M52 F47
Alarm bells..
June 30 2018
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RHP User
8 years ago
The person starts bad mouthing their ex Yes we all have exes , bagfuls of hurt from former relationships and we are the people we are today because of our past histories But your ex is an ex for a reason and yes there’s some nasty breakups, but if your bagging them in your first initial chat then no They were your first choice once
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RHP User
8 years ago
They list 'hookups' as the only thing they want, only have super fit/really trim looking lady friends (around 20), and usually have 'horny guy looking to meet hungry ladies' (or something like that) ... and then they tell me they're all about curvy girls and they want something that's more than just a quick bang and then bye. Yeah right. - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
they start telling you what they think you want to hear - all an attempt to butter you up to get you into the sack . Or they start talking “dirty” . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don’t do it.., so yes that’s a def turn off... Sharing explicit pics or vids without asking for consent to do so first.. yes it’s a sex site but again we all have limits and boundaries - just ask first.. Relating to above - when you do share a pic with them and then there’s radio silence for days ... there goes my confidence straight away! Lol Digressing from what they have listed as wanting in their profile to suit you (the person/couple they are talking to) as they feel you might be starting to lose interest in them. The simple bullshit approach - it reeks - does it ever work? The throw the partner on the line (compromise what they want and desire) so you can get what you want move is down right disrespectful. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
When they start typing more graphically and refuse to offer their phone number for a chat = it’s likely a pretender - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Too much negativity
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sorry peachy... hope I wasn’t coming across negative... I just realised I had a lot more alarm bell moments than I initially thought. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
There are a lot of good lessons that could be taken from posts here!... Peachy
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
1) Someone who has trouble keeping their anger in check or are physically aggressive, or intimidats me when they want their own way. Includes being vindictive, nasty and spiteful. 2) Anybody that refuses to take any responsibility for their own actions and blames it on others. 3) plays victim poor me 4) emotionally unavailable 5) overall Dodgy attitude Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
References to clouds/party-play/any other obvious drug related stuff. I know I shouldn't be judgmental and the old ' but I just can't see even a casual fling with someone into hard drugs ending well. "I only like bareback, but I'm clean." I've had to avoid a couple of fairly sure things because they have bareback with everyone they get involved with and are highly sexually active. Unless you're getting tested virtually every other day, which I really kind of doubt, you can't make that claim.
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RHP User
8 years ago
1, if the messages come across as aggressive or intimidating 2. A ridiculous amount of messages asking what ur doing now 3. Pushing to meet with just the first few messages 4. Anything disrespectful 5. What they write on their profile - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
When they ask if we have kik. Or say they are into couples. But dont have they are looking for couples on there profile - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
If I may ask, why is Kik an alarm bell? I use it as I have had a bad experience giving out my mobile number so this for me is a no go zone - I have been made to feel less credible because I won’t give out my mobile number but when you’ve been burned you soon learn your lessons.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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HotNightsGC
8 years ago
“We’re really just looking for a female to fulfill our fantasy of an ffm”. “Do you mind if Mr HNP just watches?”. BLOCK! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
From contact made to a single ladies profile ... are you single or are you not? And if not that’s fine why not have a couple profile? - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Ever been with a trans girl before, "No, you will be my first!" Yeah...nah...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Ever been with a trans girl before, "No, you will be my first!" Yeah...nah... Mmm... so before one can have a new experience, they must have already had that experience. Conundrum much? :P
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have to admit it drives me nuts when we are shutdown/cut off when we say we haven’t had much experience... Everyone at one stage or the other didn’t have experience.. everyone at one stage or other was new and trying different things... when did it become so jaded that we judge someone by how many notches they have on their belt as opposed to who they are as people... Experience doesn’t guarantee people will show. It doesn’t guarantee they will be nice or the chemistry or connection will be there.. So I guess another alarm bell moment is when they ask how many people we’ve met or how much experience we have - it’s like the ice berg into the titanic start sinking maybe they’ll throw us a lifeline moment lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'countrytouch' Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Ever been with a trans girl before, "No, you will be my first!" Yeah...nah... Mmm... so before one can have a new experience, they must have already had that experience. Conundrum much? :P Put it this way....Bit like being in the landing boats at Normandy on D-Day. You get experience along the way and your gut feel tells you should be standing at the back of the boat when the front opens up. You cant be up the front all the time.......
