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Feeling rejected?
March 22 2018
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RHP User
8 years ago
Totally agree..thats how he law of courtship work. Male/Man needs to come up with the most enticing approach to outstand from the others.. even if the result was from a naive..the effort put in counts. It is jackpot if the female/woman has the ability to respect the effort and is attracted physically as well. If no..then it's a no..atleast he tried..and made her smile. Men need to enjoy rejection and enjoy the struggle to get her(and when you get her..bang the hell out of her for making you wait), rather than walking in here for an easy catch..like buying bread from a servo. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Nothing wrong with your response at all and frankly he should have been happy you responded. I like to thank a lass for responding even if it with a simple or automated no as my pet hate is not having my message responded to just left, yeah I know it's no response means no before you ladies smack me about as there is a massive men to women ratio difference but I am sorry I am of the old tradition of courtesy. So I think the guy was lucky. Kudos to you Ella for responding and you will always cop an asshole or two here just the nature of any singles site.
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RHP User
8 years ago
A ratio of 60-2 is simplified to 30-1. Nerd alert, I know... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We have seen it at its worst, once we have said no based on distance, honestly, then what followed was actually the worst we have experienced.. there will always be some, ....so we are still here and hoping to meet the right ones.. nice people, nice fun.. (oh, and we have met some amazing people here that balance it out to make it worthwhile)..
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nightingale8
8 years ago
If I'm not interested, unless of course they have specifically requested one. This was because I once contacted a girl when my partner and I were looking. We got a no (which was fine) but it didn't feel very nice. From then on I have gone on the assumption that the more polite thing to do is not answer. I figured (many) single men don't get many responses so when the only one you get is a no, it's a bit ego deflating. The other issue is that I often don't have the time to and have occasionally gotten back to people months later when I've been in the right mood. Way I look at is is, there's no harm in asking a question so long as it's not lewd or degrading, even if the person doesn't fit the profile's stipulated criteria (meh, people are opportunists). But if asking a question to remember it's only a request and no demand for an answer will be received nicely. Play nice pies ❤ - Posted from rhpmobile
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aussian43
8 years ago
Usually if I get an actual message rejecting me, I send a thank you for responding and wish them luck. Quite understandably as your experience shows, most women don't respond. No idea why you would want to lash out over it, too many keyboard warriors hiding behind a screen. Stay on here as a male for any length of time soon get used to rejection! ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You are right. LC.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Finally in this forum.. I find a good intellectual topic to talk...thanks @ellaella29 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I feel that if someone is so brittle and insecure that they need to respond to a “no thank you”.... with abuse.... .... then I firmly believe you’ve dodged a bullet. That same self absorbed and entitled attitude is extremely likely to let you down at a later point, and perhaps in a considerably more difficult way and at a more intimate occasion. It’s a douche move, born from very ego and self interested behaviour - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
And often do get an abusive msg back, along the same lines as meander. Then you have the ones you said no to, that then msg every second day until I have to block. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
When I get declined politely I thank them for their reply. At the time of posting the ratio is 449:2931, or about 6.5:1.
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FeistyFatty
8 years ago
Reply. Find it absolutely ignorant and downright rude not to to be honest. Im always short and sweet in my rejections and wish them well Also always thank them for their message and try to incorporate a nice comment or compliment (if possible). Following this formula the worst (which isnt bad) that ive received in return was, "Thats a shame, your loss Hun". Politeness and manners cost nothing and it would br nice if more women and couples could make more of an effort in that respect. Put ourselves in the shoes of the single male profile holders, cant be easy or feel too nice. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Hawt1
8 years ago
Rejection happens, fact of life. You can take it with grace or act like a child.I even thank them for taking that time and wish them the best. I dont think less of people not replying at all, but it is nice to think someone took the time. Especially as it is so rare.. but this is just a male's perspective. (Secretly when I was overseas I did get a kick out of seeing women get rejected as the men were after the more exotic natives, funny and so peculiar to see the shoe on the other foot for a change)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Million dollar question What do they want or need? Often they ask for Champaign and glug down Jacks & Coke In being on RHP since 2012 I can honestly say I have had two real ladies contact me who know what they want and where spot on with what they got. Many just ignore messages or likes or flirts etc I appreciate a simple " no thanks you not my type " or " you a bit old for me or too short lol (yes I'm short an d old lol) or simply no chemistry spark" And as I have said I have only got two approaches from ladies ( one I've been seeing on and off for five years now, so I must be doing something right) Back in the good old days before so much online profiling and shit-short-listing we had dinner dates for a group of ten to twenty or a couples and singles party out at Wanneroo and we met the real people face to face and did not have to deal with the fake profiles and make believe images That's my view Oh and often it's nice to banter and flirt before you just come straight out and demand a root for the night. What happened to sexual tension and courtship? - Posted from rhpmobile
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SugarSugar69
8 years ago
