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Reasons Why You Are Single
April 19 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
Freedom of choice, can see who I want, no restrictions. no one asking where Ive been and who with, no one to answer to? But...I do miss some things e.g., waking up in the morning with a warm body against mine. Sleepovers are hard when you still have kids at home. I love going out with guys and enjoy their company, but the restraints of a serious relationship are still something I dont want in my life right now. FWB suits me just fine xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
My dick is too big and I'm afraid it might kill someone :p Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Stirry' My dick is too big and I'm afraid it might kill someone :p Lol - Posted from rhpmobile I am sure that does not mean you are a big dick ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
With daughter..That was my focus..I had a very responsible job,that took up the rest of my time. There was no Internet and few opportunities for meeting someone in real life. I doubt that I will meet anyone now,perhaps when I am in the nursing home some sexy old beast will fling me over his zimmer 👿 Seriously though,I have enjoyed my single independent life,I doubt it would have been the same if I was half of a couple 😎Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes he is. Lol. Im single because I dont like people. Or they dont like me. Either way. It works for me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Deep_Purple' Yes he is. Lol. Im single because I dont like people. Or they dont like me. Either way. It works for me. Lol well a fave quote of mine is.......... “Do you hate people?” “I don't hate them...I just feel better when they're not around.” ― Charles Bukowski, Barfly
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RHP User
10 years ago
...the closet space.
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I'm single and have been for 8 years, because I choose to be. I actually really like me, my own time, my own space and I struggle to spend excessive amounts of time with one person, before I start wanting to run away. I'm fiercely independent, I like to do who and what I want when I want to do it, without explanations. So I guess after being single for so long, I've become quite selfish and I'm ok with that, because I was selfless for over have my life, being a mother, a wife, a partner, now it's my turn to enjoy what I want, without feeling guilty. 💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
because I have never yet met a person, male or female who will allow me to be me in my entirety ...Ok.. so.. maybe I cannot accept them in theirs either... but.. I don't try to be in their lives..I will die a lonely old man in a ditch somewhere.. with my dick in my hand... AND -- I am happy with that...Well.... I MIGHT get beaten to death.. or shot by an angry husband or boyfriend....OR.. I may just fall off a damned cliff face on the side of a mountain I am trying to climb... OR out of a tree.... BUT.. in ANY of these cases.. I will STILL die single...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've been single for three years now, and before I hooked up with the ex (12 years) I was single for six years. Yes, I'm picky and all that, but the fact is I like my own space. As others have said, I do miss snuggling up against someone on a cool night, and daily physical contact with someone, even just a kiss or holding hands, but...... I can get up on weekends whenever the hell I want. And then I can play golf if I want, or go to the pub with my friends if I want. Or just stay home and watch footy naked if I want. And the longer I stay single, the higher my expectations seem to be in relation to any potential partner. Right now the standard appears to be either a 25 year old supermodel millionaire widow, or my smoking hot 32 year old single mum who lives right next door, who is a fantastic chick but has an on and off relationship with an utter fuckstick. Anyway - much like Cavey I reckon I'll just be my nieces' and nephews's favourite uncle. I'm too old to join the French Foreign Legion anyway. Oh - and must be either blonde or a redhead. I've only ever fallen for brunettes before and been smashed by them every time!!!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
...I'm not actively searching for a Partner. It's not that I specifically choose to be...I've been single most of my life, I know the lifestyle and I'm quite experienced with the pro's and cons of it...if anything, sharing my life and my time is the novelty to explore.I haven't explored partnerships enough to say that they're better than singledom, but so far, when they've been good, they've been fantastic. But when they seem to inevitably end...they hurt. I think of that saying, "The candle that burns twice as bright, burns half as long"....but now I think of how to fuel that candle for longer.Single for me has been fine...but it's been the norm. Trying new things...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Single_Guy4U' Quoting 'Stirry' My dick is too big and I'm afraid it might kill someone :p Lol - Posted from rhpmobile I am sure that does not mean you are a big dick ? he can't be. If he has a big dick AND is considerate, re the caution about killing someone, then he can't be a big dick himself see, simple logic
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Twisted_Mister' I've been single for three years now, and before I hooked up with the ex (12 years) I was single for six years. Yes, I'm picky and all that, but the fact is I like my own space. As others have said, I do miss snuggling up against someone on a cool night, and daily physical contact with someone, even just a kiss or holding hands, but...... I can get up on weekends whenever the hell I want. And then I can play golf if I want, or go to the pub with my friends if I want. Or just stay home and watch footy naked if I want. And the longer I stay single, the higher my expectations seem to be in relation to any potential partner. Right now the standard appears to be either a 25 year old supermodel millionaire widow, or my smoking hot 32 year old single mum who lives right next door, who is a fantastic chick but has an on and off relationship with an utter fuckstick. Anyway - much like Cavey I reckon I'll just be my nieces' and nephews's favourite uncle. I'm too old to join the French Foreign Legion anyway. Oh - and must be either blonde or a redhead. I've only ever fallen for brunettes before and been smashed by them every time!!!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile blondes are much more fun. Just running for cover now
