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Feeling rejected?
March 22 2018
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RHP User
8 years ago
@EllaElla29 Please share your many reasons i’d love to know? And the main reason I sent you a flirt was 1) because im a guest only and could only send you an automated flirt and 2) liked your profile and thought you seemed intelligent and attractive. It seems to me and a few others on here that you actually enjoy humiliating and rejecting men. We all know as previously discussed in the ratio of men to women on here that women hold all the power and some seem to enjoy waving the wand of rejection. P.s. Thanks for saying ‘NO’ i feel like i dodged a bullet there 👍🏻 Here is the perfect example. I said no and your still going on about it. I rejected you because —- sure I would be happy to tell you why — A . Your profile came across cocky and arrogant. B. I don’t find you attractive C. we have spoken before under a old username - and we didn’t click so I didn’t think I had to go there again and waste each other’s time. D. Your lacking conversations skill which bored me too quick. E. I definitely dodged a bullet here as it’s evident in your earlier message. I don’t like humiliating when rejecting men . I’ll tell the truth. It’s black and white I either like you or I don’t. If it isn’t mutual move on. No need to keep trying to make them notice you it screams desperation and needy. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
And, sure, maybe it hurts a little especially when you take time to read and learn about a person. Do I carry on about it and whine as to why? Nope. You’ll never meet the person, they dont care for you, you don’t control their actions in any way, shape or form. The classic example is happening really above, Threewhitesox. Please just take it on board that Ella isn’t interested. It’s clear she’s not interested yet beyond thel reasons already stated it’s completely Ella’s and only Ella’s decision to make. I mean shit, Ella rejected me too. Should I have a whine as well??? I have zero right to do anything or say anything about her. Saying yes to meeting someone is a scarier proposition than saying no for a whole host of reasons. Right now we have cricketers crying on tv for tampering with a ball and were all up in arms about it yet there’s football players, convicted under law of striking, hurting and abusing women. You know what, it makes me happy to see women say no and put these types of men where they belong and keep them at arms length. You wouldn’t treat your mum like this, why is it different to any other woman? Or man for that matter! I’ve dealt with bullying and I have absolutely no time for anyone who tries to coerce via intimidation. It’s just not on. I’ll just casually slip on my flak jacket now. Oh, happy Easter Ella! It’s a nice little fire you’ve got going in here... And Happy Easter all you others too! Eat chocolate be happy for a bit eh!!! Bananaboy says so 😇 Now, Ella, pease read my message 😝, you’re missing out🤦♂️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I/we were only ever abused once that I can remember out of All the messages I replied to for several years with a template reply that simply said... thank you for the message, I'm sorry you're not quite who we're looking for, and good luck in your search. I've just realised I've been using a sandwich technique, wrap two nice things around the main message... Nothing like that teaspoon of sugar apparently. That one abusive message, wtf is all I can say. It hoped for really bad things to happen to me while my husband watched. That was after a bit of chat, which is why it's never a good reason to be rushed into anything, so you can get that chance for a better understanding of someone before committing to meeting them in person. That kind of shit is not okay... I feel for anyone who has copped anything like it, Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Even with well meaning, well constructed messages, only sent to those you mainly match the seeking requirements of, rejections or non replies are at least 20:1. However, the one that you finally click with and it leads to actual meetings, is well worth the wait/effort. Frustration leads to some people becoming arseholes if they weren't to begin with, but it never helps your cause. In my case I will assume either I'm too far away for them, or that they have established interest in the meantime with someone else, or they are simply not attracted to me. After all, I have also rejected people too for my own reasons. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I always thought about this site, that it is a lot more mature and better compared to other dating sites when it comes to reading into signs... No answer or wishing good luck it's is pretty straight forward message means move along. Not a rocket science. I know it by getting it nearly everyday haha Getting rejected is part of the adventure, it makes me lose weight, get fitter and improve myself on many level, till someone say... Hey you are too perfect, I don't deserve you lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm only newly back on the site and I'm definitely not what I used to be. The last time I was on I was in much better shape, so my ego has taken a battering with rejection after rejection. The thing about this site for me is, people will be honest with me. I appreciate it when they say that I'm not what they are looking for and I feel comfortable enough to do the same. Guys, just say thanks for being honest and wish them the best for their time on RHP. Don't be total cock munchers when you get rejected. Sorry to hear you've been copping some abuse EllaElla29, but I hope there are move fun times than bad. :-) B.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I often find I sometimes get rejected online & then you'll actually meet those people in person at an event or party & the tables seem to turn. They will become interested & I will be thankful for the original rejection. I really must work on my photo taking abilities 😂... Rejection is a fact of life & I think both sexes are better off learning how to take it well & grow from it. Happy playtime - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Lionsdoll1' @ Eiliethiya - 😂😂😂 sooo true! I have other friends on RHP that are not on my friends list as well. We once received the exact same “copy and paste” message from the same person word for word as well! What did we do? Arranged a double date with both of us there! 🤓😜 classic. I wonder if it’s the same man...? Also had a girl contact me to tell me someone was trying to arrange to see her on a date when she knew full well we had already discussed our plans. 6 degrees of separation.......Try 3 degrees. I've proved it time and again. Australia is smaller than you think. Everyone knows someone that you know. V. But not only do women talk, men do too. My friends are mostly good mates who got my back too. They love me and appreciate me and will warn me of “undesirable “ reputations. Boys... there’s is still mateship and community online,,, tread carefully 😉 Truer words were never spoken. Take heed everyone. V.