Yes I've been called every name you can think of because I replied thanks but no thanks. This morning a guy messaged me demanding I answer all he's questions otherwise I'd get blocked and I woudn't want that because I'd be missing out on the time of my life 😂...... I reminded him what manners were and to use them. Then I blocked him. Some assume being on RHP means we are desperate! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
"Don't let the bad apples spoil the whole pie.." I like your culinary quips, Meander. On point, as always. 🙄
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FunLoving
8 years ago
Why is there a need to reply if there is no attraction. It is a rejection in itself but not meant personally. we all value differently. I mr thinks it is worse replying saying thank you for the reply but you are not my type. Any reply should always be polite to stop hurting somebody else. If getting a bad response I think we should not lower ourselves to that level and ignore it. just my openion
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RHP User
8 years ago
And yes.. Not hearing back or getting a no thanks does sting a little.. But that's life. it's like all the profiles you matched but skipped over because I didn't think they were my type based on my assessment.... I always say at the end of a message- Feel free to reply if you'd like to chat further, if not, hope you find what you are looking for..... Or something to that effect... I'm certainly not everybody's cup of tea.. Just like lots on here aren't mine.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
(Fuckboy at dinner) Fuckboy: I'll have the peacan pie. Waitress: Sorry, were out. Fuckboy: Haha OMG 😂😂😂 you really think I wanted it bitch? Your pie is nasty AF. The worst in town. Get a clue honey. I literally live in a pecan pie factory.
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HungGent
8 years ago
That's all I could think about too ...
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RHP User
8 years ago
That I’ve ever felt as though I was rejected... I don’t usually ask though....which helps a lot :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
not to reply. If someone has sent me a message, clearly not reading MY profile or the things I'm after or interested in, why is it rude if I don't reply? Isn't it rude of them to assume MY wants and needs don't matter only their's do if I'll only give them a chance to prove that everything I want is unimportant in the face of their interest and I should feel flattered?!?(Have actually been told something along these lines when I did reply to a message once!) Also, not sure how many guys are aware of the fact that SOME women on RHP (not ALL) are actually friends, have met and catch up and talk about RHP stuff...including the messages they get. A couple of us realised only last weekend we've received the same 'cut and paste' message word for word from the same 'gentleman' (using the term loosely considering the suggestion he sent in his message). I don't think it's bad etiquette not to reply, no guilt here at all.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don’t like the generic messages or just ‘hi’.... if you aren’t going to entice me with your message I’m not going to reply... I had no photo for ages and I would get a generic message from lots of guys who would say ‘love your pics, would love to meet you’.... my reply would be something like ‘I think you were meant to message someone with pics and accidentally sent one to me... but thanks for trying’... and then I block them cause they obviously aren’t interested in me, they are just hoping someone will reply and they get lucky guys who respond ‘you are too fat for me anyway’ when you reject them are not worth a further message so I block them. I think guys take rejection worse than women do.... if someone doesn’t reply back to me I don’t care... move along, there’s plenty more that will reply I don’t agree that you need to reply to everyone, even if they ‘demand a reply’... a ‘hi’ message from a profile that has no pic and no content is just going to be blocked to guarantee I won’t get any further messages from that person - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Wow! What a response. I feel the need to reply I think that’s more polite than not replying even if we do get a lot of messages I feel the automated message is better than none! But when I sent back the automated message your not my type you don’t match what I’m after blah blah be replied yeah I do , and then abused me ... I was shocked! And then he blocked me not only was my first thought — how rude and immature! Secondly I was thinking just because you fit a few traits doesn’t mean anything — I’m not attracted to you and your too far away. There is a number of reasons why I say no. Not just based on your profile or your intro message. I know a lot of guys treat this site like tinder - and expect us to jump in their pants as soon as they say hi. Not all of us are like that — one person in this conversation made a good point about courtship! Whatever happened to getting to know someone , or asking questions. Making real conversation?? Where’s your social skills at or has Facebook eradicated that? But girls , I can’t believe guys actually reply with your too fat for me anyways !! What the hell! I would be livid. They need to bring you down to their level all because they are upset they have been rejected ... Woooow! That is truly shocking! I suppose it’s like when your at a club and a guy chats to you and you say I’m not interested he goes your a Effin sl-t! Yeah , I’m one of those because I won’t talk to you - go figure! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
@ Eiliethiya - 😂😂😂 sooo true! I have other friends on RHP that are not on my friends list as well. We once received the exact same “copy and paste” message from the same person word for word as well! What did we do? Arranged a double date with both of us there! 🤓😜 classic. I wonder if it’s the same man...? Also had a girl contact me to tell me someone was trying to arrange to see her on a date when she knew full well we had already discussed our plans. 6 degrees of separation. But not only do women talk, men do too. My friends are mostly good mates who got my back too. They love me and appreciate me and will warn me of “undesirable “ reputations. Boys... there’s is still mateship and community online,,, tread carefully 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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gazpacho
8 years ago
We would have been a great match up to the point where you said 60:2, that would bring me undone and I’d have to excuse myself to buy a drink or something. 🤩
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think it’s important for me to also contribute to this question. It’s actually 7.5 to 2 on account of the couples searching unicorns.... or something.
