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Strangers in your home...
January 24 2018
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's such a stupid risk to take for both parties. Who is to say that there is a sexy girl waiting for a guy and not a bunch of guys up for a gang rape. Nah if you can't be bothered meeting and chatting a bit, just move on, I'm not putting myself at risk. Even when I think I know someone a little bit, first time at their place I always ask for the address first and let them know it will be given to my daughter or friend. That way police know where to start looking if I don't make it home 😲
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RHP User
8 years ago
No fricken way would I do that!! I always to go their place. 🤣 I’ve offered people a place to stay at my place before, just on knowing them on an online forum. Men and women. But, I guess that’s a bit different to doing that based on one message.
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RHP User
8 years ago
To let someone in like that. LC.
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Sawadee
8 years ago
I always encourage a lady to meet over a coffee first up.. I figure if I can see and chat with them before anything , we both have the opportunity to find out if it's worthwhile or not.. If I'm not attracted , and vice versa ? No point... If we click '. Happy days..
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RHP User
8 years ago
Say can I come over? I am happy to travel to yours and I'll tell them that my kids are here and they've said that we can meet in my garden. WTF!!!. Also one asked me what are you doing? Told him I was cooking tea for the kids. He said can you come over anyway? I get that there are horny men with lots of spare time but I'm a mother first and foremost and would never dream of having anyone over when my kids are here or rushing off for a quick shag with a stranger. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Guys, I'm curious: Have women ever taken you up on these offers? No, not after a lame first message like the OP suggests (which I have not sent regardless). However I have met more than once a single woman at her house for the first face to face meet (platonic or otherwise), however, that was after a fair number of messages and talking on the phone.
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RHP User
8 years ago
That's a no for me, and meeting up so we can do it in a car because the guy were meeting can't host doesn't work either. It was theirs and hotels. I'm wary about giving out any details in regard to me and a lot of people we know don't even know where we live, lol. Fewer still have visited. Haha, oh sorry, that's not what you asked. No, I don't remember getting messages like that, but we are a couple so a bit different. Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Safety is paramount for me. I will never trust a stranger, much less let him into my home. Good topic, freogirl! 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ive met a girl at my place for first meeting but after numerous txts and a couple of phone calls...wish i met her on nuetral ground first because i probably wouldnt have taken it further...normally meet in public and will do this in the future...just not worth the risk - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' That's a no for me, and meeting up so we can do it in a car because the guy were meeting can't host doesn't work either. It was theirs and hotels. I'm wary about giving out any details in regard to me and a lot of people we know don't even know where we live, lol. Fewer still have visited. Haha, oh sorry, that's not what you asked. No, I don't remember getting messages like that, but we are a couple so a bit different. Peachy That's another awesome offer lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'HappyGoLucky70' Say can I come over? I am happy to travel to yours and I'll tell them that my kids are here and they've said that we can meet in my garden. WTF!!!. Also one asked me what are you doing? Told him I was cooking tea for the kids. He said can you come over anyway? I get that there are horny men with lots of spare time but I'm a mother first and foremost and would never dream of having anyone over when my kids are here or rushing off for a quick shag with a stranger. - Posted from rhpmobile That's a new one! I've had "could we do it in your garage"?
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Yes some do. I have heard of it before, my memory says I have read it on here at some point a few years ago. I've heard/read of women having men over (total strangers) whilst their children are asleep....in the house.(Let me just say if I knew these women my fingers would not be able to dial child protection services fast enough!) Would I do it? Nope, no, nah, fuck no, are you kidding, hell would freeze over first.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've done it and not just once. Probs half a dozen times. As another poster said after chatting a bit. Yeah yeah call me as you will. I have had some very luscious memorable times. 😁 Im a risk taker though not STUPID. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
There have been some horror stories over the years. And how much have we not heard... Women, and the men (as you say), not saying anything because of the shame and the judgement. Good thread... Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Gotten home from a guys place, that I started talking to on here just this afternoon. We met at his Home oops 😳 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I had a lady just this week who wanted to come straight over to my place.... I said no lets meet in public, go to a hotel the first time. She said ok lets meet at the hotel.... I said no lets have a quick coffee or drink first to make sure we are both comfortable. She kept refusing to meet in public first, at best she wanted to meet outside the hotel room. She told me she was too nervous to meet in public. I didn't feel comfortable at all, alarm bells started ringing even though her language and photos suggested she was indeed genuine . I pulled the pin on the whole thing and she wasn't happy at all . I'm 6'1 , 85kg and can generally handle myself but it's not worth the risk. I always meet in a public place first
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RHP User
8 years ago
Definitely meet first play later for me. I like to think respect goes both ways too. I’ve shunned some because I was in the area but had never met, stick to your rules. Full respect to those women who do meet and play, that’s some serious self awareness and confidence that the right choice has been made. BB - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Maybe different as lm stronger and easier to look after myself but the risk is very real. I've been exposed to that reality of violence many years ago. Risk is scalable through intuitive contact / communication. But if you think by meeting for a coffee first is removing that risk then you are setting up a false sense of security.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' No fricken way would I do that!! I always to go their place. 🤣 I’ve offered people a place to stay at my place before, just on knowing them on an online forum. Men and women. But, I guess that’s a bit different to doing that based on one message. How do you go from a safety standpoint with that? Do you let someone know the address you are going to?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have had one lady who invited me to her home one afternoon for first meet after some messaging on RHP, SMS and phone chat. It did strike me as risky for both parties but gut instinct and primal took over and turned out she was an awesome lady and we had a pretty great afternoon and and a few more after that.