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justthebest18
8 years ago
I was 60 when I met a very attractive 36yo last year. We got on well, chatting about a range of topics, we soon went to her flat, soon found ourselves kissing, soon found ourselves having sex on the sofa, on the bed, on the outside balcony, in the bathroom, back on the bed. As I made my way home a few hours later,I marvelled at my good fortune. This young woman was attractive, sexually forthright, intelligent, and into me!! Two days later, she came to my place. With a few brief respites, we enjoyed some five hours of pleasurable sex. This continued for the next few days, until I began to hear alarm bells scattered through her conversation.* yadayadayada my ex has custody of the boys yadayada* yadayadayada my ex just lied in court, the assault charge was a complete fabrication yadayada* yadayadayada I can't miss this meeting with my case manager yadayada* yadayadayada psychiatrists are just complete frauds!!! They tried to tell me I had a narcissistic personality disorder. Me!! Can you imagine that??!! Given she had just spent three hours telling me about herself, yes, I could see where they were coming from. I wisely refrained from saying that aloud. Even so, we had an argument a few days later that brought our friendship to an and. At least the alarm bells had prepared me to expect it.s
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think most replies are essentially about attitude. Some other things are more tangible preferences. Although sometimes people may choose wording or description/s that don't show the best possible light on themselves. If they just rephrased... I've been guilty of apparently raising red flags before. Some not listed and some mentioned eg Meander's "you're so different" etc. Many are rules of thumb while many are specific to individuals. Steep learning curve getting to know anyone and you're bound to stuff up at some time. :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Are definitely and individual thing and can be based off previous experiences as well.. there are some common ‘bells’ for us all I’m sure as well as the more individual ‘bells’ And you’re not wrong about the learning curve, it is steep and bonus is I’m the Queen of stuffing up, thankfully I have my partner who pulls me into line anytime I need it so I’m sure I’ve said some things to other people before that have set off alarm bells. I don’t ever mean to do that but I’m a little naive and maybe too honest and giving of myself in this and am learning to reign it and and be more cool and calm. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
If there are no alarm bells ringing, the "too good to be true" alarm bells start up :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Very true!!! It’s always best when the alarm bells toll early on as well so you don’t invest too much time and effort and yourself into something that ends up filled with the odour of bs...!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Very true!!! It’s always best when the alarm bells toll early on as well so you don’t invest too much time and effort and yourself into something that ends up filled with the odour of bs...!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have a soggy brain in this department. Warning bells go off but don't seem to register. I think familiar is what feels normal. Being love bombed, the ripped off a few times. I hope to get better at picking the warning signs. I think having a full life leaves one less vulnerable, not allowing someone to have too much airplay or influence. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Lol... that’ll see off bells every single time! Wildmilf - vulnerable isn’t necessarily bad it does mean we just need to self protect a little more and listen to ourselves a lot more - it means trusting gut feelings and not compromising who you are to try to gain someone else’s approval.. let those bells ring and kick crap to the kerb when required! - Posted from rhpmobile
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WINEnCHEESE
8 years ago
Great topic for discussion Xena. We struggle with.... - gratuitous close up photos of body parts. - negative profile descriptions... don’t contact us if you’re ‘x’, we don’t want to hear from you if you’re ‘y’... tell us what you like, not what you don’t. -“hi, can you please show us your photos” -and our all time ‘favourite’... one word answers, or 3 word sentences. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' A pic that shows up on a UK site that sells stockings. Perhaps it's her legs? But I think not.... Perhaps she should "check herself" ......
