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Ice Breakers
August 03 2018
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
No party tricks, each first playmeet is different.And my different play modes ensure l need to read the situation. Having been part of couple profiles, single Male and single Gurl there is no set ice breaker. Body language is the key. I'm happy to lead, happy to be lead, happy to fuck, happy to be fucked. Guess I'm just happy.....
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RHP User
7 years ago
I feel like ice breakers would come off too cheesy from someone like me, I prefer to simply acknowledge what beauty or wild minds stand before me and let everything happen naturally. I do like to lead whoever I’m more than happy to have the hubby or wife take point. It’s whoever the mood sets I guess :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
What do you do when you want things to proceed and everything seems right but no ones making a move? I’m shy so making the move is hard for me - I’d like to change that ... I’d like to be the one to initiate the first move I fully acknowledge each meet and each individual couple and individual lady and individual man will be unique and I respect it’s not a one size fits all approach but was merely asking if there was something that seemed to work for you to get things progressing - Posted from rhpmobile
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Rlee552
7 years ago
There are a number of I am sure different techniques and strategies. Remember though you have met through this site and you both wanted to meet for the same reason. So at some point in the conversation say words to the effect - I am keen to take matters further. How do you feel. Its two short sentences which can be difficult to get out, but stating it aloud usually gets a good result. And you can take it from there. I am shy, so it can sometimes take me a while to say; but I have always found the other person is relieved that I have brought the subject out in the open.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Lack of suitable data here :P In a group scenario, however, I think my approach is simply to literally stand closer to them. This means an almost accidental brush of arms, hips, legs or possibly hands, or if sitting down or perhaps at a bar, next to each other (not opposing) perhaps a more deliberate touch of the hand, just a casual stroke. I guess, the idea is to see if you are both comfortable being physically close. Now, certainly in this scene, people flirt like that all the time. Or much more physical. If they are already friends, even if not lovers, you might see them giving a light shoulder massage etc. You might see it with the one person with different "suitors" over the course of a night. It doesn't mean any of them is going to lead further. So then what makes your approach, or touch, any different? I guess in this case it is more if you happen to find yourself in a 1 on 1 situation aka "date" with that person. Which is few and far between, therefor the lack of data :P
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
we think it really depends on where it is ,certain places. like a party, a club a meet and greet or somewhere where sex is only a breath away it’s easy as some flirty comments and hopefully it’s received well and go from there , tbh we find it easy if it all just flows and everything is plain and obvious otherwise we tend to need the others to make the first move and come up with the said ice breaker to let us know where we stand ,we too would like to be better in the art of initiating ,but it’s other places like meeting one on one that we find almost impossible to get over the hurdle of what i think your talking about. and just don’t do them , good luck and hopefully some good posts come up with some good ideas that we could all use mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
On the leg or arm usually gets things moving in the direction
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RHP User
7 years ago
Annie has the right approach..... The use of “expressive touch” during conversation,the nature and tone of the conversation as well as body language expressions of intent subtly convey that you’re not just chat buddies...... and does more to naturally escalate things, than does words or blurting out clumsy suggestions 😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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sohot60
7 years ago
In a group environment it is a lot easier and agree with Annie, straight to the point is a good way to go. If the attraction is there, then you move into a private room and go from there. In your case you've enjoyed a nice dinner together and there is an attraction there, it could be as simple as asking politely. " I've enjoyed our time together, and would love to take things further" you'll know pretty quick smart what will happen next from there response. Don't forget by meeting them for dinner there is an attraction there already and generally both parties are looking to take it further. Hopefully ending up with breakfast in the morning. Good luck - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting Redmustang “What do you do when you want things to proceed and everything seems right but no ones making a move? I’m shy so making the move is hard for me - I’d like to change that ... I’d like to be the one to initiate the first move I fully acknowledge each meet and each individual couple and individual lady and individual man will be unique and I respect it’s not a one size fits all approach but was merely asking if there was something that seemed to work for you to get things progressing” You can play around with the fact that you’re shy, perhaps whispering something to the wife or husband or to the unicorn you catch beforehand, it invites them to initiate the first move more OR allows for you to make the first move without too much hesitation as the one you’ve spoken to is going to be more inviting to your advances. the other which is what I do is to move in close to the wife or lady and ask “may I?” Followed by gentle movements, caressing the leg or arm eventually I’ll lean in and kiss the neck moving to their lips. I found generally that physical touching with genuine intent eases the initial nerves as you know it’s going to be reciprocated, try giving cheeky little glances and small touching while enjoying drinks/ dinner before moving to the bedroom and keep in mind that whomever you’re with is going to feeling the same way in terms of nerves and wants. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Turkey slap her...that’s expressive touching that Boone can fuck up lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Boone = no one Hahaha Y’all got me flustered, lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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bonefide
7 years ago
All positive and informative, honesty and being yourself, along with the situation/location play a key roll. Thanks team for your views, keep them coming, job well done. Stand tall walk proud.
