal and are prepared for the pursuit. Or maybe watching to many fiction films ie porn is clouding your thought process. Oh age be honest for a start and the other thing the odds, Heavily stacked against us about being successful. Now I shall bugger off for another 3 years or so!!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
but not married, and never will be. I have not got anywhere at all on this site (Im not on any other site). Though to be honest I havent tried real hard, seems that my options are severely limited with being a guest. But at present Im ok with this. Im in no rush and am happy to just look around.I had thought that by now I would have been asked to share my private pics, or at least the odd chat here and there.At present I believe that my major hurdle is being a guest, I dont really know how much the partnered thing affects me. However, I do believe in being open and honest. All my pictures, my entire profile is made as honestly as I can. If I found someone that was not honest on their profile I wouldnt be happy about it, and I completely understand others who do not like this.
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