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RHP User
8 years ago
When I first seperated from a very long marriage, I drove to a blokes place and jumped his bones. He passed out and as I took a shower I realised he was married. There were fresh roses in vases in the bedroom, so I took some, though before I left I removed the petals and threw them under his bed and left a few strands of my long black hair in the bathroom. Buyer beware 😁 I do wonder if the wife ever found out. (Met him off a vanilla site) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' I've done it and not just once. Probs half a dozen times. As another poster said after chatting a bit. Yeah yeah call me as you will. I have had some very luscious memorable times. 😁 Im a risk taker though not STUPID. Risk is part of life, what else is there if you don't step outside the comfort zone??? I guess the ironic thing would be the typical drunk nightclub hookup. Not much decision making power nor safety in that scenario but making a judgment call with someone you've chatted, messaged and are obviously sexually attracted to is a calculated risk. I don't think that's stupid as you rightly say Inspirit. BB
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RHP User
8 years ago
I’ve only done it on a couple of occasions. It’s not something I am in the habit of doing. It’s too hard to judge if you will be into each other from online conversations. I am not after a certain body type for me to discount the head! I need to see someone’s eyes (and smell them) to know if the jiggy jiggy is going to happen. So, I too would usually meet in person first.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Chicks can’t live on bread alone, you know. Sometimes you think, what the hell. Today I’m going to do something a little dangerous.
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RHP User
8 years ago
What about the messages from married men! “ hi, my wife will be out from 2-4 tomorrow, what to come over for some wild sex? “
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RHP User
8 years ago
Are frightened by the world. Others are wisely cautious and learn how to manage risk to live a fuller life. (Expressed from the comfort of my male privilege) I’ve never had a woman visit me off one message, but several have come after texting and phone conversations. None are buried in the garden, one is still friends, most just meander off on their journey.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Bananaboy_76' Quoting 'inspirit' I've done it and not just once. Probs half a dozen times. As another poster said after chatting a bit. Yeah yeah call me as you will. I have had some very luscious memorable times. 😁 Im a risk taker though not STUPID. Risk is part of life, what else is there if you don't step outside the comfort zone??? I guess the ironic thing would be the typical drunk nightclub hookup. Not much decision making power nor safety in that scenario but making a judgment call with someone you've chatted, messaged and are obviously sexually attracted to is a calculated risk. I don't think that's stupid as you rightly say Inspirit. BB I'm sure all of us have met people from this site who are NOTHING like their profile pic and a good 10 to 15 years older than they said they were. I have known people to walk past these people in coffee shops as they are nothing like they expected. At least in a coffee shop, of even if you met at a club, you are given some opportunity to use your gut feeling etc Some of these guys who just want to show up at your house don't even provide a photo! I've recently walked out of a coffee date because the guy's demeanor was scaring me. He sounded awesome in txts, messages and even the phone. The person I sat with at the cafe seemed completely different! I can only imagine what would have taken place if he had have met me in my home. You can't completely protect yourself. You can be in a long term relationship or marriage, then the guy you thought you knew well turns out to be a monster. I guess you can only try to protect yourself as best as possible. I always let someone know where I am going, call them when I get there and call them again when I leave. At least something might bounce of a Telstra tower (if all goes badly). I try to avoid people who will only use KIK, as KIK is hard to trace.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ok, so the OBVIOUS aspect of comfort and security seems lost on so many who are in a great rush to get naked with someone they’ve not met It seems an obvious factor to me. But why aren’t these people considering the same factor? - Posted from rhpmobile
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FeistyFatty
8 years ago
I've never "met first, played later" and neither has hubby. I have always played at home, apart from a handful of times. Like others, it's after chatting for a little while beforehand. Although, I have in a moment of hazy horniness, received a message (another site) and responded with my address to which I waited for him naked. He went on to be a regular and awesome playmate. I've been very lucky. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' Chicks can’t live on bread alone, you know. Sometimes you think, what the hell. Today I’m going to do something a little dangerous. Absolutely, and I suppose it is little different to going home with someone you just met at a pub or club - you could be going home with somebody who turns out to be a monster. I just wonder if women have a failsafe in these situations. *** And of course, some men too although it's probably safe to say it's not as big a concern for us blokes. Just in case anyone wants to start in ***
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RHP User
8 years ago
What’s the difference between this and going home with a complete stranger you’ve met for 5 mins at a pub? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
At least you know what your getting physically ang get a feel for the person when u meet in the pub.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I didn’t fully answer your question. Yes. I sent a friend the profile name, and the address.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I couldn't argue with that, it's a point I thought to introduce, but wasn't sure how to put it. In my case, I have been very blessed not to have gotten myself in more trouble than I did. I led a blessed life indeed. I can remember several men who had me scared for my self. And some who were sheer gold. I am talking friends as well to make that clear. I suppose what we have here is a view from the internet approach, and the exploration and different perspectives are great aren't they. Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