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bonefide
7 years ago
Turkey slap her, is that frozen or defrosted. Maybe the situation dictates, and u use whatever cold cut is at hand.
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RHP User
7 years ago
It’s a good thing you and I would never meet cause if you even spoke about turkey slapping me you wouldn’t be able to walk for a month. I understand you probably think you are humerous but if you haven’t got anything siginificant to contribute then save it. If there’s a thread for smart ass remarks and comebacks for when you can never think of one on the spot go nuts in there you’ll thrive in that thread.. Honestly sometimes silence speaks volumes... - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
turkey slap mrs b without previous engagement or the tick of approval and you will have your arms ripped out of their sockets and you will be beaten to death with the wet ends by her , sounds like something you may enjoy actually ,i’m sure the rhp crowd would love to be voyeurs ,maybe half time entertainment at the next meet and greet after you call me some old man with a hot wife and turkey slap her 😂😂😂😂😡😂😂😂😂 for anyone that thinks it too harsh and violent for anti please step forward but above all else please remember it’s all toungue in cheek and joking 🙃 - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
7 years ago
Is it actually big enough to Turkey slap with ?? 😂😛😛 Agree with Annie on the topic and most everyone else. Subtle touch and eye contact or suggestive word in the ear. I feel with the whole consent thing it’s sometimes good for woman to take the initiative or at least just confirm that it’s OK for things to move forward Helps a man know that it’s OK and assists in removing grey areas. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Seems to be the key... I’ll give it a go and let you know how it goes ☺️ Thanks guys... Always learning, always growing - not always getting things right but I’m only human - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Forget turkey slapping (and the angry mob) As we all know every bloke in here is significantly better endowed than the national average So in here it’d be called an Ostrich Wallop 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
earthqueen hit it on the head ,it’s that god forsaken grey area that’s the killer ,,all my life when i’m doubt DONT!!!!! ,for anything ,but most of all no means no not sure means NO!! and when it comes to women and grey areas it’s like the unknown and i just can’t or don t want to venture into it in case i’ve miss read the sighns and upset someone ,lord knows mrs b said as far was she was concerned ,i needed a bat to the head to get her subtle hints ,EVERYONE ,here’s a tip don’t be so subtle. and remove all doubt for idiots like me and mrs b ,cos to be honest i’m the one laughing now going duhhhh!!! you couldn’t work out he really liked you ,,lmao mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
By himself I kind of want him to make the first move - not me... With regards to a couple where I am just as interested in the female I’m not sure whether the man making the first move on a female would encourage fem fem interaction? So have maybe hopefully mind of decided I need to potnetially make the first move on her.. but how? That’s the million dollars questions that has different answers for all of us! Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'boobs_or_bust' earthqueen hit it on the head ,it’s that god forsaken grey area that’s the killer ,,all my life when i’m doubt DONT!!!!! ,for anything ,but most of all no means no not sure means NO!! and when it comes to women and grey areas it’s like the unknown and i just can’t or don t want to venture into it in case i’ve miss read the sighns and upset someone ,lord knows mrs b said as far was she was concerned ,i needed a bat to the head to get her subtle hints ,EVERYONE ,here’s a tip don’t be so subtle. and remove all doubt for idiots like me and mrs b ,cos to be honest i’m the one laughing now going duhhhh!!! you couldn’t work out he really liked you ,,lmao mr b - Posted from rhpmobile Yep. The number of missed opportunities because I've backed off when there was the slightest hint of doubt only to find out later they were waiting for the first move.
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bonefide
7 years ago
Until u meet, it's when I can't put a good foot forward, let alone phrase a nice general ice breaker. Can't use leading comments of fear they are to forward and or early. Stumbles asking about her day and then enters the hollow turf of reading the relpy like a analyst. People say it's difficult, but with practise. Ummmm don't think so.