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luvsilver
8 years ago
Yeah I think I get your drift- lol Mr Luvsilver
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RHP User
8 years ago
I notice alot of the ladies just block without any replys. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Seriously guys you're going to get more no's than yesses (that should so be a real word). We're all adults on here looking for something fun but if that connection doesn't exist have the respect for the other party not being interested....that may come in a polite no thank you or no response....it is what it is. Just think if you met one of these ladies out at a bar and had a go and we're turned down how would you react? Most wouldn't throw their toys out of the cot and have a whinge so no need to do it online either. If you get thrown off the horse just saddle up and keep searching but always have respect for those you're speaking with. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Isn’t it odd that some guys think they can simply act like that. I often wonder if they are like that in the “real world” or is it just too easy through this medium to be a d!ck... “Manners maketh the man” as my mother constantly reminds me!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Rejection is all a part of the excitement/risk/game..... If the feeling of rejection is whats holding you back, then some thicker skin needs to be developed. Rejection should make you live on and learn from it. Its not personal its physical... suck it up and say ty for their time and keep your chin up.....
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RHP User
8 years ago
Getting four ducks in a row on multiple levels is quite a task. And of course every man, woman and couple is hunting there ideal, which narrows things considerably as well. Interesting stuff - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting you that my profile seems needy.....hmmm my profile was actually written by a female friend of mine who is an active member on this site so your criticism is inaccurate. For someone that is rarely on here you seem to go out of your way to respond to my messages. Im totally fine that you’re not interested and haven’t been abusive at all. You talk about my profile with complete contempt yet for someone that is self proclaimed “ the shy one of the group” and describe your personality as “shy” i find completely laughable as demonstrated on these forums you’re highly opionated and judgemental, not the characteristics of a shy person at all. And finally all i did was send you an automated flirt, which you respectfully replied “No” which was no big deal but then you went out of your way to humiliate me for making a light hearted comment about the whole situation on this forum 👍🏻 - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
Its getting rather personal in here. Best some things are kept private and respectful.😊 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Although i am not advocating abuse i would just like to highlight what the core of it is and what it actually means. I would say having the problem of a rediculous amount of messages to sift through is a much nicer problem then the one that poor jack deals with on a daily basis, the guy is genuinely a caring good soul, maintains an active lifestyle and is actually quite appealing. The guy is so empathetic and in tune with people that he is dynamite in bed And its fair to say has an overly passionate sexual nature that is physically so joyful to experience he just wants to share the feeling.. the online disconnect only serves for a higher chance venting may occer when again and again, his witty, creative messages are wasted on people too busy or not seriously intending to meet in the first place yet again.. jack who has honestly lowered his standards understandably will break time to time, use more generic messages or smarten up and close his account. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Agreed it seems as if this forum has kicked off a disagreement between 2 parties. Let's all take a breather, relax and move on....life's too short to get hung up on these things. We're all beautiful people in our own right so why not respect each other and live happy lives. Ps superfoxxxy my god you look incredible and the soulfucking concept is rather an amazing thing to consider! Peace, love and lube to all of you - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
i agree sometimes we do feel rejected, some kinda lonliness of being alone i feel this every after sex 😑 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Your taking this out of context completely. Your making this into a bigger deal than it needs to be. You asked me to tell you why I rejected you and now you don’t like my answers. Firstly, Your the one who went on about my rejection towards you on this post , you didn’t just mention it once in fact you went on about it several times. Were you really just joking or trying to get a rise out of me ? You think you have me all figured out — but you do not at all. I didn’t say your profile is needy I said to stop acting the way you are it’s coming across needy. It was not my intention to ‘ go out of my way to humiliate you’ if you feel that way that’s not what I was going for I was simply staying facts. If your offended for the fact I rejected you and I’m not jumping on the boat like everyone else — I’m sorry. But like I said I am quite black and white I either like you or I don’t. I am very to the point and upfront , straight up I don’t sugar coat anything. So if you expected a different reply , that wasn’t going to happen. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