That’s what I was alluding to. Even though you’ve seen them, it really is the smallest snippet of personality. Things we do for fun eh! In terms of risk taking, I get asked all the time why I do the things I do behind my boat, I’m also an avid dirt biker, that too gets the rolling eyes factor. Just live your life god damn it, we only get one. Sorry for the sidetrack. BB - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have had women invite me to their place without meeting in public first. With both, we had exchanged messages and chatted by phone first, and when trying to arrange a place to meet, both decided it would be easier if I visited them. I was surprised and a little nervous but both were very enjoyable encounters
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RHP User
8 years ago
A couple of drinks.... 😂 Or in your case.... a couple more after that 🤣 - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
I have a couple of times but it wasn't a complete stranger. I had talked to them for over a month and also on the phone. I felt I knew them well enough to let them in. This could be naive but thats how it was.It worked out just fine but of course, it might not as well. I also always have my wing girl who I let know when I meet anyone new. Its not for everyone and thats ok. I know I felt more comfortable with this than a hook up at the pub. I think some guys just try those lines in the hope they will meet someone who will fulfil a fantasy. Some will give it a whirl so to speak and see if there are any takers. The ones that I met didn't talk to me like that or expect it. It was just something we discussed over time to be an option that worked since they weren't local. To be honest it felt kind of empowering. Risk was something I was exploring as a way to change myself and right or wrong it worked.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Bananaboy_76' That’s what I was alluding to. Even though you’ve seen them, it really is the smallest snippet of personality. Things we do for fun eh! In terms of risk taking, I get asked all the time why I do the things I do behind my boat, I’m also an avid dirt biker, that too gets the rolling eyes factor. Just live your life god damn it, we only get one. Sorry for the sidetrack. BB - Posted from rhpmobile But at least you've seen them if you met them in a pub and were able to decide if you were attracted to them or not - it's hard if someone appears at your front door and is 15 years older than they said they were or not remotely like the person in the pic. Just today some women were robbed after allowing some guys to come to their house to look at a car. You wont always get hurt or harmed, but you are increasing your chances if you blindly let anybody in to your home.
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RHP User
8 years ago
How bout this You meet and have risk assessed the patient (oops sorry) the date well and all ticks wellGo back to dates houseSuss out exit points for your safetyOn doing the house inspection take note of whats lying around- loads of loose cash and jewellery laying around- mans toys that include car memorabilia, motorbikes, prize photos on walls of sports legendsThe list is endless Seriously guys you are looking for troubleAnd to think you also want a free fuck by just rocking up to a ladies house sight unseen and who knows what your history is like I've had so far on my online date history- paedophiles- ex bikies- ex prisonersAnd Id hate to think who else have contacted me My suggestion to all not just ladies but for menHow bout you be a little more conscious of your safety and some respect for the safety of the people your trying to organise a date withOnly ever meet in a public place with people around and always let a friend know where your going I love online dating and have met some really awesome people but have always tried to be as safe as possible K
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RHP User
8 years ago
But I have a female friend who told me recently that about a two months ago she was chatting to a guy on here late st night. He invited her over. She was drunk and couldn't drive. He ordered and paid for her Uber to his place. They had never met before. What a total IDIOT. He could have had six guys there, ready to rape her. Knowing she was already drunk. He could have ordered the Uber to take her to a different address. Plus she gave him HER address! So stupid. Especially for a single mum with young daughters. Sure, we all take risks but don't be a fuckwit. TELL someone the address you are going to. Tell that person you will text in 30 min. Then again in an hour, or whatever you agree on. If you don't, that person knows to call the Police and give the address and name of the guy you are with. Don't get drunk while there. Don't let him pour you a drink unless you watch. This same "friend" of mine went to a guys house, alone, the first time she met him, and that same guy was suspected of spiking a woman's drink at a club just 2 days earlier. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
In my early 30s I used to date a girl who’d do it every now and then. She liked the thrill. I wasn’t impressed. First of all you dont know the other person, second, these kind of encounters are almost always bareback. So you are playing Russian Roulette with your health one way or another. If you don’t get attacked, raped or murdered, there is a fair chance someone may be giving you HIV or herpes. Later I met another girl who met me in a desolate woodland, she thought it was cool, I thought it was crazy. As a colossal male, I never walk into a strangers house. I don’t understand how so many women easily risk themselves. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
As a male, I have always offered to meet somewhere before hand. I have had a few ladies lately just invite me straight over after chatting to them for an hour or 2.. Its always a risk to go to a strangers house, you never know if you are walking into a set up or some kind or not. I have a lot of respect (albeit I may not always act like I do) for ladies and if they invite me over without meeting me first, I never disrespect them in their home. I am a professional person and like to keep things that way when invited to someone’s house - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
...2-4 years ago, when a woman turned up at a stranger's apt after meeting him online, and was subsequently violently assaulted. The man had previous criminal charges for assaulting women. If my memory serves me right, it happened in Prahran. She took a risk, and her luck ran out on that occasion. High price to pay for random sex at a stranger's house.