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am single as I work long hours have lots of family and friends that take up my time Never had children and most guys my age have kids and that turns me off sorry but that's why I'm single - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
What Lovinit28 said.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'MidnightCruisin' ...the closet space. Hahaha! That's a good one! Women are certainly dominators and conquerors when it comes to closet space! :P I'm attempting to revamp my apartment and have a more Zen / Nordic minimalist kinda look and feel. But that's like trying to squeeze an elephant into a mouse hole! LOL!!! Oh, the futility of it all! :P
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RHP User
10 years ago
I currently don't have the time or mental space to have a full on relationship. I need time, and some capacity for some other 'stuff' at the moment, and can't have that headiness of a new relationship Also, I happy with my lot at the moment. Single'dom, with the occasional lusty dalliance is currently the most suitable arrangement. I've been single for so long, I think I might have forgotten how to have a real relationship. I don't like sleeping with people. I think I'm more suitable to relationship structure that might not be what the majority seek, so that reduces the pool. I'd rather be single, than settle for something that isn't quite right.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Your last sentence nailed it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
And I haven't been a day since I turned 16. I would like to have experienced all the pros and cons of single life. But I won't throw away my marriage for it just yet 😉 I think that if the hubby and I didn't work out - I would stay single though. Sharing a life with someone is bloody hard work! The only time I would ever have another committed relationship again (non-monogamous of course) is if we could have separate residences lol! A couple in Recliffe Qld did this many years ago. They were wealthy and had duplexes next to each other. He had his set up and decorated the way he wanted and vice versa. And if we had a bigger house I'd have a bedroom all to myself.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think I really enjoy being single because I have always cherished and relished my freedom and independance. Even when I was a wee little kid in kindy, I loved having time to myself. Coming from a culture that's very cohesive socially and where people can be overbearingly clingy and attached, I had very real struggles with the contradictions between my natural inclinations and societal expectations. Hell, I even crossed oceans to put decent distance between my mum and myself because she was cramping my style and encroaching on my independance. Ssshhh... don't tell her that! :P Now, I'm single because I haven't met a man who will accept and appreciate a Together Apart relationship. Too many will abuse the freedom that is allowed in such a relationship to cheat and go astray so one really has to find a faithful, loyal and trustworthy man for this kind of relationship to work. I always like my man to outwit, outsmart, outlast, etc etc me. Supremacy! Power! Dominance! Yes! Bring it on - all that turns me on! I have a strong personality and unless I perceive the man to have more superlatives than me, I can't get interested. And then, there's that delicate balance of finding the right mix - a man who loves his independance and freedom way too much can be cold, aloof and never around when needed and on the other extreme is a man who just never disappears, is in your face all the time (argh!), and is very clingy and insecure. Too little and one feels neglected and deprived; too much and one almost goes ballistic and stifled. :P I do miss the intimacy of a relationship. Physical and emotional intimacy. I noticed that whenever I have a man in my life, I go to bed feeling very safe and don't worry about intruders. Singlehood also becomes less attractive when I have to deal with spiders all alone. And whenever I struggle to open a jar / fix plumbing issues / change the light bulbs / assemble furniture all by myself, I feel a little wistful... if only I had a man who would deal with these instead. But then again, I have single-handedly survived a burst pipe that flooded the apartment, a water tap that came off in my hands in the shower (!!!), a leaky water closet, a centipede that crawled out of the drain hole in the shower as I was showering (!!!), etc. These incidents, especially those of the creepy-crawly kind, sometimes unsettle me so much that after dealing with the problem, I end up shivering in a corner as I recover from the adrenaline rush. My first Huntsman encounter had me emptying half a bottle of insecticide on the poor bugger and then later, I realised that I had been whimpering and crying and had been standing for goodness knows how many minutes in a state of shock with my gaze transfixed on a very dead Huntsman that I thought might resurrect itself and bite me! :P OK, back to relationships. I really hate the push-pull scenario in relationships. One person always ends up wanting more than the other person. It's very uncomfortable and without good communication, it's hair-tearingly frustrating to deal with. I simultaneously hate being ignored and cast aside, but I also hate being obsessed over and stifled. :P This is a dilemma that afflicts most of us although we all have different markers on the same scale. So for now, I choose to be single. A solid friendship is very important to me, and a man who cannot be a good friend will not a good boyfriend / husband make. I'd rather take it slow and easy and really get to know a man first before getting in too deep. When one's raging libido is being taken care of (hehehe!), it gives one amazing crystal-clear clarity to view things objectively and ensure that one doesn't end up investing in a relationship that's doomed to failure. I've been taken for granted too many times and abhor the "too little too late" scenario where inevitably, the man realises that all those years when I said to him that I am upset about something, I really meant it. By the time they come running to try to fix the issue, it's really too late because the puppet strings had just been slashed and nothing exists to hold up the puppet anymore - the point of no return. If I can't find a stallion who can keep pace with me and be passionate about life, then this mare runs alone.