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RHP User
8 years ago
There is no excuse for men that disrespect ladies due to being rejected. We all face rejection now and then, that's life. I'm sure that there are plenty of positive experiences though to compensate for the bad - Posted from rhpmobile
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Dorey12
8 years ago
Even though I am here still, I have just given up on trying to anything because there is just way to many guys and not enough ladies.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Damned lies... & statistics.
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's an old subject here...about the ratio of men to women( and always relevant )...but I've never thought of it as being too many men to women. The men are plenty interesting to yak with on the forums...and it does drive me to shine a bit.It's more that "The Chase" is not worth my effort here. It's been a while, and I only gave it a go for a short while years ago...but the rejection, the sometimes blunt or even condescending replies...that can't be healthy to hear a lot of.And it's not natural behaviour either. People don't usually behave that way face to face.Best to stay out of that rat race, I felt.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I’m essentially a good person with a high level of empathy. I do feel bad if I am rejecting someone (unless they’ve been disrespectful) . Whatever the hell the ratio is, (let’s not get pedantic people 🤓) I found it easier for me to make a note on my profile from the beginning, before ANY message is sent to me. I’ve made note to read profile before contacting me! Then if they choose to put themselves out there, they may already have an idea of what possible rejection lies ahead. I also noted that any profile with NSA or non matching profile or no photo may not even receive a reply. Guilt eradicated and m time saved. That alone has reduced the intake of time wasters, disrespect and unwarranted sleazy contact. Essentially only those with genuine interest took the plunge to contact me 🤗 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I sent EllaElla29 a flirt after reading her profile stating tall guys were a real turn on for her, i guess 193cms wasn’t tall enough 😔 and received a swift sorry no thanks, good luck with your search 👍🏻 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'ThreeWhiteSox' I sent EllaElla29 a flirt after reading her profile stating tall guys were a real turn on for her, i guess 193cms wasn’t tall enough 😔 and received a swift sorry no thanks, good luck with your search 👍🏻 - Posted from rhpmobile of a guy thinking that because he fits one or two of the preferences in a woman's profile, that means she'll automatically be interested. I like guys with dark hair and glasses. That doesn't mean I want to fuck every guy in the world who has dark hair and wears glasses. I very much doubt that you were rejected because you weren't tall enough.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Obviously, was being sarcastic 😳 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes, I realised you were probably being sarcastic about that bit (although it wasn't obvious). I was also being sarcastic with that bit of my reply (also not very obvious, granted).