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EarthQueen
7 years ago
Quoting 'Redmustang' By himself I kind of want him to make the first move - not me... With regards to a couple where I am just as interested in the female I’m not sure whether the man making the first move on a female would encourage fem fem interaction? So have maybe hopefully mind of decided I need to potnetially make the first move on her.. but how? That’s the million dollars questions that has different answers for all of us! Lol - Posted from rhpmobile Why though? I'm not having a go I'm just curious. I just think its starting to be an outdated notion especially on a RHP date. I think its a societal expectation that men should make the first move but in reality they have the same fears and insecurities as women do. They have the same vulnerabilities. TBH when you meet a man its not that hard to tell if he's into you. But sometimes men (especially the nicer more genuine ones)are so worried about putting a foot wrong they will hold back. If you give the green light at some point subtly or not so subtly, it takes the pressure off and lets them relax. If you go on a date and you like them and its clear they like you I would have no problems saying something to that effect to move things forward. Also I probably would want to kiss them first. Bad kissing is a dealbreaker. For a date with a woman in a couple situation (even though I haven't been on one). I would be waiting for the woman to give the yes. You know how we work :). I would be looking to her to make sure she is comfortable with me potentially getting it on with her man. I think that would be a way trickier situation. One on one is less complicated. If there's two couples? Hmm, tapping out of that one. Have no idea?? For men that aren't sure, if a woman is putting her hand on your leg and just generally touching you and making eye contact and her body language is tuned into you .....she's probably into you. Just ask. Whats the worse that can happen?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yep sounds like dirty talk 😘 😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Of course it is....Coles had their turkey roll(1kg) on special this week 😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Another reason why they don’t wear shorts eh?? 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I am into subtlety. When it comes time for that all-important deal breaker, time to make the move - I just reach under my own shirt and start tweaking my own nipples. Whilst I do this, I raise my eyebrows seductively, but in an alternating fashion one at a time. If I am feeling particularly focused and haven't had too many drinks I can synchronize the two actions, which looks really clever.
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
when mrs likes a women or a women likes her ,that’s just the easiest , compliment like nice dress or top , wow nice boobs ,can i feel them or the other way from mrs b she says they are store bought you can feel them if you want ,😜🤪✅ best ice breaker if it’s chatting up a couple as well mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
As I hold this icepack on my nose while mopping up the blood that has been spilled from me thinking about this reply, all I’m left with is a feeling of being so very flattered that you care so much about my input.... I’d never have thought in my wildest dreams a gorgeous couple(such as your good self) would ever give me such a part of their thoughts.... Thank you 😘😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'The_Antichrist' As I hold this icepack on my nose while mopping up the blood that has been spilled from me thinking about this reply, all I’m left with is a feeling of being so very flattered that you care so much about my input.... I’d never have thought in my wildest dreams a gorgeous couple(such as your good self) would ever give me such a part of their thoughts.... Thank you 😘😘 - Posted from rhpmobile I'm so glad your ego extends beyond the keyboard - watch the wind outside less the tickets blow off.. oh no thats right its just you blowing smoke up your own ass..
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'EarthQueen' Why though? I'm not having a go I'm just curious. I just think its starting to be an outdated notion especially on a RHP date. I think its a societal expectation that men should make the first move but in reality they have the same fears and insecurities as women do. They have the same vulnerabilities. TBH when you meet a man its not that hard to tell if he's into you. But sometimes men (especially the nicer more genuine ones)are so worried about putting a foot wrong they will hold back. If you give the green light at some point subtly or not so subtly, it takes the pressure off and lets them relax. If you go on a date and you like them and its clear they like you I would have no problems saying something to that effect to move things forward. Also I probably would want to kiss them first. Bad kissing is a dealbreaker. For a date with a woman in a couple situation (even though I haven't been on one). I would be waiting for the woman to give the yes. You know how we work :). I would be looking to her to make sure she is comfortable with me potentially getting it on with her man. I think that would be a way trickier situation. One on one is less complicated. If there's two couples? Hmm, tapping out of that one. Have no idea?? For men that aren't sure, if a woman is putting her hand on your leg and just generally touching you and making eye contact and her body language is tuned into you .....she's probably into you. Just ask. Whats the worse that can happen? EarthQueenI always made the first move in my previous life with a single profile and it never seemed that the guy ever would and it would get to that time in the night where I was thinking that nothing would ever happen as they are still sitting across the room and its like wtf? So I just kind of got past having to be the one to initiate it.Maybe for me with a man its a matter of liking a little bit of dominance..And ask my parter, I am awful at picking up on signals lol he'll send me msgs going such and such is into you and flirting with you and I'll be like are you seroius? lol flirting and the like is not my strong point...But I do want to learn to be more of a mover as opposed to waiting for soneone else to make the move. I think I've got it in me to do it, its just a matter of doing it now.. So yes - now I want to turn the tables from wanting the man to be dominant to me giving it a go...