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SoftandCurious' And I haven't been a day since I turned 16. I would like to have experienced all the pros and cons of single life. But I won't throw away my marriage for it just yet 😉 I think that if the hubby and I didn't work out - I would stay single though. Sharing a life with someone is bloody hard work! The only time I would ever have another committed relationship again (non-monogamous of course) is if we could have separate residences lol! A couple in Recliffe Qld did this many years ago. They were wealthy and had duplexes next to each other. He had his set up and decorated the way he wanted and vice versa. And if we had a bigger house I'd have a bedroom all to myself. Hey, soft! ;) What you have just described is a form of the Together Apart relationship! I think by a certain age, we would have established solid lives, social circles and a sole identity and sometimes, as in the case of divorces, children and ex's. It's a bit unrealistic to expect that everything will "fall into place" or "fit in" when one meets a new love. Sometimes, it's best not to force a total amalgamation but instead, be together for the sheer love of each other, but keep things separate. I dream of a Together Apart relationship where we either each have our own pads or failing that, within the same house, he shall have his man cave and I shall have my fox(y) den. :D I will even strike a deal with da man : if I have to enter his man cave for housekeeping whilst he's in there, in order not to violate his privacy and encroach on his space, I shall dress up as a French maid with boobies spilling out and an exposed G-stringed derriere to sweeten the "invasion". And if he has to enter my fox den for whatever reason, admission is via a strict dress code : bare-chested with boxers / clothes are optional, with an offering of a drink / flower and be prepared to be ravaged and ... nevermind... it's getting too hot in here!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am single by choice. Before now I had hardly been single for more than a few months in my entire adult life but I kept choosing the same partners in different wrapping paper every time - so have been single nearly two years trying to sort myself out and figure out what I do and don't want. Other reasons include - I don't have time for a relationship, Its nice to not NEED anyone other than yourself , its easier being alone. I like the freedom, I like not answering to anyone, and most of all I love having an entire bed to myself :D
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'PepperRose' I don't like sleeping with people. I thought i was the only one! people look at me like i'm insane when I say my ex and i did not share a bed - I hate it!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm a fussy eater. 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
You pretty much summed up most of my reasons as well.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm single because nobody can match up to my mum. lol And what story said (He's a giant cock) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
To be fair to ur ex, wasn't he a 6"7 giant?? I heard it was the other way round, u kept stealing the sheets 😜 *fineprint states actual events above may or may not b true based on whatever is convenient...IMO - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
What's in your closet? Quoting 'PurePeony' ...that's like trying to squeeze an elephant into a mouse hole! The things you'd expect like a few suits, ties, shirts...and of course the silk ropes, blindfolds, and non-paraffin candles. Now then, young lady...let's get together and further discuss this bit about sliding an elephant into a mouse hole? I'm sure that with some proper lubricant and patience, the elephant will fit quite... nicely!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm independent, enjoy that I can do what I want, when I want. I don't particularly like sleeping with others.... I like the whole bed. 😝 I like 'me' - I love my friends and I'm very social but equally happy spending time on my own. I don't feel I need a partner to better my life. I'll never say never to a full on relationship but it's not likely. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'MidnightCruisin' What's in your closet? Quoting 'PurePeony' ...that's like trying to squeeze an elephant into a mouse hole! The things you'd expect like a few suits, ties, shirts...and of course the silk ropes, blindfolds, and non-paraffin candles. Now then, young lady...let's get together and further discuss this bit about sliding an elephant into a mouse hole? I'm sure that with some proper lubricant and patience, the elephant will fit quite... nicely! Hahaha! You notti devil! Here's one for you! ;) Corsets are tight Chemises are loose 'Tis not one size fits all Tube of lube solves 'em all!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am so cow-jumps-over-the-moon happy that I'm not the only one who prefers to sleep alone! I love spooning, cuddling, good morning sex and all that, but it does take a while to get used to having someone else sleeping in the same bed. I need to keep my wits about me at work and fight off energy depletion and not having a good night's sleep complicates matters. :P It doesn't help that I'm a light sleeper. I'll share my bed with a special man if the next day is not a workday. Otherwise, a good night's sleep is serious business!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' I'm single because nobody can match up to my mum. lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'soretongue' To be fair to ur ex, wasn't he a 6"7 giant?? I heard it was the other way round, u kept stealing the sheets 😜 *fineprint states actual events above may or may not b true based on whatever is convenient...IMO - Posted from rhpmobile Well to be fair he could of got his own darn sheets :P
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RHP User
10 years ago
What a funny concept!