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
Obviously, I'm too short for you. (* Chuckles sarcastically) 😇 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Now that is just tooo funny 😂 Quoting 'SugarSugar69' Yes I've been called every name you can think of because I replied thanks but no thanks. This morning a guy messaged me demanding I answer all he's questions otherwise I'd get blocked and I woudn't want that because I'd be missing out on the time of my life 😂...... I reminded him what manners were and to use them. Then I blocked him. Some assume being on RHP means we are desperate! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ahh rejection, good old confidence dashing lash of rejection....sting it does but no point getting bent up about it, I’m just glad to get a reply in the first place....if she responds with a “sorry not my type...” I’m just happy she responded at all!!! A shout out to the ladies who respond, even if it is a “thanks but no thanks..” 😘😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Put something in your profile description that asks for it to be mentioned in a message. Read the message and if the sender hasn't read your profile then block. Alot of people online approach and do things they wouldn't have the audacity to do in real time. You are absolutely right to reply with what you did, I don't get bruised if I don't receive a reply, I will message and not expect a response as attraction is multi faceted. - Posted from rhpmobile
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nightingale8
8 years ago
Don't get bogged down on the details, 60% of all statistics are made up. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Cop it on the chin and move on simple......everyone gets rejected in some way, if having to respond with abuse after even getting a response you deserve to be constantly rejected. When I get rejected via message I simply reply with a thank you for even taking the time to respond and good luck with your search. I see the ratio of women to men on here the same as going to a club or pub so I can understand the amount of interest women would get on here. - Posted from rhpmobile
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SandeGiny
8 years ago
Seriously some people (not just men, might I add) on multiple platforms, have been downright disgusting to me. I've been called every name under the sun and even threatened with physical violence. All because I politely declined. Apparently some read descriptors in my profile such as "poly", "bi" and "submissive" as "will fuck everyone who offers". This is NOT the case. It means I know who I am, what I want, communicate well and have respect for myself and my lovers. These people make it easy to separate the wheat from the chaff so for your baldfaced abuse after nothing more than an initial exchange and polite decline, I say "thankyou". I must also disagree with the people saying "the old fashioned way of meeting people is better". As a single woman with only partnered friends, I'm much more comfortable meeting people here and blocking them if I need to now in an online forum than going out solo, meeting and picking up and risking anything untoward happening IRL. That said, once I've vetted to ensure they arent a psychopath, the dating process follows traditional path: meet in public, coffee, a meal etc. Also, I want to point out for those on the "shallow generation of dating, everyone's so quick to judge when online" bandwagon, next time you're walking down the street, standing at a bar, dawdling down the supermarket aisle, sitting at traffic lights... think about how you're naturally looking around and making snap judgements of the fuckability of everyone around you. We do it automatically. The only difference here or on tinder is that when someone approaches us, we have a bio right there to break the ice... and if there isn't one, or if it sucks, that's just another layer of reason to say "Thanks, but not for me. All the best though :)" But yeah agreed. I'm tired of the abusive snowflakes out there, but you get it everywhere. Block and report. I don't lose sleep over them. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I had to laugh when i read this because it happens several times a day for me. I used to respond but now i just don't anymore. If guys aren't prepared to put a little bit of effort in, then im not prepared to put any effort at all and use my energy on those that are. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Still waiting for you to reply to my flirt, at least Ella didn’t leave me hanging 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I totally agree as im still new on here ive tried to message alot of girls who i think i find attractive and who are my type i have hardly heard from anyone but ill just keep looking and wait for the right one to respond i guess but its true u should make an effort to atleast introduce yourself but sometimes i wish the guys would get bombarded with messages too lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We used to politely respond, but stopped replying after rude and abusive responses. Our female friends get some horrible msgs when they reject guys and the rejection is never done in a nasty way. It's the main reason we rarely look for guys anymore. It's sad that it's so hard to find nice guys that have the right kind of attraction for us. Perhaps the site could give a good rating system to nice people (not just validations) and red flags to those whose behaviour is undesirable. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'd just be happy to find someone within 300kms that I find attractive enough to initiate contact.. Wouldn't even be mad if I got knocked back after that little 🦄... 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Why do some people seem to have a hard time fathoming that they might necessarily be everyone's cup of tea so to speak. Sure, certain people here will be what you are looking for, but that doesn't mean you are what they are looking for. You gave them a polite response. Take it with grace and move on, theres no need to attack people for a respectful and honest response. Seems some people sign up here assuming it's just a quick way to get laid. We are still people with feelings and emotions, treat others with respect and who knows what might happen if you find the right person!
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think it's good manners to reply with a polite not interested...find it absolutely hilarious when they reply with a nasty comment in response considering their previous message was them showing interest. 😂😂 Reinforces that I made the right choice & dodged a bullet. 👍 I have found the majority of males in this site to be polite & respectful. Only used the block button once 😀 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Experience has taught me to simply ignore the messages from guys I'm not interested in. Why? Because in the past when I've been polite and replied by telling them I wasn't interested, I've then received abusive insults. Some guys I even have to block because they are so persistent with their name calling on here. I think there's a mentality from some people that they have paid to be on here and are therefore guaranteed any woman they approach as if we were all escorts waiting for them. It still doesn't excuse the behaviour though. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
This is exactly why I don’t reply at all because I can’t deal with the abusive responses afterwards. It’s not that I am not courteous its juat that 8/10 guys respond abusively so I just don’t set myself up for that situation, sorry to the other 2/10 guys that are actually nice and understanding x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think there is that initial second of hurt that comes from being knocked back. I sometimes more disappointed. But once that split second has passed I personally am glad that they were honest and I can move on. No regrets, rolled the dice and lost. Not everyone has the same taste! I do think it dam right rude and petty to then abuse or slander that person! Manners cost nothing after all!!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well, there is a topic worth talking about, "Feeling Rejected" I have met a few guys on here, not heaps and only 3 I've seen more than once Most of the others are what I have named "One Meet Wonders" I am a BIG Person and I tell anyone that I might chat with on here or elsewhere that too.Other guys I have met have got their "Rocks Off" and that was it. So Yeah I know the feeling of being rejected quite well, and I'm quite sure its because I am a BIG Person I get very down when I think there might've been a click of some sort (even if its just for the Sex) and I neverhear from them again. I'm not here for a relationship, I'd just like to meet someone on a regular basis. Not justwhen they feel like it. They will be some out there that will say I'm being childish or stupid, but guess what DILLIGAF
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Hawt1
8 years ago
Of inexcusable entitled abusive behaviour. Ladies I'm sorry on behalf of decent guys anyway.. I feel ashamed because of the abusers.