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RHP User
8 years ago
OMG listen to all the nanna-no-no negators & the judgers!!! I feel like at least a few (not all) users in this thread have allowed themselves to manipulate their own reality of insecurities, lack of confidence & a general paranoia towards life into somehow believing they have the right to get on their self-righteous high horse and condemn others who may (By their own choice) conduct themselves/behaviour in the way the OP outlined as if they are doing something highly illegal?!?!? Like, the fact one user actually posted something along the lines of... - "there are women having male strangers over while their kids are asleep....in the house.(Let me just say if I knew these women my fingers would not be able to dial child protection services fast enough!)"... - actually astounds me & A) who the f#@k are u to judge & what makes u think u have the right to interfere in someones personal life so drastically?? B) Ppl are perfectly entitled to invite someone into their house if they so wish and its none of your business! C) Not all men are creeps or weirdos whos want to in some way cause harm to women and/or children which is what your implying & i for one personally take offence to the notion D) based solely on your reason for calling them, child services could not & would not do anything apart from tell you to go to bed Im a single man who has (only after a few msgs, admittedly) both gone to & hosted women without any prior meeting & i can honestly say they've been some of the most exhilarating experiences ive had to date and whilst i dont believe there to have ever been any kids at the women's homes on such occasions, at no point, no matter what, have/would either the women herself or her kids been posed any risk of harm by me n im pretty sure that goes without saying for alot if not most other guys out there!! Final thought - to those who seem to think that by insisting on an initial public meeting, they have made themselves any more secure, hypothetically - how do u know that the person you arrange to meet isnt going to seemingly just pull a no - show or simply not make it known that they are there and worst case (in your head) u get stood up but in reality they are watching from a distance or are nothing like their profile and therefore u dont recognise them only for them to be some wierdos who ends up following you home & causing u harm or becoming a full blown stalker etc etc? And isnt this site supposed based on exploring sexuality and indeed fetishes??!?? Ever considered the fact that women who partake in such activities may well be fulfilling a fantasy or thats just hoe they get their rocks off!!! Keep an open mind, live a little!! But most of all dont judge & certainly dont believe yourself better than others for them simply living their lives differently to how u think they should!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
Haha.. You're happy to call a woman crazy, yet you're still happy to still met her in desolate woodlands for a bit of downtown jiggy jig. 😉 Ms Foxy
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ajcouple
8 years ago
Haven’t read most of the comments on this thread, so I may be repeating what others have said.. In my single tinder days I would never suggest coming to a woman’s house, simply because I know it’s not good practice. But it would be suggested by women more often than not. Which really surprised me. My main thought was just.. I really hope they don’t do this for everyone. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
In charge of our own direction and safety. I feel safer in my home than a stranger's. Meeting out first does not identify the baddies. But people seem to think a book cover tells all. A pleasant face, must be ok? Then home? Really? A nice person can have any cover. A rapist or serial killer can be very good looking and a personality to match. So let's not be judgey for those of us who do meet first in our homes. We have our safety checks and our intuition and probably no less safe than those who meet first in a public place. And l find it so much easier to dispose of bodies from the safety of my house and underground abbatoir.....
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RHP User
8 years ago
Great post by the way Freogirl66 :)
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'Minotaurous' In my early 30s I used to date a girl who’d do it every now and then. She liked the thrill. I wasn’t impressed. First of all you dont know the other person, second, these kind of encounters are almost always bareback. So you are playing Russian Roulette with your health one way or another. If you don’t get attacked, raped or murdered, there is a fair chance someone may be giving you HIV or herpes. Later I met another girl who met me in a desolate woodland, she thought it was cool, I thought it was crazy. As a colossal male, I never walk into a strangers house. I don’t understand how so many women easily risk themselves. - Posted from rhpmobile Fail to see how meeting in your house first has anything to do with catching STI's..Alarmist much? So meeting first in cafe must mean you use condoms? Bahaha
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RHP User
8 years ago
Agree with anne. Meeting someone in public first. May not help if the person is violent. Sadly its just in there nature. Going to happen anyway - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Who is everyone trying to kid, of course this happens! I always suggest meeting for a coffee/drink/chat but have had numerous women, after much texting and calling invite me over in this exact way. Not everyone is comfortable doing this but it certainly does happen. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
I am the person who made the outrageous statement regarding ringing child protection. Let me explain my statement. First of all. You may not be a weirdo who will pose danger to children. Yay to you. EVERYBODY should be able to say that. There should not be a need for women and children to ever question their safety in their own home. But there is. Men are also at risk, but perhaps not as great; Ladyrider raised some very good points as to their level of risk. There are many tales of men's homes being burgled a short time after random fucks. Perhaps I should have explained my statement better...... if it was a Consistent pattern of behaviour from a PARENT to have strangers pop around for a fuck - once a week, twice, three times? How many times is too many times? It really only needs one bad apple for it to be one time and the damage is done. If there were other indicators of risky behaviour or unusual decision making and the parent was not receptive to chats about the risk to the children.........I would make the phone call. Every.fucking.time. Because I DO have the right....as EVERYONE does, to actively seek to maintain the safety of children. In these instance, I would not give a toss about the parent and their right to privacy. Because a child's safety, their sense of comfort and trust and their right to have a stable upbringing ALWAYS comes first. It ALWAYS comes before their parent's need for a fuck. If their parent acts in a manner which compromises or has potential to compromise, the child's safety, trust and comfort, I will act. I am morally - and legally (and no, I am not a member of VICPOL, or in any way professionally associated with the legal profession) - mandated to act.