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RHP User
10 years ago
... I'm completely upfront about the fact that I don't want to commit :D I like variety, and I'm an introvert who recharges with loads of time in my own space. I wouldn't want to inflict that upon anyone full-time.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' Corsets are tight Chemises are loose 'Tis not one size fits all Tube of lube solves 'em all! Piping in with rude limericks at the exact wrong time is another reason I'm single. Hell, how was I to know that the rest of the family would take offense to one little 'poem' at my ex mother-in-laws funeral? The did ask me to help with the eulogy! Back at ya, hot shot... You're drop over sexy With incredible legs Which belong over my shoulders Please, don't make me... ask politely. Begging is just so not...me!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'bare037' ... I'm completely upfront about the fact that I don't want to commit :D I like variety, and I'm an introvert who recharges with loads of time in my own space. I wouldn't want to inflict that upon anyone full-time. I like variety, I am an introvert- love my own time and space - I don't mind sharing it for a shorter time but sharing it long term is a challenge. I have not found any guy who would have put up with this -and my other flaws.... Plus I am picky in terms of personality - if someone is not engaging me on an intellectual level -and it does not take that much to do that- then I get bored and simply stop paying attention.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am single for the first time since I was 16 and loving it!! I value my freedom and independence. I may one day choose to have a relationship but I'm enjoying myself too much at the moment.
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Seachange73
10 years ago
well said.
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Seachange73
10 years ago
because I am. Current circumstances dictate this is the best situation for me at this point in time. After a long marriage where I felt trapped, I finally found my step and wanted to explore more about life without the limitations set by the conventions of marriage, or being married to a very conventional vanilla man. I have had 2 long term relationships after my separation, a couple of marriage offers that I turned down because I knew it was not with the right person. These men were good men but I knew that it was just another relationship trap as I knew that the marriage offers were not for the right reasons, but borne out of their insecurities of fear of being alone, and not of love. I dont know how long I am going to be single or maybe I will be forever be single. Everyday posts interesting challenges.
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RHP User
10 years ago
but I smingle.
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RHP User
10 years ago
im single because I'm a shift worker and have a 10 year old little man that when I'm not working I'm lucky enough to always have him,so doesn't leave much time to go out and form something meaningful,so here I am getting my funk on and enjoying every opportunity that presents itself ,but I'm still looking for an ongoing naughty fun friend😜 anyone interested lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mmmm well in my case: 1) Moving to literally the other side of the world; boyfriend at the time wasn't impressed with long distance relationship and promptly dumped me (even though he was Aussie so could quite easily have come with....)2) too fussy - i seem to attract men not willing to go down on me. Seriously, what's that about? 3) lately, I'm too old LOL LOL.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Because like to have fun don't want any take that away from me .😀 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've tried relationships and I'm really not very good at them. I'm going surfing for a month in the jungle in July. Not sure whether I'd be allowed to do that if I had a GF !!! It's funny how whichever side you're on the grass is always greener on the other side ......... Just remember they have to mow it :)
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sweetgem
10 years ago
That I am still single while I've talked about wanting to be in a settled down relationship 😊 There is only one reason why I currently remain single, and that is to give my parent 100% care, my time and energy! My only remaining parent is ill with a nasty disease and she deserves to be taken care of at home, instead of dying in a nursing home. Hence, if I was in a committed relationship and had my own family, there is no way I would be able to commit to give my parent a better place to reside in the last phase of her life journey! As I continue to climb up the age ladder, and keep having precious people taken away from me by death, etc. I find myself react less and lesser to what other people say and think about me or my life nowadays! I seriously don't give a cent about other people's ignorance and stupidity as what they say or think about me is truly none of my business! 😋 Therefore, if anyone ever wanted to tell me what to do, or how to dress, in order to attract men or increase my chances for finding a man, I would look at them like as if I didn't speak their language and couldn't understand a word they said 😆 Life is too short to give stupidity/moronic people my precious time! 😋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
or is everyone else sick of people saying "I cannot believe you are single." !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm a misanthrope, the more time I spend around anyone the more I will grow to hate them. But for the more short term, I just have no idea how to interact with people, or more specifically, how to go from a conversation with a woman who I find attractive, to the bedroom.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' I'm a fussy eater. Give up that bloody ''vegetarian food' and go for the meat! ℳʗ
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happy0450
10 years ago
I'm answering for my own interest. To see what I will write. It's not a really conscious thought I do like the quote "Love is not looking into each other's eyes, but in the same direction" I think I will be single until a tolerant sensual women with a Zen philosophy who is independent, loves travel and good wine and food and I collide I also like this quote from Kilhal "But let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Fill each other’s cup, but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread, but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'FWP123' or is everyone else sick of people saying "I cannot believe you are single." !!!!!!!!!!!!!! I got "How come such a lovely-smart-sexy woman like you is single???" far too many times... I also got "Oh bless, I am sure the right person is out there" several times but the "icing on the cake" is when I am told "oh you know you can come out now - it is okay"
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SYDnobarbie' Quoting 'FWP123' or is everyone else sick of people saying "I cannot believe you are single." !!!!!!!!!!!!!! I got "How come such a lovely-smart-sexy woman like you is single???" far too many times... I also got "Oh bless, I am sure the right person is out there" several times but the "icing on the cake" is when I am told "oh you know you can come out now - it is okay" I once "came out" temporarily for the duration of a very excruciating wedding where I was placed on a couples table. It was the only way I could stop them going on about what I was missing out on not being part of a couple !