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babygirl246
8 years ago
Ahhhh the “nice guy” They truly are everywhere and don’t get me wrong women can be just as bad, but you tube or google it! This is where the term friend zone originated... This generation is full of people with a sense of entitlement and when they get told no instead of realising that people have the right to be attracted to who they’re attracted to, they assume the other party owes them something. Last week I received a barrage of abusive messages because I didn’t respond quickly enough while enduring a migraine. The funny thing is I was interested until I opened the message and saw how horrible that person was willing to treat me just because they didn’t get their own way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
When i first came onto this site i recieved around 800 messages, slowly slowly i tried to message everyone back explaining how inundated i was and still am. I received so much abuse from one guy that has actually stayed with me because of his strange behaviour and the fact that he told me i held 200 pounds in one arm. But funny that now i have changed my profile name he has contacted me again. My body shape hasn't changed and he's the only guy that was like this. I'm always polite and if that offends a guy its their problem. 🤣 and on the other end of the spectrum i don't get offended of rejection because im not everyones cup of tea. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Personally I'd rather be rejected than no reply. At least it's certain that way. But I fully understand ladies get inundated with messages and may not be possible to read, let alone answer them all. Rejection is part of life, in all aspects of life, some people need to grow up, accept it and move on. Personally I do not understand why it's a problem for people. Certain people are just so self entitled these days and do not cope. - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
I guess coming from the other side you will never know what others intentions or perceptions are. I wouldn’t assume it’s you. Attraction is a strange thing and multifaceted. I can tell you that I have done the exact same thing. I met them, liked them a bit, sex was OK...sometimes great, but the attraction was not strong enough to meet again. (I don’t usually ghost but) There was nothing at all wrong with them. It was just how it played out. I guess I was probably getting my rocks off? But you can’t know if you like someone till you meet them and even then it’s complicated. All I’m saying to you and I guess everyone else is don’t just assume it’s you or there’s something wrong with you? Connection can be elusive especially today when your next partner is basically just a click away. It’s changed the way people become intimate. Maybe for the worst in many ways. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
As a woman, I totally agree and you are not in the wrong! Before I met my partner and used dating sites I often experienced the same thing - I was inundated with messages from guys and I tried to reply to as many as I could but it wasn’t easy as I didn’t have the time to sit on there for hours and hours on end sifting and replying to every one of them. I mostly just went with Hii, thanks for your message but you’re not what I’m looking for, all the best. And then there were messages where they’d reply being all cut up about me rejecting them and I just blocked and deleted because once I replied to defend myself and fueling fire just makes it worse, lesson learnt lol Thankfully I don’t have to deal with that anymore but yes easiest way is just be polite in your responses as you’ve been and if they come back all hateful block them. All the best :) L x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
@threewhitesox — there’s many other reasons why I declined you! Height is something I am attracted to, but there was many other reasons why I said no to you! An automated message is a lot easier to send than to write out a huge list of why I don’t like you I have ten thousand things to do , I am barley on here . An automated message is easier to decline! If I was doing an intro message , I would put the effort in there. Everyone is getting all pedantic over the statistics I used ‘60-2’ I was showing it as an example there are way more guys than girls on here , calm down people. It’s only an example! - Posted from rhpmobile
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FireHorse101
8 years ago
It never fails to amaze me how guest members, whom pay nothing, complain about all the messages and how much work it is to sift through the messages they receive. Its very reactive rather then proactive being a guest ie. you get what you dont pay for yet even paid members receive unwanted messages however they can be more proactive with their time by sending messages. There are tools and your profile write up to reduce this-yes it wont never stop it, yet do many use these tools? Remember paid members keep these sites afloat, no doubt and some other similar sites give unpaid members restricted access to many options, many more then RHP
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RHP User
8 years ago
So what if a person is rejected!!! Sometimes it works out and sometimes it does not. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I sent a polite message off to a couple, I received a reply.... if you weren’t old enough to be her father and you looked like a model you might have had a chance!!! Age range they stipulated was 18 - 99 yrs. a simple sorry not who we are looking for would have sufficed. Really pissed me off !! Treat people with respect!!