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
We would never , ever , bring anyone from here (or any other swingers site / club/ party) to our house. We have children and as such we value our privacy , anonymity, safety and security. Whilst there are many decent and respectable people on here (and within the swinging scene) , unfortunately there are also weirdos , psychos and stalkers to be found. If you bring someone to your home, they then know where you live. If anything goes “pear shaped” and they turn into stalkers, then you have left yourselves wide open to continued & further abuse. Having children, makes safety & security even more important. We prefer to meet potential playmates in a secure public venue. We very rarely , even after a few public meets, will go to their house until we know them very well. Best to err on the side of caution - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes I have once done the meet you at your place but that is not a habit. I tend to go out of area to save the following home thing. I think that it is dangerous for both parties, but just to be a devils avacardo I will mention that there is more violence towards women in relationships than in stranger danger ie one in 3 homes, so technically we are safer with what we are doing than being in a relationship 🙃 . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree one hundred per cent MsJonesy, unfortunately there few too many women and parents who fail to see any further ahead than their private parts...greedy selfish and negligent as far as i am concerned and these type of parents do not deserve the priviledge of being blessed with children in their lives full stop.
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RHP User
8 years ago
You play hard to get do you? Don’t bonk till the third date or something. Some men will never fully appreciate a woman’s sexuality regardless of when the said woman would have sex with them. Apologies that some of our fun loving ways put a dampener on your experience with disrespectful men. Awww
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
I'm Curious. How would you know, if you're not there to witness with your own two eyes? Or is one there too? Is one watching coming and goings? is it a here say thing (heard along the gossip vine)? One would actually have some sort contact or actually know the person (as in a close friend shared in confidence their actions), a fall out (a desire for revenge)? would that then become a betrayal of trust in friendship?? Interesting Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
I’ve done it three times where I went and met guys at their house after chatting to them for a while. one was respectful - we had said we were just going to meet that day and his house was easier cause it was close by. We had an awesome time getting to know each other and there was sexual chemistry so we ended up making out and luckily the guy was sticking to the rules and it didn’t go any further. After that night we hang out both as mates and as FWB. He always made it clear he didn’t want another relationship after his marriage ended and we get along well and I’m glad I met him and I always have a great time in his company whether there is sex involved or not. Another guy... I was working late, he was at home watching the footy and he said I should leave work and go and watch our team play footy with him.. we had been chatting for ages so thought it was ok. I made it clear that I was going over to just watch the footy and nothing else. got there, no awkwardness meeting him.. he was like his pics and chats suggested. We sat down watching footy, drinking and chatting for at least 3 hours . At one stage he just grabbed me and kissed me and said all bets were off and he wasn’t going to wait. While I tried to tell him nothing was going to happen, we continued kissing and before I knew it we were naked and I was still there for breakfast... hooked up with him a few times since then. I don’t regret it cause it was hot and we get along well but I wish I had been more forceful and stuck to no sex on first meet. Third guy... first thing was in his messages he ‘spoke’ perfect English... we had chatted for a few weeks and one night I happened to be in his suburb and he said to go over... so I did... this guy was nothing like the guy I had been speaking to... I could barely understand him when he spoke, he literally jumped on me when I entered and when I told him I didn’t go there to fuck around he started calling me every name under the sun and saying that’s only sluts met guys they didn’t know for sex. I had to fight him off, I bit him, slapped him and grabbed my stuff and left... I perhaps should have reported him but I didn’t but I told him the cops have his details. Blocked him on the site - not this one - and he never had my number so I’ve never heard from him again. In saying that, each time I meet someone from the first time and on the occasions mentioned above, I send the name, profile pic, address and if I have a phone number to three friends of mine that I trust with anything and let them know where I will be. I didn’t mention the third incident to my friends cause one of them would have gone over and deck the guy but it has taught me that there are crazy people out there and just because you are on line it doesn’t mean that you will meet and fuck your way through all the guys on the site! A lot of guys have little respect for women and make assumptions that because you are on line you just want to fuck around and don’t deserve any respect. If I choose to sleep with someone else the first time I meet them, it is because the chemistry is hot and it feels right.. not because the guy just expects it. There was another occasion where I had been speaking to this guy for a while. On the night we were to finally meet, he wanted to meet me in a secluded dark place that I wasn’t comfortable in meeting him in. I was on my way and told him we were going to meet in a public place close by to where he had suggested. He said he wanted me to walk right up to him, kiss him and then get on my knees in front of the cafe full of people... I told him he was dreaming if he thought that would happen... he called me and demanded that was how I would meet him. I told him he was a psycho and I wished him a good night and hung up on him. He sent me a few abusive messages after that but I’m glad I never heard from him again. I’ve met many men who are nothing as they say they are on line. People just need to be honest about what they want and what they are looking for. I’m a bigger girl and I’ve made that clear each time I chat to someone - some have no issue, others meet you and take great joy in telling you that you just aren’t their type cause you are fat. Lots of people just lack common sense and respect in general. In saying all that, I have met many nice gentlemen who just aren’t my type but we’ve had a pleasant drink together and we have gone out sepeate ways with no hard feelings. The online ‘dating’ world has certainly been an interesting one for me and I like to meet interesting people when I’m bored or have nothing else to do. If something comes out of it, then great but I’m just enjoying the single life and meeting people from all walks of life and listening to people’s stories - some people have lived amazing or sad lives and it’s great to meet these people. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Of worth, the knowledge would be gained directly from the people involved. I don't understand your comment regarding revenge, nor does it apply to me. Betrayal of trust....I did clearly mention that I would firstly speak to the parent involved. But that term does actually apply to my thinking..... In Victoria, there is legislation which arose from Betrayal of Trust Inquiry. The government introduced Child Safe Standards, to quote: "The standards are designed to drive cultural change in organisations, so that protecting children from abuse is embedded in the everyday thinking and practice of leaders, staff and volunteers." These standard apply a vast collection of organisations, volunteers, employees, emoloyers, sporting clubs, kids activities such as scouts etc etc. If you have any contact with children on a regukar basis through paid or volunteer activities, these standards apply to you. We are now off topic. My apologies Freo. If anyone wishes to discuss this further, send me a message.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'cutiepie62' I agree one hundred per cent MsJonesy, unfortunately there few too many women and parents who fail to see any further ahead than their private parts...greedy selfish and negligent as far as i am concerned and these type of parents do not deserve the priviledge of being blessed with children in their lives full stop. I'm one of three children to a single mother. Growing up my mother would get family to babysit us kids if she wanted to go out for the night. She would a lot of the time bring a man home with her. I always woke up when mum got home and could hear that there was a man with her. This caused me a bit of anxiety, as a young boy I often mistook the sounds of mum enjoying herself to her being in some kind of trouble. This would cause me a lot of anxiety. As I grew older I worked out that they were the sounds of pleasure, but I still did not like the fact that she would bring men I did not know home, even as a child I remember thinking ''what if he's an axe murderer?" (they are of course always axe murderers when you are a kid). I don't think mum was ever negligent in what she did - she wanted her pleasure like all other women, but I do wish she had gone back to their place or something. I really didn't enjoy it when she brought men home. I don't think she didn't deserve to have us though.
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RHP User
8 years ago
NO i dont play hard to get? What exactly are you getting at? You dont understand what i have posted, in my instance the children come first before just jumping some random strangers bones, whist they are asleep... this is not about men appreciating a womens sexuality, its about respecting each other and the children firstly, i do not and nor will i ever choose a man over my child let alone invite him to my house whether my child is home or not this, is about keeping yourself and your family safe, there are better alternatives, and for your information, not that it is any of your business i do have and appreciate fun and loving ways but outside of my home and in a safe enviroment and this is not about men putting a dampener on my experiences, that is life unfortunately and it happens regardless, i just choose very carefully and i deservedly so have the right to!!
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RHP User
8 years ago
“You're happy to call a woman crazy, yet you're still happy to still met her in desolate woodlands for a bit of downtown jiggy jig. 😉” I didn’t call her crazy, I thought the situation was crazy. And I didn’t meet her for sex, I wanted us to sit and talk while having coffee. Also I did not know the area, o thought it was more like a public spot with people around. I don’t about others, but I don’t get intimate with people I have never seen in my life before. Internet talk can go to any direction, reality does not always match it. I need intimacy between me and other person, I never had one night stand, never will. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Okey Dokey45 thats what i am saying..... it did cause you anxiety and that is not something that a child should experience anytime, i work with these traumatised children time and time again selfish needs being put before childrens, it comes down to having that pleasure away from your child/childrens space so they are not directly involved and feel safe and secure in their own enviroment, sure us single mothers have sexual needs but it needs to take place outside the home. i would leave my son at his grandparents for a sleepover if i wanted a date night out with a friend its not rocket science, its considering the bigger picture and its responsibility and having that connection a greater love for and with your child/children which is called respect.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have been invited by couple to their house. Due to circumstances it never happened but the couple were comfortable inviting me to their home for MMF
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RHP User
8 years ago
My comment is irrelevant now as it appears your first comment on this thread has now been deleted.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I expect to chat online a few times and if there is an eye to eye to meet at a Neutral ground. However i did see a " Couples " profile and it was a case of WTF. " They " wanted a male third to fuck the wife in front of hubby. The Catch !!!,... The lucky guy was to be picked up by hubby..., Blindfolded !!!.. Then drive to thier home to where the wife was waiting. Then afterwards blindfolded and drive back to the pickup point...Hmmmmm !!!. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mctag9
8 years ago
Whilst the risk is obviously greater for ladies my main concern is coming across psychos and stalkers who then know where I live.... The reality is there is wackos out there and with a lot of free porn websites that give an unrealistic view on sex and treatment of women they are drawn to websites like this - So there is more chance of meeting a wacko online than in a pub... I'd like to think I'm a pretty good judge of character so I prefer to get to know each other in a public place so we can all be a bit more at ease and I also try to make very clear prior to meeting that there is absolutely no pressure on anyone and if we don't click face to face then we all move on, no harm done no worries. :) Lately I've had a few short notice visits when we've got so worked up chatting we couldn't wait to meet prior, not the wisest I know but I do a quick check for valuables and any ID information is not on display before they arrive... So far it has all been good. :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hahaha just cos imma cheap date still don’t make me an easy one lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Glasses or slabs ?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I must say the risks are there for both the male and female if you haven't exchanged photo's or details and or meet in public somewhere safe. The risks can also be much great when meeting couples without any contact details or pics/phone numbers.To say can I meet in my cars, park, garage or your place ect for sex is not the way to go, this then gives us other guys a bad rap for suggesting such place to meet.Always have a meeting place available in public or arrange a place or hotel/motel should things reach the next stage.Just be a normal people and be safe...Cheers
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RHP User
8 years ago
I asked the person to meet at a pub...I was scared I'd be murdered. haha.