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
you sound so much like mrs b it’s a little scarey,lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
you sound so much like mrs b it’s a little scarey,lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Think you’ve made a friend😄
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Seachange73
7 years ago
My experience as a single woman meeting men. I do screen my dates vigorously before meeting face to face. Chat on social media outside rhp, if the rhp messages even cut the muster. A few message exchanges will determine for me if there is a mental connection there after phyical attraction have been in established. On the date, usually just drinks, I'd like to see if the reality matches the online persona. Usually not from a physical or personality perspective. Some are more interesting and articulate online but fail miserably in chatting face to face. That to me is a turn off. If a connection is established, usually thru fun banter, I would not hesitate to give him a touch of the hand or shoulders or brush his leg slightly and watch his response. I don't mind initiating the move. I've got my big girl pants on.😋 Some men are quite oblivious to body language and unless you make it very obvious, they miss all the cues. Short of banging him on the head with a club, this is a turn off. 😒
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RHP User
7 years ago
Lol yep I think so too :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
seachanh - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
how did that go up ,i didn’t hit reply i swear ,lol try again lmao seachange you describing us with about the whacking around the head part again ,lol it used to be me when first dating mrs b but wow how times have changed with swinging and her having no idea of guys being into her and me saying duhhh!!!,lol got your big girl pants on huh ,what section you buy them 😛😛😛😛😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
another good one is that have a great partner who is your wingman or a friend ,mrs b has myself and a couple of friends that are the best at breaking the ice for heror as she may say just dumping her in it lol ,mrs b is my best wingperson,😃 mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Apparently gently rubbing with 1 finger or thumb on the inside of a woman’s knee is erogenous, and touching (not holding) her below her shoulder will hold her attention. If sitting, the more she’s turned to facing you, and with good eye contact and discussion, the more she’s into you. I believe open discussion and genuine interest in her is a must and a big part of connection for a woman. Once a good connection is established, just ask for more. Nicely. Manners and clean language are generally respected. Enjoy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
In our limited experience with others, I've always found that it's often easier to allow the ladies to commence proceedings. Not only is it fun to watch, but it allows for the man to ask to join in at that point. Sometimes the other woman will say not yet to playing with her but is happy to watch in the interim and incenticives the additional interaction (especially if your other half is having an orgasmic time) ☺ Touch and body language are really key to making it happen. The lads need to pay lots of attention to this and avoid drinking too much as that can impair ones ability to read the situation. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I always go for something like I like you and I can tell that you like me, so why don't we go back to my place for a drink and see if you like my bed.
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RHP User
7 years ago
For us, body language is usually a good read. For instance if the wife is facing the guy and chatting and his partner is doing same it’s usually game on and then a few suggestive words or touch of hand to see if it feels right. Being honest and up front with your profile with up to date pics goes a long way towards a hot night, as does nice conversation and respectful tone. We all know our partners and I know I can tell if my wife is eager to get into his pants 😋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
The last get together that we arranged..for group though..we arranged for sexy games..it was great to get everyone comfortable and naked 😀 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
7 years ago
Haha. That's straight to the point. I think I've never been as blatant as that. I'm more subtle and suggestive in my propositions. However, if it works for you, well done. I may take the tact of 'i love art. Want to come in and check my etchings?' 😋
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RHP User
7 years ago
You got yourself flustered coz your comments are unworthy.