@peggingpet I agree — let’s move on! I wrote this post to get some insight and within that it has caused drama instead. Not my intention at all.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Awww yes my favourite sparring partner, always has to have the last word and once again you’ve gone out of your way to scroll though these messages and reply which is surprising because I thought you had 10 thousand things to do and are barely on here my “shy” friend. But I do agree let’s move on, all the best Ella, peace ✌️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Dispite all the rubbish you hear, society is gynocentric and men are disposal. Men probably out number women 10 to 1 on this site... Maybe even more. Its a buyers market and the shelves are overflowing with stock. I suggest men on this site redpill themselves or go mgtow. If you are lucky to meet a decent humanbeing who replies albeit with a rejection - just swallow that bitter pill, block, and move on. Seriously - the sooner men get on board with the fact women are more shallow then men and that there is an over ubundance on men on RHP the sooner you wont that rejection personally. Trust me. She isnt worth the energy to reply with hate. Just block her shallow ass and move on. Solace K - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Men tend to attribute their problems with the opposite sex to physical short comings as a way to save face. It is far more painful to acknowledge that the real problem is often an inborn personality trait because it really strikes at the core of who we are...Women? Hm another story. ... but in this place she does not even know you, and you do not know her. You really could be the most interesting person on Earth .. but for whom it matters. I think many are angry they can’t have what they want and come here to vent and antagonize the other gender. Really, it all amounts to nothing in the end.(Ms)
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RHP User
8 years ago
FO from RHP then instead of just hanging around pissing and moaning and blaming women for all your problems. I'm sure there's a reddit thread just crying out for another man baby to join in and spew some infantile crap.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Firstly i don't understand what the terms "redpill" or "Mgtow" Mean.... Help me understand? I don't know if you post is made in anger, or simply you're just drunk. It Just doesn't make sense. Men are disposable .....Maybe, Freeze our sperm. Girls have the good toys....And more importantly are probably guareented a good outcome. Men out number woman 10-1 on this site.........Great guess Sherlock. It could even be more. You get a reply, its a rejection, so you beat yourself up and block.....Great job Woman are more shallow than men...Really? Most I've met out think me in a heartbeat and they aren't shallow. Their thoughts are in fact compassionate and human. Not driven by hate..... But i haven't been in a divorce court yet. Anyway, I've tried too look at your points. Not in order i know but i don't agree with you. So let me give you a little something. You're 32 yrs of age, looks like you keep in shape a body better than my decaying carcuss, all wrapped up in a fuckwit of a mind. In fact, you my friend are bordering on "Fully Fledged" I love people like you. It gives me hope, increases my percentages. I see you guys at pubs often. See a hot woman walk in, your three sheets to the wind, but somehow you manage to throw down another drink to summon the courage to talk to her. You get halfway across the floor to her, realise that your mouth doesn't work, can't say what you want to, but you're not deterred. Why talk when you can just grab her on the tit or arse right.How could anyone refuse such an advance? What about this for an idea: 1.Why don't you read a profile.2.Understand it3.Sell your benefits and features4.Ensure that they have a match to the original profile to strike an interest5.Think with the big head first Its your job to get them across a coffee table for a first date. The cock shot doesn't do it ( for the most part) You seem to understand that the ratio is 10-1. So use your head fucken!i think its more. You have search parameters set , yes?Reverse them instead of looking for woman, look for men seeking woman. Same age group, location etc.It'll fucken blow your mind........ive said you've got a great physic , but trust me, there are plenty more of you out there. Just take a lookThe difference is your attitude , and how you come across.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Luv your work! ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
There seem to be a few sheep stations being bought and sold here. TL; DR: don't worry, be happy. Worse things happen at sea. 1. Just because someone wants to have sex doesn't necessarily mean they want to have sex *with you*. 2. Although behind each profile is a living, feeling person, the reality is that on first contact everyone is just a bunch of pixels on a screen. You can't take it personally. 3. Who knows why you get a rejection, it was their choice and they don't owe you just because you wrote to them (although a 'thanks but no thanks' is always appreciated to remove ambiguity). But if you start hypothesising why you were rejected then that is a one-way ticket to resentment city, population you. 4. Responding to a rejection with abuse is surely the biggest waste of effort ever. What is it supposed to achieve except create negative energy for both parties? 5. If you walked up to a random stranger and said "I think you look cute, how about we meet for a drink, with a view towards having sex", how often would it work? Why should it work any better here just because it is online? Also, see point 1. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You think society discriminates against men? Maybe. Maybe it is true to form with society as a whole. Doesn't mean we as individuals have to conform to some subservient role. Don't piss and moan about it. Moving on is the only worthwhile advice you're giving.