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RHP User
8 years ago
That the website stole her picture 😜 lol I replied to a msg the other day from someone who had a fuck buddy (alarm bells there) he was less that complimentary in the way he spoke about what they do together - or not less than complimentary but a little crude and it was like this isn’t what we are after ... now that profile name has changed profile pic has changed and you just wonder whether there was a she initially at all ... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ask newbie questions but within the next weeks, post that they're long time lurkers. Peachy
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RHP User
7 years ago
We have come across ALOT of fakes and are smart enough to weed them out now I (the wife) am not a time waster and am all about the action and hours of it!!! YUMMMMM We have kik and appreciate others who do also and if our interest is sparked here then it continues. I also respect others choice to share face pics or not and when a person expects a face pic in return for theirs and then pretty much gets offended that i obviously treasure my privacy more than them that is a red flag and i cut all contact if its a deal breaker for them. I also insist on an std test and want them to bring their results with them to show us they're a safe option and do the same in return and when they wont or have the attitude that std's are a given risk in the swinging scene then thats the BIGGEST red flag of all!! We've never had nor do we intend to have an std and if the measures we take to safe turn some off then their loss !!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
So you expect the face pic to be a 1 way street. That would be an instant alarm bell for most, except the desperate
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
So you expect the face pic to be a 1 way street. That would be an instant alarm bell for most, except the desperate
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RHP User
7 years ago
From someone then give the same in return.. if I’m asked for pics and the other person isn’t forthcoming with theirs either then I’m starting to think ‘what game are they playing’ Also don’t ask to see pg pics straight up.. I’m more than a body.. get to know me via a few exchanges of messages first but if you’re like ‘hi can I see your pg’ I’m like ‘hi no way in hell’ - Posted from rhpmobile
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Obi1kenietzsche
7 years ago
When the women are all 7' tall, walk kind of funny, and just want you to visit their spaceship. Xx Obi1
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Yes but you still came and visited us..... Know we need to work out how to fuck you off.....
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Dirtyandfriendly
7 years ago
When they want every detail of what you want to do to them or sexual play. When they avoid simple questions and change the subject, I work out very quickly if they are just looking for a quick fix online.
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RHP User
7 years ago
It’s usually the dirty talk. We’re all adults we don’t need to do it, action speak louder! Also when people ask for pictures without providing their own, or providing sketchy probably stolen ones. It’s extra steps online and we’re pretty new to this, but the amount of people who run away from us because we want to talk a bit, or plan pretty far in advance is pretty crazy, for a lot of people it’s like ‘I’m keen now’ or ‘let’s do drinks tonight’ like dang hold your horses we are normal people with normal lives! -Sam - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Negativity or hating .... there's a definite vibe that haters give out... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Rlee552
7 years ago
1. ‘Couples’ where the male keeps on sending pictures of his female partner and asks for dick pics from you. 2. Single males when you say no, then refer to their girlfriend who wants a threesome ... and then start to send pictures of his female partner and asks for dick pics from you. 3. Incredibly hot women who respond to you and then lead the conversation in a weird direction 4. The lady who sent me the almost 1page template letter with website and text trying to encourage me to log on - it’s free babe. Really though, you start to get a feeling for the genuine photographs and the genuine people. And anyone outside of that you treat with caution. The bigger difficulty is not so much the alarm bells for the scamming fakes but the alarm bells for the we want to meet (but never do).
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Rlee552
7 years ago
The female profile with a picture of a male.