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RHP User
10 years ago
Super Man - singleSpider Man - singleBat Man - singleWonder Woman - single I'm single because I am a Super Hero
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'FWP123' or is everyone else sick of people saying "I cannot believe you are single." !!!!!!!!!!!!!! ...that they tell me to stay single and don't breed! I am a parody unto myself!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have been married for nearly 20 years. My wife and I have been together since our late teens. Since recently, we sleep in different rooms, which we are able to set up as we like. Most of our interests are different, we are both busy with work etc. We have sex every now and then and love our kids. Other than that we love each other but live our own lives with our own friends. We both have sex with other people (separately but very discretely). I wonder if we are closer to single than married. The irony is that even though sex has become routine and predictable in our marriage, we both orgasm more strongly with each other than with other people (and don't have to use protection - a huge advantage). So there are some good things to be said for marriage. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
because i just cant DECIDE haha
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Dorey12
10 years ago
I am single as back in September last year my partner and I separated after being together for 9 years.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am happier when I am single, feels more natural and there is no pressure. I have tried relationships and I don't do them well, I prefer my casual happy go lucky flings. I have no issues with commitment, as I am a dedicated person in other areas of my life but I am fiercely independent and like the fact I can stand on my own two feet, don't feel I have to need someone to be complete. I have no issues with other people in relationships or marriages, as the quote I saw perfectly described my thoughts "I support any kind of marriage, just not me getting married" :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
You were married at 15? Or is that a typo? That you have been married for 20 years?
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RHP User
10 years ago
No my wife and I were in an on and off in a relationship throughout high school. We were married soon after school. We have been together in a relationship or married for 20 odd years. All of them good. We are both 38 yo. I never put my exact age into social networking accounts - too suspicious of privacy/securiity issues. I just make it close enough so its not misleading anyone. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' You were married at 15? Or is that a typo? That you have been married for 20 years? it is either that or sometone has been fiddling with the age-o-meter....
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RHP User
10 years ago
...cause thats the wayaha aha I like itaha aha.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm single....I'm single for many reasons, I don't like busy social events, I feel like a square peg in a round hole and it feels like people are staring constantly. I'm single because I find it incredibly exhausting being around people all of the time. Some days I find talking to people is like doing a chore you just don't want to do, but also find it lonely at times when I'd love to just sit and play a game on the Xbox with someone. I'm single because at times i find people boring as fuck.....and other times i don't feel as though I've given them enough stimulus and laughter. I'm single because when it all boils down to it....I'm scared shitless of being seen to be like every other normal person....vulnerability I find frustrating....frustration at not understanding some things when others find that same topic easy.....I see compliments not so much as fake, but a prelude to something not as positive as they're intended.... Sure I can fuck.....but I choose to not involve other people in my flaws, my anxieties, and insecurities as to me, I'd be holding them back....so I stick to being the best friend that I can be....the rock that sometimes people need, and I draw a huge amount of pleasure from seeing them walk away after a coffee or a movie with a smile on their face..... Ok....enough of this sentimental, emotional shit....show us yer tits :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Quoting 'SYDnobarbie'I got "How come such a lovely-smart-sexy woman like you is single???" far too many times... I also got "Oh bless, I am sure the right person is out there" several times but the "icing on the cake" is when I am told "oh you know you can come out now - it is okay" Have never been told to come out, but the other ones are too familiar! Also: Don't give up hope, I'm sure it will happen for you too. Being single female never married and childless makes me "a closet lesbian" in the mind of some who just cannot comprehend that it is possible for a straight female not to worry about their biological clock...beats me why but hey there you go... oh, I haven't given up hope - I am searching for my match - and enjoying the process of it
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RHP User
10 years ago
My views a little different from others , but I find a lot of people annoying and boring, my previous relationships usually end due to myself being bored and not putting any effort in, to me a relationship works both ways and Ive found Ive had to cater to my girlfriends and I get bored. My views on people are skewed, many lie, have issues and can be annoying. Ive had chances to be in some , but since I'm older I sit back and evaluate whether its worth it, most of the times its not. A few of you are right, you need to feel comfortable and happy, settling or just being in one for company isn't a good idea, also being a bad relationship isn't healthy. I said to my mum the other day Id rather be single than be in a shit relationship.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You said "Not sure whether I'd be allowed to do that if I had a GF !!!" For years I spent my married life feeling that way as most do in traditional relationships. The thing is though we are individuals even when we are partnered with someone. Not being allowed is not a term used here anymore. Because I am my own person. No one owns me or has the right to tell me what I can and can't do. I do have a husband and kids however and will take them into account when making decisions about my life. Like will the kids have an adult around if I do this, is what I'm doing respectful, will it kill me etc. But no one - FB, girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, friend, sister has the right to tell an adult what they can and can't do - particularly when it comes to how they use their body. And any relationship that has that as a foundation is not allowing the person you love/admire/respect to grow. That is where I see a real benefit of being single - because finding a like minded person even in this day and age is still so difficult for most.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm not entirely sure why. The men that i have met haven't been around long and certainly haven't been right for me. Occaisionally i have twinges of "why doesn't someone want to be with me" but I respect myself and my needs too much to accept anything less than I deserve. Gosh, a good cuddle, or a gentle touch is a bit hard to forget about!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Quoting 'SYDnobarbie'I got "How come such a lovely-smart-sexy woman like you is single???" far too many times... I also got "Oh bless, I am sure the right person is out there" several times but the "icing on the cake" is when I am told "oh you know you can come out now - it is okay" Have never been told to come out, but the other ones are too familiar! Also: Don't give up hope, I'm sure it will happen for you too. I laughed at this. You can bet a woman making the 'don't give up.....' comment, has a husband checking out your arse when she's not looking bahahahaha