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SassyRascal
8 years ago
Met a guy through friends at my local. We had a couple of drinks and chatted he seemed like a very polite person. As he was driving he didnt want to have to many drinks and offered to drive me home. I said yes as my son was waiting at home for me. We sat in my courtyard chatting for a bit when I excused myself to go to the toilet....... All I remember is waking up the next day in places that weren't ment to be sore Was very confused and upset as I have no idea except the for the obvious what went on
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RHP User
8 years ago
That’s awful Sweet xo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sure you see their person.... You don’t see what lie beneath...a person can continue a facade for months...and then it can just crack.... But until that does you never truly know anyone, be it from a pub, or Coles, or here...it’s always a risk that you’re gonna end up in foul play.... The only thing meeting in public does is mitigate the chance of it happening in your own place... And/or... It comes back later.... Tostee case is a good example of that.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I get it alot. When i was younger and stupid i used to do it...but now i wouldnt ever. More a stalking safety issue than a safety issue in itself though... - Posted from rhpmobile
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SassyRascal
8 years ago
With places hurting that weren't ment to hurt
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree with what you getting at. I will ask to meet somewhere neutral and in a public safe location to see if we are compatible first then it is up to each party where to go from there. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
To hear that Sweetfrangipani
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have had this happen a girl Just turned up at my place and do this was not expecting it at all after chatting for a few days and she came on a moterbike and it raind so when she was in my place just striped down to here underwere" thong by the way"and watched a film with me. Both not thinking about safty eas all good but is so bad in a lot of way i think public meet ups are a must. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mctag9
8 years ago
Sweetfrangipanni I"m sorry to hear this, did you report this to Police?
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Hawt1
8 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' There is no way I'd invite a stranger into my home without having met in a public place first. Guys, I'm curious: Have women ever taken you up on these offers? I'm aware some gals here are into the so-called ninja fucks, where they are blindfolded the entire time and never even see the man, but I can't imagine there'd be many of them? I have had this done to me, although in a hotel (and by a woman) because I was away from my hometown.. still she could of cut my throat, stolen my wallet, anything... I was blindfolded and cuffed to the bed with the door open, naked waiting for her. I was comfortable doing this as we had been in the chat rooms for over a year. Let me tell you it was fugging awesome!!! The hottest part was when I could hear her masterbating next to me.
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Hawt1
8 years ago
Quoting 'Atalanta69' Yes I have once done the meet you at your place but that is not a habit. I tend to go out of area to save the following home thing. I think that it is dangerous for both parties, but just to be a devils avacardo I will mention that there is more violence towards women in relationships than in stranger danger ie one in 3 homes, so technically we are safer with what we are doing than being in a relationship 🙃 . - Posted from rhpmobile How sad is that!
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SassyRascal
8 years ago
Coz I dont remember anything after going to the toilet.
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Mctag9
8 years ago
I've sent you a PM - I hope it helps. Cheers Mick
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Hawt1
8 years ago
That is horrible what happened to you. Very brave also to talk about it with us. I do hope you did go to the police.. even if they cannot act on your case, it puts that guy in their spot light and could help them make an arrest later down the track and get this mongrel off the streets. A visit from them could even scare him off trying it again? He is relying on your silence to continue preying on women in this fashion. I hope you can recover your inner peace Hugs
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RHP User
8 years ago
Someone at coffee first.But one lady asked me straight to her place .Which surprised me ,.Which I thought showed extreme trust on both parts. But there was lots of talking,texting,and phone calls first - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I am a risk taker. In saying that though. I have messaged these guys a fair bit swapped pics etc. Because there is often extensive time between first contact and meet. I do go for coffee or whatever as well I am just more comfortable at my own house.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Oh dear! My heart goes out to you and like Hawt, hope that you can find inner peace and healing. I think a police report could have been lodged and blood tests done to test if there are substances in your bloodstream that hasn't been metabolised yet? Not sure about this but would love info from anyone in-the-know. 😯
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RHP User
8 years ago
A few months ago I was chatting to a guy from the site. At some point down the line a couple of weeks later, he wanted a invite to my home. He had a name that was a very generic aussie name but nationality was different. Also he had only lived in Australia a hand full of years. My answer was no but I what I did do was say yes as long as he sent me a photo of his drivers licence. He was reply was sorry he did not give out personal details like that. I said yet you expect to come to my home. Just an example of unrealistic expectation.