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X_Him_And_Her_X
7 years ago
Have you seen the latest hot topic on rhp?? What's your thoughts??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Last session we had with a single girl my partner made us girls kneel in front of each other and then rolled a dice and made us do what the dice said to each other!Was a awesome icebreaker
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wildcrazyloving
7 years ago
An invite to another location, one puts hand on the others waist and the other moves closer. Or for silent dates have a hand signal pre-arranged for the 'I'm keen, follow me'. - Posted from rhpmobile
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technologic
7 years ago
We're in a similar stage as what the OP posted - we all really get along and would really like things to progress but not exactly sure how. At this point I feel we're really comfortable as friends. I think the two men are waiting for me to lead but it's not really in my nature to be so forward so i feel too awkward to do that? I don't feel the suggestion to let the woman instigate will work for me... On the other hand, I don't feel confident that Mr T understands enough of what makes me tick to be able to lead on my behalf either because even I myself find it difficult to verbalise it!! So what can we do being such a newbie and all? I thought going to a swingers event might help set the mood but I think the guys don't really want to so now I'm not sure if that's even a good idea. We could be just straightforward about it but it doesn't feel sexy enough for me that way. I feel like I need more seduction to be properly revved up. But that requires Mr T + other guy to feel comfortable/confident to do that. Is it just me being too complicated?? 😕 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
My partner loves to roll the dice too!!! Such a fun game 😍 If i want to start things off myself with the other girl i offer to give her a massage. Very sensual 😍😍😍 H - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I don’t think straightforward verbalising would work for me either... It kind of needs to be sexy and seductive and saying something like hey let’s get to it just doesn’t quite seem in the moment of it all... lol I want to find my thing that works for me and I’m happy and confident to use.. The subtle touch seems to be the go.. maybe a lingering look - if I could pull it off - but does that work on women... lol million dollar question.. I’m hoping the more experience I get the more I’ll figure out what’s right for me and for us as a couple and we’ll debeope our own unique ways to start the play .. - Posted from rhpmobile
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technologic
7 years ago
Glad to hear I'm not the only one feeling this way! 😅 I don't think it would be easier with another woman for me either.. but then I'm also of the thought that women tend to be better at catching those signals than men? Good luck with trying your move - I'd be keen to hear how you go. 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I find your last two posts a bit contradictory In the first you said your bloke rolled dice.... surely there was conversation ABOUT the dice and the process before he reached for them. So that kind of contradicts the “straightforward verbalising” not working for you, comment Maybe it’s just lost in translation - Posted from rhpmobile
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Checker
7 years ago
When you are really listening to each other speak and it accompanies really strong eye contact that makes you both/all smile ur best smile. I love it when a woman puts her foot on my leg. Partly because I love feet but its also a great/obvious 'ice breaker'. - Posted from rhpmobile
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fundamentallaw
7 years ago
Adults have little trouble asking for (for example) an ice cream cone. The ask for intimacy is challenging for one reason only--decline/rejection is perceived as a referendum on the person(s) and not the request(s). For this reason, most of us--we included--try to (1) identify and select partners that interest us; (2) engage in some sort of seduction; (3) make the suggestion. Each step is perceived to carry risk: (1) are they available or are we imagining it?; (2) are we moving too fast? are we being too oblique?; and (3) are they sensing/receiving the suggestion? is a light touch enough? do we have to be more explicit and with that make them feel uncomfortable? Ice-breaking--engaging in conversation, expressing genuine curiosity and interest, learning more about others--those are social graces that can be learned, should be practiced, and become second nature. Those can be particularly challenging for introverts, but most adults have mastered at least some basic scripts. The problem arises after the ice has melted, the waters seem warm and inviting. We find a two-step procedure works reliably well. 1. A socially acceptable share. An arm, a handclasp, something that is unambiguously intentional physical contact--yet could and does occur in any vanilla social setting. A variant is, "have a sip of my wine". 2. An unambiguous question. "Would you like to join us in the hot tub?" If the question is going to a couple, it is essential at this point to give them space to consider their response. If at a restaurant, we'll excuse ourselves to the rest room or to take a phone call or whatever. If this is a question to a single, they'll have a response. The simple fact is that most of the time, the answer will be some version of No. It might be "maybe later". It might be "perhaps another time". It might be flat out "no". That seems awkward the first few times. It need not be. It's not a personal judgement and it doesn't point to a character flaw. It simply means "no match". It does not mean you misread signals. It does not mean they were toying with you. It simply means you called the question. Someone has to call the question. Whoever calls it runs the risk of hearing no. That said, you might be surprised how often the answer is yes. People who can select, seduce, suggest, and at the same time keep their humor and their wits about them are in rather short supply. People who can ask permission and make it sexy in the process are even rarer. Getting back to asking for that ice cream cone--ours is delicious! Would you like a lick?