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RHP User
10 years ago
If I loved someone, truly loved someone, and he loved me, then I would respect them wanting to cherish my body. If I loved someone then I wouldnt want to let anyone else use my body. What Im saying is, your thoughts that no one should tell anyone else what to do with their body is wrong, is your opinion. I cant see myself being in that situation, but there are lots of people quite happy to be with each other and no one else. If I lost respect for my partner, it would be game over. I hear from too many miserable guys whose relationships are just plodding along to justify staying together just for the sake of it. But......if it works and everyone is truly happy then it obviously works for some people?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SoftandCurious' You said "Not sure whether I'd be allowed to do that if I had a GF !!!" For years I spent my married life feeling that way as most do in traditional relationships. The thing is though we are individuals even when we are partnered with someone. Not being allowed is not a term used here anymore. Because I am my own person. No one owns me or has the right to tell me what I can and can't do. I do have a husband and kids however and will take them into account when making decisions about my life. Like will the kids have an adult around if I do this, is what I'm doing respectful, will it kill me etc. But no one - FB, girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, friend, sister has the right to tell an adult what they can and can't do - particularly when it comes to how they use their body. And any relationship that has that as a foundation is not allowing the person you love/admire/respect to grow. That is where I see a real benefit of being single - because finding a like minded person even in this day and age is still so difficult for most. I think this is your best work
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RHP User
10 years ago
I like what your saying. At my age now, there's a lot cliche's thrown around about singledom and relationships from both camps and how great each lifestyle is. I've been single by choice most of my adult life with no children, dependents or pets and I know it's primary attraction is the complete freedom to do whatever I want with what I have.I can see how this might sound intoxicatingly appealing to one who has spent some time in relationships-that-are-not-how-relationships-are-supposed-to-be, but it's just living as one in a proper relationship should be living anyway. Largely.Having had a good run...by choice, at the "free" single lifestyle...these days, I'm honestly more curious about what a "proper relationship" is all about.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'jeffjohnson1985' No my wife and I were in an on and off in a relationship throughout high school. We were married soon after school. We have been together in a relationship or married for 20 odd years. All of them good. We are both 38 yo. I never put my exact age into social networking accounts - too suspicious of privacy/securiity issues. I just make it close enough so its not misleading anyone. - Posted from rhpmobile interesting you don't want to mislead people, re making it close enough, but choose to make yourself younger 38 + 3 takes you over 40, so you deduct 3 years to make yourself 35 Bonus is when you're 40, you'll only be 37
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have thought about this and read all the forum posts and a lot of them ring very true. I have never been one of the women who plan their wedding from the age of 6!! I've never felt the need to be in a relationship. I have never felt that a relationship defines me. However. I have had relationships and enjoyed them while they have lasted. And I believe I may have one again. I enjoy coming home and having someone to chat with, snuggle on the couch after a hard day and share some of the responsibility....But..... I do like my own space, quiet time and not having to answer to anyone. So for me the answer to why I am single is by choice, because I'm not actively seeking one but if one happens I'm fine with that-I wont fight it/disregard it. But if I remain single I'm happy so I'm not going to be worried about it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Two years ago I ended my 18 year relationship (married 12) and began my journey as a single woman for the first time ever! Best choice I've made!! My headaches have gone lol. It's been a bumpy ride but has taught me a lot about myself sexually and about people (there's some really fucked up people around & don't trust anyone!) I'm not wanting a relationship and the FWB gig works really well for me! It does feel odd sometimes (& not very often at all) making the booty call!! But I do miss snuggling and spooning and being woken up with a hard cock pressed against me...ahhhh *sigh*! But when I wake up I've slept sooo well without any snoring and bed hogs lol. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Here's another reason why I'm single - too many marriages that I know of have fallen apart and the aftermath of divorce can be so devastating. When one married couple whom I consider to be in a really stable marriage yet are both now considering divorce, it shook me pretty badly cause I know them both. Nothing is stable and secure anymore and the sooner we learn to deal with that by becoming rock-solid and happy and whole as a single, the better! Also, I'm looking for someone with a healthy attitude towards life, has a good grasp of his emotions, communicates frankly and openly and never stops learning. An awareness of self-development and a good mastery of one's emotions and psyche is so hard to find! It's not about perfection, but about an acknowledgement of needing to address issues and work on them. I recently read something about different attachment styles, which can severely impact relationships. Why bother to be in a relationship if you feel like you cannot do an "All In" and be really passionate about life with that person? It is a huge investment and sacrifice so one has to tread very carefully and with both eyes wide open!