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Rlee552
7 years ago
Seeking true love
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fl37ch
7 years ago
The first question of what do you do....how totally mundane?! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
When "women" want to talk dirty or want more pics...we can only assume this is a fake profile. Couples where the female never chats. Wanting more pics when they only have one or 2 on their own profile. Wanting intimate details of activities that you think we have in mind before getting to know us. If you don't have the imagination or patience required for that kind of intimacy to evolve in chat or develop in the act of play then you're probably a lousy lover. Guys who just assume we'll be interested because we exist on this site. Being humble is extremely underrated. That kind of cocky confidence is a massive turnoff. "Hey. How r u. Whatcha doin tonite"...etc, ect....boring...zzzzzz - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
When a woman messages or sends me a flirt.... Weird eh? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
When they say they are into hair pulling and spanking then tell you they are marching in the 'stop violence towards women' rally next week!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Upyaws' When they say they are into hair pulling and spanking then tell you they are marching in the 'stop violence towards women' rally next week!! Can't you tell the difference between 'Violence', and 'play' within clear, agreed upon, defined limits? Peachy, you have my favourite sort of profile, it's new with all photos recently uploaded, and a few dates in datefinder... Welcome to the forum
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RHP User
7 years ago
Amen to Peachy re the violence/play! Biggest turn off for me: ‘I know your profile says you don’t want XYZ but I really think you should consider me/us’ Next would be someone who sends a message, followed up with another message a day or two later along the lines of ‘if you’re not going to reply why are you even here’ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Whinge whinge whinge - Posted from rhpmobile
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nothin_to_lose
7 years ago
We don’t kiss....... Foreplay only........ Girls play guy watch......... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Asking for pictures straight away with out astablishing somewhat of a connection - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
coupled with a vast misunderstanding of how to communicate with the opposite sex. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I just say hello and l get blocked - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting '2Wild' AnnieWhichway "So you expect the face pic to be a 1 way street. That would be an instant alarm bell for most, except the desperate" Bloody hell nice assumption..... NOT ONCE have i EVER asked ANYONE, EVER for face pics and i dont intend to ever.... they either have had them on their profile or just flat out sent them to me on kik without me indicating at all im even interested in face pics. Why would i be asking for something and not returning the favor.... wow !!!! Assuming things about me is really not a good look!!! Now I'm starting to see the hubbies advice on not commenting on any forums .... jeez some people can be presumptuous and bitchy. Im NOT interested in drama from any woman OR man PRETENDING to be a woman who want to put words into my mouth ffs what a bloody joke 😂😂😂😂😂 Quoting '2Wild' I also respect others choice to share face pics or not and when a person expects a face pic in return for theirs and then pretty much gets offended that i obviously treasure my privacy more than them that is a red flag and i cut all contact if its a deal breaker for them. Pretty clear to me.Also clear you get upset about small things. If you dont like criticism or question about things you publically state then perhaps a public forum is not the place for you
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RHP User
7 years ago
@Anniewhichway Nowhere is it written i have asked for any face pics ........Please move along I'm really not interested 💋💋💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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sensualplay
7 years ago
Our "alarm bells" are more like a filtering process with respect to those that desire something else are 1. Vague communication 2. Pushiness 3. Different desires eg. Some people are focused on porno styled scenarios. .. nothing wrong with that just not compatible with us. 4. Language and style of communication that seems like we wouldn't connect 5. Style of images - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Upyaws' When they say they are into hair pulling and spanking then tell you they are marching in the 'stop violence towards women' rally next week!! - Posted from rhpmobile Dudes that can't grasp the concept of consent might ring alarm bells
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RHP User
7 years ago
I think the beauty of being able to participate in the forums is the interaction with people from all walks of life with all differing opinions thoughts ideas and experiences. There is no wrong or right response - god knows if there was I’d probably be parked in the wrong response bay permanently. There are differing ways to interpret words though and sometimes the intent in the words is lost via written text. 2wild and Annie both of you are different people seeking different things, bringing different view points to the conversation, neither are right neither are wrong they simply differ to your own views. We are unique and diverse and it’s what makes the forums interesting. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