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EarthQueen
7 years ago
Quoting 'technologic' On the other hand, I don't feel confident that Mr T understands enough of what makes me tick to be able to lead on my behalf either because even I myself find it difficult to verbalise it!! So what can we do being such a newbie and all? I thought going to a swingers event might help set the mood but I think the guys don't really want to so now I'm not sure if that's even a good idea. If he doesn't understand it ,how can he do it? Sometimes its very hard to verbalise this stuff to a partner because as others said its making yourself very vulnerable and allowing your partner access to some deeper thoughts and desires. But I think its important and even more so in the swinging world yeah? Maybe if you feel you and your partners wires are a bit crossed about needs, instead of jumping into a swinging event or playing with others right now, you could try some tantra type workshops that help explore this more together in a safer space, before you branch out? Another option is to you find yourself a third that is confident , maybe a little more experienced and happy to lead ? You could explain that in your lead up messages (or in your profile) to a potential meet as long as your other half is comfortable with that. Here's another icebreaker ...you can always try the old removing the underwear in the bathroom and placing them in the other guys hand at the table. That sends a clear message LOL. If he's having trouble reading that well .....maybe back to the drawing board :)
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
aghhh the spa , at a club. party or if your lucky enough to have one at home ,our fave ice breaker as long as said spa is clean and inviting ,best ice breaker and tester is to say we are going or thinking of jumping in the spa. come with us if you like , jump up and leave ,as above said this does give who ever time to think or have a chat about it without us there to make it awkward for anyone ,meanwhile we are stripping off and heading the spa eagerly awaiting. if anyone turn up, and jumps in ,ice is considered broken and hopefully it gets easier with conversation and better from there with a bit of seductive whoopsy soft brushing touches eye contact and smiles and see if anything comes back ,lol, sort of on topic our evil enemy is taking too long to be sure of the situation and stand back and being cautious take our time we got all night right ,then some smooth talker or talkers come in and sweeps them away leaving mrs b and myself saying our famous words to each other ,aghhh we snoozed ,we loozed ,furrrrrk,lol. red mustang tbh i think touchey feely works well for females on females ,gawd just give mrs b a shoulder neck massage and she will let your hands wander anywhere ,in a heartbeat ,you will soon know if the other gem isn’t into it when they go all stiff ,but if they melt and start groaning i’d say your on a winner , me thinks you guys need to come to the next meet and greet or at least one when there is another one in sydney ,but we all know melbourne is better 😳😳🤪😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
A passionate kiss with some wandering hands depending on where you are and how many of you there are should be enough lol
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
REALLY ,so are you that person who before you know your welcome and your sure its ok to take it further , you let your hands go wandering and go for the big passionate kiss , and just see how you go , mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
That has happened to us in the past as well haha. We learned from that! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I don’t have a hassle with, I know once that’s established everything is good but it’s making the move to get to the kiss.... Pushing against the wall and kissing is great if things have already been established and say your not on your first meet but first meet it may be a bit too pushy?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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technologic
7 years ago
"you can always try the old removing the underwear in the bathroom and placing them in the other guys hand at the table." Ooooooh I like! That's a great suggestion!! Although what happens if they reject? Throw my underwear away? 🤔 Although I'm quite sure this guy wouldn't refuse. I'm excited to try that at our next meet.. 😏 I have been thinking about going to tantra/similar workshops. Although I have a feeling that Mr T gets too easily distracted by the other women around to focus on learning what's being taught. 😥 Nonetheless I think it'll be interesting for me at least. On my to-do list! - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
agree with redmustang,once the green light is on then most things are bang up in the table ,it’s getting to and knowing the green light is a definite green @eq ohhhh that’s great,i like it but what if your not wearing any to start with ,ohhh i know ,like at saints mrs b’s friend just yanked up her skirt on her behalf when mrs b had no idea of if the guy was into her or not and said something flattering just can’t rember what ,lol,ps hope your thinking bout the meet and greet and the saints night ,sounds like you would enjoy yourself also - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
We met someone one night - just to say hi and I wasn’t wearing any undies 😉 quite surprised my partner when he found out later - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
We met someone one night - just to say hi and I wasn’t wearing any undies 😉 quite surprised my partner when he found out later - Posted from rhpmobile
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tcm70
7 years ago
Most forward ice breaking approach I’ve experienced was a few years back, out celebrating at my local on NYE. I had noticed this lady a few times checking me out during the night but no opportunity came for me to try to chat to her. Anyway, it got to closing time and all the punters were dispersing. I was on my way out the door when this lady came up, grabbed my hand and said, “You’re coming home with me for sex!” Of course I couldn’t refuse. 2 days later I got dressed and went home. She became a fb for awhile but that experience is for another thread. As for myself, I often find it difficult to break the ice. If it’s a grey area I take it as a no rather than risk causing offence or the old embarrassing rejection. Lol. If I do feel there is potential, I would start by some minor touches. A light hand on her forearm or such, just enough to make a contact without being to heavy. I find eye contact is great, a lot can be read thru eyes I feel. If I touch them and they’re eyes widen a bit and they pull back slightly would tell me they may feel a bit wary. If they’re eyes light up in a smile then I would feel safer to then graduate to more touching, engaging conversation with light touching. If they wear rings or bracelets etc, I find that a good way to hold their hand, I am genuinely interested in different jewellery so I would hold their hand whilst asking about the piece and checking it out. Once finished bantering about it, I would continue to hold and perhaps caress their hand a bit. If they don’t pull away then I feel safer to progress. If possible I’d try to sit as close as I could to them, making it possible to be able to lean in closer as we chatted, maintaining as much eye contact as possible without creepy staring. Lol. Once I feel that things seem quite comfortable for both of us and feel the situation has become reciprocal, I would then gather up some courage and ask if I may kiss them. Sometimes it’s not needed to ask, it just happens, our heads are close and suddenly our lips are touching. I find a kiss breaks the ice totally. From there it opens up to more body contact and naturally progresses. Of course every situation is different and there’s many variations, but basically that’s how I’d approach someone I’m interested in. I havnt got it in me to just front up to a lady and ask if they’d like to fuck. Lol. And yes, I’ve also missed many opportunities as misread the moment, but I’d rather miss out than risk upsetting or offending someone.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Strip poker or a massage ?