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RHP User
8 years ago
This is so interesting. Let me first start of by saying I don't care about you or your feelings. I don't owe you a thing... You have the power to say NO and then BLOCK to avoid potentially abusive replies. Thank you for taking the time to reply and saying "no" instead of the 99% of women on here who just ignore. But that abusive reply YOU get is because of the 99% of your sisters on this site ignore messages. You happen to be the outlet of male frustration. Because they dont owe the men on this site anything. But being ignored is terrible - but who cares right. Its the internet and you are safe behind your computer. Should people put effort in am introduction. Meh. I used a photo of a good looking caucasion male and got matches like crazy with not so much as a word on a dating app. This means attraction online is visually based and hence "hi here are my pics" should be more than enough. I honestly don't care if you get abusive messages. Just block and move on. I try to take reject on the chin and sure... I send 25 messages a week and get a reply once a month. Thats life as a male on this site. I do get frustrated when the reply is "sorry, only find white guys attractive" Kam - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
How dare any of us not have sex with total randoms that brave the wastes of the internet to arduously construct a sentence, or refusal to acknowledge a flirt. For we are truly terrible people for not paying attention to the nether regions of these individuals as reward for all their struggles. Our personal desires, attractions be damned! Jokes. 😂 But seriously. We don’t owe anyone anything. Sex is a privilege you give to someone that’s worthy of it, when they tick the boxes. If you can’t handle rejection you really are pathetic petulant child. Fact - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
At any time if you click on the "Online now" button in the top right hand corner just below web cam chat you will see a breakdown of the members online, men, women and couples seeking any of those three. Right now it's about 430 women seeking 2850 men. In the couples section 497 couples are seeking men and 1711 couples are seeking women. So there you have it, RHP's own statistics. You can also break it down state by state.
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RHP User
8 years ago
My ratio I'd about 1750:1 And this is not about rejection, but just any answer to my message :) Always rejected, but that's different story - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Totally agree with your post and I do have to say that I received a response just like that. Not interested so I responsed with... "Thanks for taking the time to respond (as most don't) and all the best in your search". Only to receive... "Fuck off loser" No names, no packdrill but seriously, was that necessary? Little vent over - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
As far as I’m concerned you don’t have the right to breathe oxygen on this site as it’s evident that you are not only a guest but a tight arse to boot. Obviously one of the perks of being a female is extra privileges to satisfy all your so called ( this is how it read) losers Ok I signed up without knowledge of the ratio of men to women on this site but lesson learnt and not on here very often. Out in the real world I went on a Swan River cruise and there were about 120 girls and 40 blokes, that’s the ratio in dating these days if your not using your pussy as a prize. Right or Wrong? I couldn’t give a stuff you're only a guest - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I try to respond to every message I receive and if there’s nothing to spark my interest, then I don’t see the point in wasting the guys time by engaging in conversation as that is not really what they are after in most cases. I’ve had mixed responses to my “no thanks” response. Some abuse me, some say thanks for responding and then I also have some ask me if they can improve their profile which I have responded to with suggestions which they are grateful. I also agree that it’s better to get a message that shows me that the guy actually read my profile and is interested in ME... and not just messaging whoever is on their hit list, hoping to score something. - Posted from rhpmobile
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lovetoplease68
8 years ago
Hey should be happy you let him know instead of letting him swing by his balls with no reply if rejected by a message it common courtesy to thank people for their response report and block them no time for it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
On a supposed straight dating site I had a lass put me on their likes list so I wrote. The reply was a shock I must say Fuck of you dirty, filthy bastard. And that was it. I really wanted to reply but hey who cares it bloody well cracked me up though taken aback. Haven't had a bad reply here just lucky to get one. So many messages so few replies. Son of a motherless goat
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Not_ur_ordinary
8 years ago