We tend to think we are chatting to a guy posing as a couple when he speaks in first person ie, I really want to meet up for a coffee” If he was speaking on behalf of the couple it’s normally “We” not “I” Or my wife is sick st the moment but I can catch up. Normally a dead giveaway - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Never said you asked for face pics. You stated that you dont supply face pics because of your precious privacy. My comment was that was a red flag and that only desperate people would agree to meet someone without seeing a face pic. Perhaps it needed clarifying on your behalf instead of being offensive to someone who commented on your post. I guess hubby knows your personality enough so his suggestion not to go on the forum was on the money. Guess he's stuck with you, we are not so try and keep your derogatory comments to yourself if you have the urge to post in here
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RHP User
7 years ago
For is it's when you add them to Kik etc and the first thing "got any more pics?" Or they make plans and then cancel last minute. We got cancelled on by three separate people this week. And when you message them they read your message and don't reply for a week, or don't say something along the lines of 'hey sorry, life came up, chat soon' Don't ghost. Ghosting will put you in the 'waste of time' basket. And that basket basket is softer and dryer than A grade bakers flour... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I think the profile you were taking about earlier was Gracie and mine. That profile was changed to just mine as we had split up.. It was not a fake profile. You do the right thing and change the profile back to how it is and people think you are fake??? Dave - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I respect that you changed yours to reflect your relationship status - not many would This forum post wasn’t inspired by you solely, merely a collection of experiences we have had. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
An instant alarm bell for me is lack of pics and profile content. If you can't be bothered to have a profile picture or one that isn't restricted (yes I'm only a Guest but surely you can find one picture...) and some personal details about yourself in your profile to give me an indication of who you are then I'm pretty convinced you're either here to add pics to your wank bank or think you are somehow quite exceptional and will manage to get lucky anyway without those details. Sorry that's a no from me but goodluck on your search...👋 Next up is the straight up "Do you want my hard cock inside you/between your tits/in your mouth?" ... No formalities and small talk to entice me, yeah no thanks. BLOCK! Another good one is "Oh aren't you lucky/isn't your husband so kind letting you play on your own, let's meet, are you free now??" Well obviously you didn't read my whole profile. Not respecting the fact that we are DD free and would like to remain that way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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gccouple1709
7 years ago
When it is a single female as a guest only. Almost always a fake account. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'MFW_23' Don't go making me like one of your comments now I would never make you do anything MFW, consent is very important to me.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Upyaws'Lighten up ya fuckers Whinge whinge whinge isn't going to stop us from being us, right? Up yours, Peachy, getting it...
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RHP User
7 years ago
I just want to say to thankyou to the OUTSTANDING people behind the profiles which have validated us in case they read what Anniewhichway has said, and i quote.... "My comment was that was a red flag and that only desperate people would agree to meet someone without seeing a face pic." To my validators you are FAR from desperate and some of the most amazing and genuine people i have the pleasure in knowing and will continue to know. To the OP and others on here I'm sorry your genuinely great topic of discussion has resulted in drama.... thats the last thing i wanted, nor do i enjoy it AT ALL!!! Hubby told me to ignore Anniewhichway but i will always defend myself and also defend the genuine and awesome people I've met through this great site from being called desperate!! Have a great night everyone 💋💋💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'gccouple1709' When it is a single female as a guest only. Almost always a fake account. - Posted from rhpmobile I just have way too much time on my hands! Peachy, would probably be accused of being male if she hadn't really met real people at real events, even if it was some time ago...
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RHP User
7 years ago
My post was intended to get reactions, thank you for not disappointing.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
7 years ago
Which state they have their STI results printed out and ready for viewing. Those results become obsolete the minute you walk out the doctor's door and indulge in any type of bodily fluid exchange...kissing, oral, penetration...you guys know the rest 😆 And that includes anyone in your life, not just sex partners. Some STIs don't show up in tests until after a period of time, sometimes tests dont cover ALL STIs. To rely on STI tests as a guarantee someone is "clean" is foolish at best, and dare I say incredibly naive.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Upyaws' My post was intended to get reactions, thank you for not disappointing.. - Posted from rhpmobile Dude, you got like 4 reactions and they were all pretty lukewarm and mundane. You're going to claim that as a successful troll? You certainly set a low bar for yourself.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'deepest___purple'Quoting 'Upyaws' My post was intended to get reactions, thank you for not disappointing.. Dude, you got like 4 reactions and they were all pretty lukewarm and mundane. You're going to claim that as a successful troll? You certainly set a low bar for yourself. I couldn't be bothered! Peachy, count me out, some people can't tell when others are taking the piss apparently...