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RHP User
8 years ago
if you are a male. Sorry, but women need to do as much as they can to protect themselves. Believing every guy, who offers to come to your HOME, is the same person you see in a profile pic (in some cases no profile pic) is very careless. My main point of this thread is men shouldn't have the expectation they can enter a woman's family home, based on their introductory message saying "I'm free today, would you like a visitor?" With the ratio of men to women on this site, I think most of us can be a little bit fussy and cautious. I'm just gob smacked at the number of men who are insulted when you say "no". The last time I looked, this wasn't a free hooker site. You can package things however you like, at the end of the day women are the weaker sex and most vulnerable when they are with a stranger behind closed doors.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Minotaurous' “You're happy to call a woman crazy, yet you're still happy to still met her in desolate woodlands for a bit of downtown jiggy jig. 😉” I didn’t call her crazy, I thought the situation was crazy. And I didn’t meet her for sex, I wanted us to sit and talk while having coffee. Also I did not know the area, o thought it was more like a public spot with people around. I don’t about others, but I don’t get intimate with people I have never seen in my life before. Internet talk can go to any direction, reality does not always match it. I need intimacy between me and other person, I never had one night stand, never will. - Posted from rhpmobile I really appreciate your opinion
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ive only met up with 4 women through online connections (ended up dating one for a while) and i met them all at their place the first time. I did talk to them all on the phone first though. I think im such a non threatening guy they could tell it would be safe from my voice. I like to think id be able to pick up on their insincerity too if i was being targetted for a robbery or random bashing. It feels like having that "larger" label on my profile makes me an obvious mark for anyone looking for desperate suckers so its definitely something that goes through my head everytime. And oh man... that "open the front door topless" request is depressing. Not even I've fallen that low. If i was to project my own insecurities onto that moment i'd assume the guy wanted that gesture as a kind of proof-of-intent or just a sign that theyre less likely to get rejected. Its a tacky message to send but that image of a beckoning women silhouetted in her doorway is still undeniably hot in my mind, haha. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'bigfuntime' And oh man... that "open the front door topless" request is depressing. Not even I've fallen that low. - Posted from rhpmobile Funny story... I once was doing a delivery to a home address, and after knocking, the door was opened by a naked woman, although who was holding either a towel or her clothes in front of her. Needless so say, she seemed surprised/shocked, and very quickly shut the door and disappeared. I had no option but to just leave the delivery at the door (which I could do anyway). I assume she was expecting someone else! (With perhaps more adult intentions?)
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RHP User
8 years ago
...so yeah I have, when I was single. I know it's dangerous, I would always tell a girlfriend that a random guy was coming over though. I have to say I never had an issue...had lots off great sex....stranger danger, so much adrenaline 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Darnit... missed opportunity! 🤣 She must've been too embarrassed to open the door again! 🤣
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MsBlissBombs
8 years ago
My place is my space, so no, never allowed anyone at mine. I have however visited guys homes, after chatting online, a coffee or dinner date. Have been lucky enough not to have had any bad or violent episodes. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've done it.. but i also have security camera's From now on its hotel's only.. it was 8 times.. 3 of them were complete fuckwits.. the other 5 were nice... and lasted a few more times.... but my circumstances have changed recently so hotel's only.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I was asked to pick a lady up from her home prior to a first date dinner a few years back. I was greeted at her front door with her naked suggesting I fuck her up against the door for entree. As we had never met and the bits of metal in her labia were not my thing I politely declined and said I'd wait in the car while she dressed. After about 30 minutes, I left and drove to the restaurant on my own. Whilst finishing dessert, I got a text from said lady with some very graphic photos that almost put me off dessert. This was followed by abusive texts for about a month. So a definite no. Thankfully, I'm now with the most amazingly sexual and special lady on the planet. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Minx99
8 years ago
When I met an experienced Dom from here couple of years ago, he said that any guy who is genuine will not mind providing ID. In the few years I've been on here, only two men refused - I later discovered they were married. I go with my gut and have invited men to my home first up in the past, for the thrill :) but I consider myself very safe and it was after extensive messaging. Nowadays I'm coffee meets first, but one very memorable one meant I didn't finish it before I dragged him home :) Common requests recently? Very late night messages "wanna fuck me now, I'm drunk/bored/horny (so much of a temptation, not) and the simple " 04******** text me to fuck now" Also a rising number of couples "we prefer to meet at a hotel first, as our time is limited". For the record, so is mine but I'd rather see you fully clothed and sober first... - Posted from rhpmobile
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