I will admit it can be a little downing to get an automated message back especially if you do put the effort in the message. I try to put effort into every message I send, especially if its the first one. When the effort is there it is nice to get a message back that isn't automated. I'd honestly rather no reply than an automated one. Obviously within saying all this you girls get alot more messages then we do. I was talking to a friend and she has more messages in a few days than I have had since I joined in October.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ah! I so can relate to this post. If I don't fancy someone now, I just delete and block. Being a bigger girl, it's the first abusive comment I get for politely saying 'good luck with your search'. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hey there, well i am a man that speaks his mind... yes it sounds like some are out there for self interest, but oh how they dont know what they are missing on. Big ladies are just as fun as a small lady - in fact there is more to cuddle and kiss with larger, and that ticks many boxes. Men get rejected too, so it does go both ways but i fully understand from a female perspective, there are more men that dont care, then the women. i always believe honesty is the key... say what you want, people know where they stand and that is the hope that leads to less rejection. Oh i am also after the same as you... Fun, ongoing, regular, not a r/ship
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RHP User
8 years ago
Silly men i say.... they wont know what they are missing out on.. honesty is damn sexyQuoting 'Boobylicious' Well, there is a topic worth talking about, "Feeling Rejected" I have met a few guys on here, not heaps and only 3 I've seen more than once Most of the others are what I have named "One Meet Wonders" I am a BIG Person and I tell anyone that I might chat with on here or elsewhere that too.Other guys I have met have got their "Rocks Off" and that was it. So Yeah I know the feeling of being rejected quite well, and I'm quite sure its because I am a BIG Person I get very down when I think there might've been a click of some sort (even if its just for the Sex) and I neverhear from them again. I'm not here for a relationship, I'd just like to meet someone on a regular basis. Not justwhen they feel like it. They will be some out there that will say I'm being childish or stupid, but guess what DILLIGAF
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Solace85' This is so interesting. Let me first start of by saying I don't care about you or your feelings. I don't owe you a thing... You have the power to say NO and then BLOCK to avoid potentially abusive replies. Thank you for taking the time to reply and saying "no" instead of the 99% of women on here who just ignore. But that abusive reply YOU get is because of the 99% of your sisters on this site ignore messages. You happen to be the outlet of male frustration. Because they dont owe the men on this site anything. But being ignored is terrible - but who cares right. Its the internet and you are safe behind your computer. Should people put effort in am introduction. Meh. I used a photo of a good looking caucasion male and got matches like crazy with not so much as a word on a dating app. This means attraction online is visually based and hence "hi here are my pics" should be more than enough. I honestly don't care if you get abusive messages. Just block and move on. I try to take reject on the chin and sure... I send 25 messages a week and get a reply once a month. Thats life as a male on this site. I do get frustrated when the reply is "sorry, only find white guys attractive" Kam - Posted from rhpmobile Which do you think is worse? Being ignored? Or being abused, called every name under the sun, and sometimes even threatened? I guess from your comment I already know the answer to that. Who cares what the women have to endure, all good just as long as you get your reply. And if we don't reply, that apparently justifies more abuse. Don't get why guys like you and Single_Discreet stay on RHP when you express such animosity towards the women here. None of us has a perfect experience here, there's crap to deal with no matter what gender you are. If you can't deal with that crap without acting like a petulant child then might be time to take your bat and ball and try a different game.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ratios I have only been on here a week and so far I’m finding it’s really boring and now this post above has confirmed what I suspected, I got the feeling that there must be far too many guys to choose from for the ladies and the male female ratio is way off, as in the ‘real world’ I actually do alright, but on here if you’re not 25, spending all day in the gym (I.e. poor), not quite at puberty yet - don’t look like what a real man looks like (non-shaved chest), u don’t seem to warrant a look in. I guess some people’s ‘preference lists’ are probably the reason they are single to begin with, just a tip, no one ever matches your ‘requirements list’ fully, everyone settles, and your current and past partners have for you too. Regardless, I still don’t think people should get angry at you for not jumping them immediately, i think it’s just a case of excellent intuition by you EllaElla29 and consider it a bullet dodged! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Not_ur_ordinary
8 years ago
Quoting 'jasondiscrete77'on here if you’re not 25, spending all day in the gym (I.e. poor), not quite at puberty yet - don’t look like what a real man looks like (non-shaved chest), u don’t seem to warrant a look in. Unfortunately even being those things doesn't get you attention on here....