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'TheKinkPanther' Although i am not advocating abuse i would just like to highlight what the core of it is and what it actually means. I would say having the problem of a rediculous amount of messages to sift through is a much nicer problem then the one that poor jack deals with on a daily basis, the guy is genuinely a caring good soul, maintains an active lifestyle and is actually quite appealing. The guy is so empathetic and in tune with people that he is dynamite in bed And its fair to say has an overly passionate sexual nature that is physically so joyful to experience he just wants to share the feeling.. the online disconnect only serves for a higher chance venting may occer when again and again, his witty, creative messages are wasted on people too busy or not seriously intending to meet in the first place yet again.. jack who has honestly lowered his standards understandably will break time to time, use more generic messages or smarten up and close his account. - Posted from rhpmobile I can relate to Jack, I was in that position. I solved the problem by realising that it is not an efficient use of my time crafting creative messages to people who have yet to even acknowledge my existence, have no obligation to read them (rightly so) and will almost certainly not reply to them. Really, that's not an earth shattering revelation. So, I used that creativity to find a solution. After trying a few other failed approaches, I found a simple joke in the format of "What do you get if.." which invited the other person to send me a witty reply. My reply rate went up over 50%, I got heaps of funny replies, entertained many people, myself included, started conversations and found a few people to have sex with. Being alpha (fuck I hate that term) is not about being demanding, fist thumping, chest beating. It's about creating and leading people to situation they yearn for. People come here for a variety of reasons, fun and sex are two common ones and they are the people I am looking to connect with so I create the situation and attract them. And that garbage about alpha males not being able to take no for an answer (this is not directed at you KinkPanther). An alpha male doesn't care one bit that some random on the internet wants to have sex with him or not because he has probably has a waiting list of women who want to have sex with him and, if he doesn't, he can go for a walk outside in real life and find some. I know I do and can. Throwing a tanty on the internet is the epitome of powerlessness.
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RHP User
8 years ago
"And that garbage about alpha males... " Indeed. Anyone who describes himself as alpha, or has to tell people he is an alpha male, isn't. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It’s all apart of the game. In nature it’s often a fight to the death so a little bit of rejection going to upset you and you turn to abusing people really shows what sort of soft cock you are. Be a man respect ✊ thy woman, appreciate her and if your not successful wish her on her way. #gentleman#treatwithrespect - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Any girl here Didn't get a single response - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Life gets tougher than this. So someone you haven't meet isn't that keen. Whoopie. We all like what we like. There will be someone for them eventually. This is all fun and can be exciting. There is no excuse for being nasty. Now let's all get some sex. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quote from Poppyseed: "Be a man respect ✊ thy woman, appreciate her and if your not successful wish her on her way". Good attitude :) As it happens, most of my first messages contain similar, along the lines of... "I'd love to hear from you, but if not, I wish you the best in your adventures regardless". Maybe this isn't quite the best idea as it may show lack of drive/confidence/initiative or whatever you might call it, but too bad. At least I haven't made any enemies. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You didn't do anything wrong. Some men just can't take rejection and can never see that someone might not find them attractive or god's gift to women. It does get annoying at times not getting a response or the only response you get is a rejection after you have sent a well thought out and detailed message but the girls have all the power on here with the ratio being as it is. It is part of being a real man to be able to handle rejection without being rude, nasty, vitriolic, or god forbid violent. Women are to be respected at all times as all people should. Regards Pat :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'goodluvman' You didn't do anything wrong. Some men just can't take rejection and can never see that someone might not find them attractive or god's gift to women. It does get annoying at times not getting a response or the only response you get is a rejection after you have sent a well thought out and detailed message but the girls have all the power on here with the ratio being as it is. It is part of being a real man to be able to handle rejection without being rude, nasty, vitriolic, or god forbid violent. Women are to be respected at all times as all people should. Regards Pat :) so much Pat for saying all that xoxoxo
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RHP User
8 years ago
Totally agree, some guys take rejection super badly and like you say i think it dings their ego. We are pretty choosy about who we message but if we get back a "No thanks!" then we have all dodged a bullet from my way of thinking. If we get back a politely worded "No thanks because......." then thats a total gift and allows us to lift our game! :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Men here shouldn't be too worried about rejection and not take this forum and site too seriously. You've got more chances out there, in real life. Offers from ladies or to join exciting parties can come suddenly out of nowhere. I once bought a couch from someone who organised interesting get togethers. Before I knew it I was invited. I went often to a health food shop for a coffee. The young waitress took a shine to me and invited me over. A freelance colleague invited me to her birthday party. Turned out she was a rabid swinger. Things that happened there defied description. I watched the footy in a bar on George Street Sydney and a couple tried to pick me up. I have turned down a lot of girls over the years. The best line for that was: "Find someone else, I'm old enough to be your father..." And no; I'm not good looking at all nor very much interested in sex. I'm a dull boy, very individualistic and more interested in my work. I'm a lot of times far too lazy for all that stuff. But a lot more things happen to you out there than on this site. So just laugh it all off what happens here.