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SandeGiny
7 years ago
Ask. When did people become so terrified of talking to one another? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
great answers from AAAcpl4fun and fun with us two....of course alcohol can work both ways....remember playing trivial pursuit with a hot couple who were friends only...some bottles of red later and a failure to answer or wrong answer was penalised...no pun..by removal of an item of clothing...no one made it to the centre ...when we were all sitting there naked round a table grinning like monkeys we had to invent dares as penalties...fantastic fun...would like to explore this method again perhaps using cards against humanity...or a dice
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BungCpl
7 years ago
We have often found some time in the Spa at a party is a good ice breaker, innocent / accidental touches and conversations with others in the Spa
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
have two lots of nice boxes game cards that i’ve wanted to buy just never got round to buying them have i never ever and truth or dare they could be great ice breakers for sure then move onto nude twister 😁😁😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Different people with different personalities with differing levels of experience. Full credit to those who are bold enough to ask, or confident enough to touch first. Hopefully I’ll be at that stage one day. Not sure tequila shots would be good but imagine the fun having to lick sip suck using someone else’s body parts... for that part of it was 2 couples then everyone could be involved licking sipping and sucking... on that same note.. maybe lingerie and some seductively warm chocolate dribbled from high and having to be licked off could be a good place to start.. mix up the warmth of tongue licking off chocolate with a touch of an ice cube... I don’t know.. but they just popped into my mind... lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
pour tequila on private bits to lick or suck off ,just sayin ,,dont ask ,lmao - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Does it sting?? I so need to know the story behind this - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
If at a first meet, yr not sure how it will progress - do more homework! Usually w my playmates we have established what we like, and want, and how we expect the first meet to progress... yes seeing someone and ensuring the ‘in person’ matches the ‘online’ is crucial but for me it’s more about - how do I decline this - rather than game on! It’s not usually the case that I meet up w someone and back out, So I’m also interested in how ppl ‘politely decline’ ..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Straight up!!! Balls to the wall💣💣. Why waste time. 🙈 On the rocks pure ice breaker. 👍 After all that is my fantasty, might not happen that way but hey.....it is my icebreaker fantasy!!!
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couplecourious
7 years ago
After a few drinks and some music, our first time involved Mrs Curious using another lovely lady as a pole to the tune of what seems to be the worlds favorite stripper song. An all nighter begun with a great ice breaker. Another attempt did unfortunately lead to a concussion, which was a shame because it had started really well. But thats a story best told in person.
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
IT FREAKIN BURNS !!!!!!!!!! that’s all i can remember . stripper polesand mrs b 😳😳😳😳😳 also a story best told in person with the mandatory pictures,lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'The_Antichrist' Turkey slap her...that’s expressive touching that Boone can fuck up lol - Posted from rhpmobile Fuck me antichrist you are the reason single guys are so mistreated!How about you lay off attacking femlae OP's she was asking a question yet you see fit to come in with a dickhead statement mysogynist comment that beggars belief.We have met red and spent a weekend with her and you would cower in fear if you met her she would chew your little ass and cock up and spit you out like a off raisin.Think before you speak not everyone is a sociopath like you The forums are about expressing an opinion not being targeted for abuseYes this is the male half of Sweet
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sorry I’m not in right now as I’m off stealing souls, so just leave your name, number and a brief message, I’ll be sure to return your call as soon as I can.... And if you’re calling about Christmas cards, I’m ok if you don’t wanna send one.... *beep* - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Soul stealing You’re running through the alphabetical list but there seems to be an excess of souls under “R” 🤣 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hahaha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
The amount of msgs I’ve received congratulating me on standing up to you... Seems one may not be as popular as they think are not as funny but still insist on deluding themselves that their shit doesn’t stink... Keep going, blow smoke, it’s only up your own ass, the hole you both dig will eventually bury you both... And honestly if you want to bounce off each other’s messages so much maybe start your own thread and you can blow as much smoke in it as you want or maybe a couple profile would suit? - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
7 years ago
If you read the fine print. Anti didn't offer the offending turkey slap to specifically Redmustang. It was just thrown out there as a potential strategy for seduction in those awkward moments. I personally was interested, UNTIL he mentioned he was packing a mere 1 kilo. I was hoping for 2.5 at an absolute minimum.