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RHP User
8 years ago
Please share your many reasons i’d love to know? And the main reason I sent you a flirt was 1) because im a guest only and could only send you an automated flirt and 2) liked your profile and thought you seemed intelligent and attractive. It seems to me and a few others on here that you actually enjoy humiliating and rejecting men. We all know as previously discussed in the ratio of men to women on here that women hold all the power and some seem to enjoy waving the wand of rejection. P.s. Thanks for saying ‘NO’ i feel like i dodged a bullet there 👍🏻 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
When you get mails and you feel there is no connection or compatibility by replying a simple no thanks and best of luck, it seems most people don't appreciate it or able to handle it.. so begins the next mails of abusive name callings and etc. Blocking becomes my last option as i dont never such negativity when I just want to have some naughty fun. Not everyone is meant to click. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi Ella ,your so lovely even bothering posting this,fair bump play on,dont even batter an eyelid at the needy dipshit,he's probably just venting and pissed off his monthly moisterizer bill is so high.Yes as an attractive,seemingly very intelligent appeling woman ,your definately the "prize" so relax,take your time to "circle your prey" a few times before you pounce and let the "no ,i dont think your my types's" sook it up 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
These are some of my reply's I get if I have taken to long or Wasn't interested... Makes me lose interest in swingers... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I hardly ever get any responses! So even a rejection is nice! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I sincerely doubt the people that responded to you like that were actual swingers. Most swingers are respectful of people’s boundaries and can take no for answer. I know on this forum people like to call themselves swingers but in actual fact, some are just wannabes.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Back in the day when I was online dating I sent many emails letting guys know I wasn’t interested, and it was mainly on this site. And I received negative responses in return perhaps 2-3 times. If someone is receiving lots of negative and abusive responses back I would definitely have to question how they are responding to these guys. Let’s face it, it can’t always be the men’s fault. Right?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes I agree with no abuse as it's a dating sex site so rejection is guaranteed! My only gripe is when you spend 6 weeks messaging on kik or here then they disappear so I guess lucky ladies with there 30-1 but remember the normal men on here may get offended with the time they waste - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I’ve never been abused when rejecting someone. They all understand people have types as I’m sure they do. Sometimes I respond other times I don’t. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You're so right sensualgrip.....that's why I joined.!!! There's nothing more exciting... than intellectual conversation....I live for it ..ha ha Never underestimate the power of words...If you would like to have more intellectual conversation drop me a message.Thanks for sharing your thoughts EllaElla29 ...I do think you are over thinking & complicating the process. Be polite, direct and keep emotions out of the equation & don't tolerate anything you wouldn't usually. Good luck gorgeous!
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree with prettwoman no one sesetves to be abused. If they do it’s their issue and you don’t need to tolerate. Just block and move on - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
At least you replied even if it was the standard automated reply. What gets me is the people that don't even reply. Rejection is all part of it, you're not going to like every person you see nor are other people. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Such a fucken shithouse response, it beggars belief.58 yrs on the planet hey,..................Awesome!! Quoting 'Single_Discreet' As far as I’m concerned you don’t have the right to breathe oxygen on this site as it’s evident that you are not only a guest but a tight arse to boot. Obviously one of the perks of being a female is extra privileges to satisfy all your so called ( this is how it read) losers Ok I signed up without knowledge of the ratio of men to women on this site but lesson learnt and not on here very often. Out in the real world I went on a Swan River cruise and there were about 120 girls and 40 blokes, that’s the ratio in dating these days if your not using your pussy as a prize. Right or Wrong? I couldn’t give a stuff you're only a guest - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
This is how it's been since the stone age. You add the internetz dating and you get the "keyboard warrior online dating douche-bag" stickman would never abuse a lady outside of play
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes you are totally right. Men should behave respectfully and accept decisions made by the women on here. Unfortunately the alpha males sometimes don’t take no for an answer. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I just want to say that women should be respected and appreciated too many of them are not and further to that if a woman rejects you its no big deal however they should never be abused in my opinion thats totally unacceptable.Guys think of rejection as one step closer to success and just be your real self not pretend to be someone else ok. There are millions of woman out there so broaden your horizons and be that first class version of yourself rather than a second class version of some one else always be happy and smile
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RHP User
8 years ago
What if you send countless messages to people and still nothing ??? Not saying this has happend to me - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
1.Thats a reply in itself?2.Too busy to drop everything right there and then to get back to you?3.Fake profile and its a guy?4. Don't sweat the small stuffQuoting 'mattysixx' What if you send countless messages to people and still nothing ??? Not saying this has happend to me - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi Goodluvman, I would disagree that alpha males sometimes can’t take no for an answer. To me these guys, that are abusive, manipulative, take rejection poorly are no alpha males. They are whiny dickheads who have a tendency to be abusive. That’s what i think anyway.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Good on you for at least saying thanks but no thanks, even an automated message. It shows that you have respect and class, it’s a reflection on them not you. Stay classy ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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