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
But, you're only 31. Lol I'm old enough to be your mother. 😎🤗 Ms Foxy
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honkytonk
8 years ago
i was rejected for being, and i quote 'too swarthy'.
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
They missed the gentleman, after swarthy. 👨 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
There's actually a significant difference between being ignored and being rejected. If you message a random and that's the end of it then it is nothing ignorance. If there's a bit of discourse to start with then you get ghosted, that's rejection. Neither stops the Earth rotating.
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RHP User
8 years ago
In the beginning I took the time to reply to all messages and winks but after a few too many abusive responses I didn’t feel the need to put myself in that position again. When a woman says no it’s NO and if you get all Weinstein about it it’s your bad not hers. If you get offended because someone has said no then you need to take responsibility for how you feel and work out why it’s bothering you so much. It’s called evolving. Not every person is going to find you physically attractive. Are you using this site to make yourself feel better by placing your emotional fulfilment in the hands of a stranger instead of loving yourself? If it’s the later it’s going to be a bumpy ride. - Posted from rhpmobile
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honkytonk
8 years ago
we are all acquired tastes, like scandinavian pickled herrings. at what cost to be universally adored? to not be true to yourself for the insecurity cover all of populism? meh, id rather be a pickled herring, not for most but delicious to a very select few. x
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RHP User
8 years ago
Talking to a lass for a dozen or so messages, getting along great. Just testing waters and talking about catching up for a cuppa and chat. Well after a while she asks me for face pics and it dawns on me she couldn't have looked at my profile as I have clear face pics there. So I said they were on my profile saw she had viewed it and was immediately blocked. I mean WTF lol.
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marcant6
8 years ago
All is fair in love and war!! Guys need to grow a pair.
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RHP User
8 years ago
It sounds like you’ve had an unpleasant experience. I agree with Koolgrey, you dodged a bullet. My opinion is, anyone who comes back with an insulting reply when given a “thanks but no thanks” response is obviously getting desperate and finding it difficult to hook up (for obvious reasons). There are some very rude and unpleasant people but there are also some very lovely souls in here who give utmost respect to other users. I hope you’re experiencing more positives than negatives here. 💗
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RHP User
8 years ago
It was Mischievouslad who mentioned you dodged a bullet.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Most profiles when you read you can tell don’t know what they want the mystical unicorn for instance is about 390 to one for couples of here and most sights couples send messages in hope because there is a chance that the person may actually look at there profile never mind read it without being put to the group message delete and yep we have been told by some girls we meet they get to many messages and just hit delete not even knowing they have interesting people that fit all of the things they want then if by chance you might go out somewhere and bump into them and there into you and you ask how come you did not reply answer is always the same after 20 messages get stacked up I just delet no offence oh that’s cool is the normal reaction from our point and then it’s game on because your not going to get the goods because we know your basically just brushed us so now it’s our turn in the drivers seat and we know how to drive this and we will get our fun if you answer the right way if not our time to just trash your message you give out best of all if it ends in fun we can say see that’s why you read messages and look at profiles and it has happend 5 or 6 times and even more when you go to chat meet and greets 😂😂😂😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Before I realized it was a very good idea to turn messages off, I had a guy contact me. I told him I was not interested but I would chat if he wanted to. He started pushing to meet, to the point I said no, I am really not interested. I then got called fake and accused of wasting his time etc.. I was straight up, he chose not to listen and it was my fault.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I always respond kindly in the hopes of a second looking! lol how pathetic am I? lol Oh to be some kind of stud huh?!
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