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Hubby sounds nice at least.....
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
The report of 2wild came from me
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
I usually let gender based derogatory comments against me slide. But as has been pointed out to me, this is the very reason other trans/tv/CD do not post regularly in here Its 2018. Get over it.
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wildcrazyloving
7 years ago
For safety i will only meet people who message via a mobile number prior to a meeting. I assess body language in a meeting. Is the person respecting my personal space? The eyes can offer insight into their mental health state/ drug use. How do they interact with the staff at the venue? Tone can offer more truth than their opinions. I have witnessed two men displaying deranged animalistic behaviour just before orgasm and there was no prior warning signs. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
‘I have witnessed two men displaying deranged animalistic behaviour just before orgasm and there was no prior warning signs.‘ That sounds so horrifying. I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through that - Posted from rhpmobile
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ElectricDreamers
7 years ago
"For me when I hear “She likes women, but loves cock’ you that’s an immediate back off signal as the level of interest in fem fem play isn’t the same as the level of interest in male female play." I would actually disagree with that comment, it describes me, and a number of wonderfully playful bi women I have been lucky enough to encounter. It's ladies who list as experimental who aren't going to give you what you're looking for... Our verbal red flags are just extensions of profile ticks, and cheating... Why sort your own marriage out just to enable someone-else in fucking up theres... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Some common thread with alarm bells and then some that comes from experience and are unique to us and what we are after and have to offer. Assessing how someone treats others in a public place like a bar or restaurant (ef staff) is a good one I never thought of - it would give an insight into who they are as a person and the level of tickets that they may have on themselves.. Alarm bells for me is when they seem to only respond to my partner in a group chat.. If there’s more than two people involved include everyone in the chat otherwise I can begin to feel that I’m left out and that their focus may be more on him than me... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
* When your choices are to "meet first and play later" but you get invited to a play date, or get pressured to meet shortly after the first flirt or 4 messages..... * Don't see why people are complaining about ongoing messages.....sure if you pick up they just stalling to meet by all means drop the chat...but getting to know people by chatting about everyday stuff is a good start for us... * When they can't string together a couple of words and instead get minimal chatter (4 or less words), chances are we expect there won't be much talking before or after a meetup....no point for us - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
As a single woman im prone to be targeted by lot of fake profiles on here...here some examples I've come across... Couple profile only contains male face pics on gallery but can only show hers via kik Couple profile where the guy uses 2 kik usernames and pretending her and him are chatting - this is very common Guy profile looking for woman for one to one but later advises looking for couples or women to play with him and wife I tend to be on alert at times but they still get you lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
You have a good point there, maybe I have judged unfairly in that department with that comment however it has happened numerous times to me whereby it has turned out the female isn’t into women, hasn’t thought about wanting to be with a woman or has in the past and it hasn’t ignited her fire and that those words are coming from the man who wants to try to drive things towards a meet whilst compromising his own partners wants and needs simply to (assuming only here) fulfill his own. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
For us is how we establish if we all get along. If we can’t get along holding a normal every day conversation about mundane day to day things then how are we going to get along in real life. Conversation for us so key to establishing connection. People are more than just bodies. They are minds. Stimulate the mind stimulate the body. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I completely agree with the chat. While I like a cheeky chat it seems all some people (particularly the guys) wantbto do is send dick pics, wanking videos and talk dirty. That's all well and good but I also want to talk about the mundane things. We are... well most of us lol, only human after all and being on RHP for extra curricular adult activities doesn't always mean shove your dick and filth talk in my face. The ability to have a real conversation will win me over much quicker. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I have found that fron a male perspective 85% of profiles on here woukd be fake or time wasters.....newbies profiles that are still around in a month are few. Flirts and then profiles gone. Or an exchange of kik or ph. Number then there profile is gone. Big quesrion is what posses people to do this??? Why on earth....how sad can they be. I talk to a few other male users and we have made mention of people we are sure fake. Laugh is on them. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