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RHP User
10 years ago
...and I never did like spending money on the in-laws.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SYDnobarbie' Being single female never married and childless makes me "a closet lesbian" in the mind of some who just cannot comprehend that it is possible for a straight female not to worry about their biological clock...beats me why but hey there you go... Likewise, I am: Single, never married Male Childless/childfree & "fixed" (the latter is otherwise a secret) Have one Dog Choose to live in a rural/lower population area (even if it seems I'm in the city most of the time!) I get the "are you sure I'm/he's not gay" thing as well! But having run a childfree social group I know we are far from alone! Personally, I am single not much by choice but more so by circumstance. Women I've dated or met with such intentions over the years have: got back with an ex, moved interstate, moved overseas (twice!), done the "it's not you, it's me" thing, or the "I don't see you that way" thing or the "you're a great guy but...". Of course it wasn't always them, sometimes it was me, and my decision and/or stuff-up/s, mainly due to inexperience. It seems most people here are happy/happier when single. All good of course, I subscribe to the philosophy also that you have to feel complete as an individual. But I do know my happiest experiences and strongest memories were from when I was in a relationship, but as that was only for a few months, perhaps it was never long enough for the "novelty" (or however you might describe it) to wear off. Of course the happy single people generally have some sort of sex/love life (or don't need it), whilst I was all the time prior looking for it, thus was so very happy when I found it :) In any case, now I have some sex/intimacy in my life in a casual sense, and I have learnt a lot more about myself, about others, and about relationships in the process. So now I think I can handle either being single or in a relationship much better in the long run.
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RHP User
10 years ago
My ex cheats too much
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RHP User
10 years ago
..because I tend to want those who want me not. And whilst I'm relationship minded, I'm ok with being single. As others have pointed out, one is complete within themselves, not with the addition of another. Baggage/issues + baggage/issues = double baggage/issues, not an absence thereof. Ok, who's in for a late night ice cream run?
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RHP User
10 years ago
While I've been single I've learnt so much about myself and it's actually a great feeling being single. Don't get me wrong sometimes you do miss the cuddles and the company thou. I've dated ladies and at the beginning it's great then you start finding out the drug problems like meth and oh boi I suggest you run and only look back to see how far you've ran. The last few girls I've seen has had a drug problem and it just destroys everything. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Im into my 4th year of being single. Married for the most part of my life. I gave alot of myself up to be a wife and mother. Now having the time to discover who I truley am is a blessing. If its possible to be in a relationship and not give up too much of myself. Then i would definitely make those considerations. But my ideas on relationships have changed so much, I still have some traditional ideas but also alot of new thoughts. So who knows what the future may bring. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree...Pepper nailed it. "I'd rather be single, than settle for something that isn't quite right." - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
S&C. "Couple in Redcliffe..." I know the place(s). I used to live in Flinders Pde, just around the corner. They are massive mansions with absolute beachfront. $$$$$$ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
PP. The huntsman and others...LMFAO. But it did remind me of something. When I was single, before meeting my wife, I seriously considered going into business as "Dial a SNAG" (yes I was a SNAG back then too). I figured that there would be lots of ladies out there that just needed a handy man. And I planned to dress appropriately for the task at hand. For example... A leaky faucet would warrant a G-string shaped like a plunger. :-P - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Xxticklishxx. LOL. Nice one. :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Nathan6fs "It's funny how whichever side you're on the grass is always greener on the other side ......... Just remember they have to mow it :)" Excellent post. There are Pros and Cons to single and not. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
My last relationship was long and great...even after we split. We were best friends and 95% perfect. The missing 5% was life's pleasures. I wanted to share times of fun and adventure with her but she would say "Go do it without me"...and that included sex. I ended up depressed that I would not get to do things I wanted to do as long as I was with her, so when she left me, I went WOOHOO...I'm free. I get a second chance. So I am staying single until I am satisfied that I really don't want to be single anymore. And then I would only engage in another long term relationship if I really thought that it would be 100%. So what is 100%? I don't know yet...I am still figuring that out. Based on the last relationship: Being best mates, sharing responsibilities and interests, freedom to be yourself... A partner in crime. Re: Monogamy. Again, sharing interests. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Nobody wants me
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RHP User
10 years ago
... because on the occasion when Kate Moss is in town, she comes over and we bonk other into absolute oblivion. That just wouldn't suit if I were attached or married, PS... if you believe that, I have a bridge in Sydney and a Tower in Melbourne for sale. Save us all if not for our dreams.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'norush66' Nobody wants me Sad to read a post like this the day the profile is pulled. Hope you're okay
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RHP User
10 years ago
At not to get involved as I still hurt from a loss.But shrinks would say that if you are saying to yourselfyou choose to be single there are reasons.your selfish.you lack communication skills.your fooling yourself.fear of being hurt and the list goes on. Benefits of being singleeat alonesleep alonewatch a movie on your ownhold hands with yourselftalk to yourselfAgain the list goesFor those who say they like being single get a life dot com.