To much this to much that.. not enought this not enough that. Everyone us trying to complement or get complements to not offend and to build a relationship to have sex. Sometimes the best way it to just stick to sex some times not. Everyone wants others to lust over them but then if they dont do it how some think it should be done they bag them out as scammers or fakes or rude... This site is full of a lot of unapprocable people who want never ending attention more so than sex... lol its quite a paradox... - Posted from rhpmobile
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SandeGiny
7 years ago
No. You can see my face. My nudes are reserved for people who have physically undressed me... Also, those thirstyboys who only message during the early hours on a Friday or Saturday. Worse, when they're clearly drunk. Couples who'd "like to try a threesome" even after I wrote a lengthy profile which includes my preference to not be "something you try" Empty bio. "Just ask" - OMFG that is what that section "about me" and "what I'm looking for" is for... Torso or Dick Pic in profile. "How about you show me your gallery and I might send you a pic of my face" People who criticize me for writing a lengthy bio. Why? It's saved me from repeating myself many times, particularly when asked "so what do you like/want?" Even then, I still get asked. Sigh. *Insert Patrick Stewart facepalm gif* And then there those who abuse after a polite "Sorry I dont think we are a good match but thankyou". "Thankyou for self-vetting". BLOCK. - Posted from rhpmobile
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SandeGiny
7 years ago
Naw hon. The perils of living in country VIC eh? I'd love to catch up next time I'm enroute to Bendigo... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I get sex but I get it from people whom I’ve established trust with... if I want a wham bam thank you ma’am then I’ll head to the pub or couple club for nameless sex. Alarm bells develops because we’ve been burnt before. So we move forwar cautiously from experiences. I can’t count the amount of times I think to myself that I’m just not good enough for people. I look after myself and go to the gym, well I’m not someone’s type because if that. I want to participate in conversations and have a say well I’m not someone’s type because I have a mind of my own and want to contribute.. I am the most plain person you’ll come across, I’m simple and shy and honest but fail to find women as part of a couple or as a single who will give me a chance - the men want me but not women? What the bloody hell is wrong with me? So yes I have alarm bells, yes they stem from not seeming to meet anything anyone wants and yes they stem from bad experiences. I won’t apoligise for my alarm bells - sometimes you’ve just got to trust your gut and mostly that’s where those alarm bell moments come from. I’ll get my sex and when I do it’ll be an all out nothing left behind experience but until then I’ll let my alarm bells protect me.. And rant over 🤣🤣 - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
"For me when I hear “She likes women, but loves cock’ you that’s an immediate back off signal as the level of interest in fem fem play isn’t the same as the level of interest in male female play." I would actually disagree with that comment, it describes me, and a number of wonderfully playful bi women I have been lucky enough to encounte no alarm bells here for that one mrs b is not bi but loves a bit of fun and sexy time with girls as a form of build up ,fun and foreplay ,it’s a great ice breaker ,but have found many that say the same but are deffinately not ,best way to find out if they are is kissing ,we have found that if they aren’t into it they kiss like frozen crabs ,lol,saying all that we actually had this chat and she said exactly that mrs b said i like playing with girls but i love dick ,and if it came to choosing ,a good dick and man would always be the winning choice our alarm bells are ,ummmmmm ummmmmmmm damn we don’t have any ,we are slow for the penny to drop and it’s more of a deep thud and clunk than any bells of any type 😂 that’s why we prefer to just catch up with peeps we don’t know while we are already out and about instead of sifting through the lies and bullshit we don’t have time for that ,😨 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Levels of interaction we require with the same sex and the opposite sex. I want a woman to want to go down on me as much as she wants to go down on her man or my partner... I want that full experience with a woman, not just a little kiss and fondle as a warm up then switch over to the men for the main game (poor analogy I know) but that’s the beauty of this site and of being individuals - my alarm bells don’t have to be anyone else’s. What I want from an experience isn’t necessarily going to be what every female wants from an experience. We are unique and different and I also feel we grow and change as we have more experiences. There’s no right or wrong alarm bells. But there is what’s right or wrong for you as a couple. And again the beauty of this site is coming across others and hopefully finding someone to match your needs... sadly we are still looking but remain hopeful. - Posted from rhpmobile
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1979FunInTheSun
7 years ago
I think Peachy 'Too much negativity', Pipsqueak on the money with feeling the need to bag the ex/previous fuckbuddy and Foxxxy 'Sounding dodgy' in general sum it up for me. Although I've had a few experiences with women being bossy and demanding early on which is funny at least. Maybe assuming every single guy profile is a desperate advertisement putting forward their case for their attention lol It is tricky finding the sweet spot when writing a profile though I've found. Too much detail can look too forward or needy whereas keeping too safe can come across vanilla and boring. But that's slightly off topic. Kyf 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Most already mentioned. Also, go Foxy you nailed it. Victim playing, crazy ex. They can get very good at this. They get well practised act acting naive and like they still dont understand what was happening to win sympathy. Sometimes slowly drip feeding glossed over stories about the ex. Im like.. Dont screw a crazy chick or dont piss her off hey. These guys always end up pulling some responsibility evading stunt. I love to act like its totally cool you stood me up and now not making it up to me. What a shame the crazy ex is still stalking you.. Ive got crazy chicks back. Messaging prolifically whilst at work. Expecting me to answer quickly all the time. Even sending question marks or smart comments. Calling me a c u next tuesday.. happens a lot. Lame profiles. Demanding to see my pics first. Trying to navigate away from the site to show more pics. Its like after uploading the dic pic they loose the ability to upload more. Messaging too often, daily. Acting to cutesy. Whingeing... boo hoo poor me.. im old, money , women etc.. something their missing out on. Know it alls... please shut up... Oh and unsolicited dick pics and wanking videos. Seriously? Turn up with it and put it to work i say. What goods it to me on the screen? - Posted from rhpmobile
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GANGBANGBOYZ
7 years ago
We are experienced swinger, we fuck on the first date so do a lot of our genuine friends and they all say the same thing, the time wasters wear you down, the fakes, the flakes, the pretenders. The people who want to ask endless questions, won;t put up a picture, have no private pictures, can not provide a genuine recent picture of him, interview you like your going to marry them, not meet to fuck. And people who can not talk on the phone, or get her to. If you can not handle a phone call, what are you going to do face to face?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Pictures of Pictures including screenshots Peachy
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sensualplay
7 years ago
We have already commented on this thread. But yesterday reminded us of it. Yesterday a person made a simple contact (on another site), after 2 interactions or so seemed we we not on the same page really. Then it came more messages, several winks requesting a message back, all in the space of a couple of hours as if we are on call to his questions, then he wanted a phone number. errr, in the first response we were clear that we have busy lives ? .... Not sure what drives people to push so hard even before they have a toe in the door ...lol .... better to filter at this point though I suppose than having gone to the trouble of meeting and discovering pushiness/desperation I wonder if it ever works for these people?
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RedHotCoast
7 years ago
People who ask for PGs without sending theirs first. Almost always time wasters and probably won't send their pics.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I just don’t do full stop... best way to get me to dig my heels in and get me off side... Whether it be in not responding timely enough to their messages (as per their own perceptions of timely enough) or demanding to see pics .. When they also don’t respond after seeing your pics says a lot about them as people as well... if we don’t match what you want then at least a simple thanks guys but not what we are looking for message can be sent.. so if they don’t have the common courtesy to do that then it says a lot about them.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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