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RHP User
10 years ago
i remain single until that chemical smell comes along that is the best thing you have ever smelled and you only smell it when you are in her presence. Then im completely fucked !!
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RHP User
10 years ago
midnight - are you telling me that kate is two timing me. And i have pleaded for orgies !!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' He or she needs their licence pulled.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Did you buy their books Chev?
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RHP User
10 years ago
This guy was lonely and so he decided life would be more fun if he had a pet. So he went to the pet store and told the owner that he wanted to buy an unusual pet. After some discussion, he finally bought a centipede, which came in a little white box to use for his house. He took the box back home, found a good location for the box, and decided he would start off by taking his new pet to the bar to have a drink. So he asked the centipede in the box, "Would you like to go to Frank's with me and have a beer?" But there was no answer from his new pet. This bothered him a bit, but he waited a few minutes and then asked him again, "How about going to the bar and having a drink with me?" But again, there was no answer from his new friend and pet. So he waited a few minutes more, thinking about the situation. He decided to ask him one more time; this time putting his face up against the centipede's house and shouting, "Hey, in there! Would you like to go to Frank's place and have a drink with me?" A little voice came out of the box: "I heard you the first time! I'm putting on my F@cking shoes." (Just try not to come across as nagging, overly demanding or needy I guess! It's physically and mentally draining. And no-one likes to be pestered. I'd rather be single if that were the alternative).
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' At not to get involved as I still hurt from a loss.But shrinks would say that if you are saying to yourselfyou choose to be single there are reasons.your selfish.you lack communication skills.your fooling yourself.fear of being hurt and the list goes on. Benefits of being singleeat alonesleep alonewatch a movie on your ownhold hands with yourselftalk to yourselfAgain the list goesFor those who say they like being single get a life dot com. When you talk nonsense you're going to cop flak for it
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm allergic to female supervision.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Usually, everyone who gets a dog calls it 'Rover' or 'Spot' or some such. I called mine 'Sex'. Well, Sex is a very embarrassing name. One day, while taking Sex for a walk, he ran away from me. I spent hours and hours looking for him. A Policeman came along and asked me what I was doing in the alley at 2am. I said I was looking for Sex. My case comes up next week. One day I went to the Town Hall to get a dog licence. The clerk asked what I wanted and I told him, "I want a licence for Sex". He said, "I would like one too". When I said, "This is a dog", he said, "I don't care what she looked like". Then I said, "You don't understand, I've had Sex since I was five years old". He said, "By crikey, you must have been a strong lad". When I decided to get married, I told the Minister that I wanted to have Sex at the wedding, but he told me to try and wait until after the ceremony. I said, "Sex has played a big part in my life and my whole life revolves around Sex". He said he did not want to hear about my personal life and would not marry us in his Church. I told him everyone coming to the wedding would enjoy having Sex there. The next day we were married by a Justice of the Peace. My family is barred from the Church. My wife and I took the dog with us on our honeymoon, and when I checked in at the Motel, I told the manager I wanted a room for myself and my wife, and a special room for Sex. He told me every room in the Motel was for sex. Then I said, "You don't understand. Sex keeps me up at night". He said "Me too!". When my wife ad I separated, we went to Court to fight for custody of the dog. I said, "Your Honour, I had Sex before I was married". He said, "Me too!" When I told him that after I was married, Sex had left me. He said, "Me too!"Well, now I've been thrown in jail, married, divorced, and had more damn trouble because of that dog than I had ever bargained for. Just the other day when I went for my first session with the Psychiatrist, he asked me "What seems to be the problem?" I replied, "Well, Sex has died and left my life. It's like losing a best friend, and it's lonely". The Doctor looked at me and said, "Mister, you and I both know that sex isn't man's best friend, so get yourself a dog". Anon/Unk.
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