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RHP User
7 years ago
That’s not the issue at hand at all I just don’t do small minds and big mouths who think that they can offer any reckless comment on any thread to try to - I’m not even sure to try to do what? Improve their own popularity? Prove their own worth? Feel a part of something? If it’s relevant I will accept the comment whether it’s criticism or pointing out an area of growth that I may need to consider. I’m not opposed to conflict of opinion or thought given it’s relevance to the topic as well and how it’s presented. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Checker
7 years ago
Anti meant it as a light hearted joke I think. He didn't abuse anyone and it was a little facetious but its not worth getting outraged over. It's like the meme of the guy who needs a girl to sit on his shoulders while he's standing, with her pussy facing his face because he doesn't get the hint. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
His wit and comments may indeed be misinterpreted at times. However I’m not kidding about having people comment about how it’s good that I’m standing up to him. It seems that there may be a long running history of inappropriate comments or ill thought replies. Many a person has also told me to just ignore him but how will he know his comments are being ill received if he’s given free reign and continues to think his comments are humerous? Every one has a right to speak. That’s not the issue either. But think before comment, moderate yourself. When I’ve considered closing my threads or simply no longer posting because I dread seeing his name in my threads how is that fair? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
That’s it for this topic. It no longer runs true as to the original intent for my posting. I was seeking assistance, opinions and help for some personal growth in an area I found a little difficult - which I know some more outgoing people struggled to understand (the pitfalls of being a shy creature)but its turned to shit - so it can all just be left alone now. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sartre describes the moment of two people meeting for the first time and how their experiences and views of the situation differ. A young woman consented to go out with a man, and she is aware of his intentions. She also knows that at some point she will have to make a decision, but does not want to see the urgency. All she sees is his respectful attitude. If he says "I find you attractive" she disregards it as sexual and attaches it to the conversation. She sees what she wants to see. If he takes her hand, that requires a decision. To leave the hand means a consent to engage. To withdraw is to break the harmony that created that charm; thus, she leaves her hand without noticing that she is leaving it...because she is in that moment all intellect. She is self - deceptive as her hand rests between his warm hands - neither consenting nor resisting. How I like to be approached? Let me know you who you are. I thrive on anticipation (Ms)
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RHP User
7 years ago
That's fair. I'm a subtle so n so who suggests feeling how smooth I am after recent hair removal... Will it be the fast track or the work your way up?
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
i hope this doesn’t stop you from posting interesting topics and discussions,i for one have enjoyed them ,especially you posting threads with questions and engaging in the topic openly and honestly , personally i think the turkey thing was ment in humour, but failed , when it wasn’t received as that ,that was a time to say oops sorry ,and not continue digging under your skin mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
I hope Red you keep posting, I enjoy your posts too! 😊 Ms Foxy
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redhotozz
7 years ago
Ah, the timing of that next little verbal nudge. Something the lines of, would you like to join us in some fun works ok. Unless they have started ripping off your clothes already! - Posted from rhpmobile
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redhotozz
7 years ago
We find its quite hard for mrs ozz to make a move on a girl she likes, means she needs a strong hint lol. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I have read the thread and love what you are trying to say Red.I have also read other threads where Anti has commented. Anti may have got on Red and Sweets nerves as he constantly seems to try and cause trouble and be negative in most of the threads he posts in. Not sure why you do it Anti but its seriously boring and you are like the annoying kid in the playground you see at the school reunion and he hasnt grown up. Give it a rest Anti your not funny more irritating and seriously boring but most trolls are! That said ice breaker for me is a game of strip poker as i am terrible at poker lol Keep up the great posts Red and keep smiling i really love your posts!
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RHP User
7 years ago
I find Antis posts kinda funny......... so to me he is kinda funny
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thank you - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I am trained in sensual massage and g-spot stimulation and even though the latter comes in play much later, may be a soft touch on the neck or back followed by the ears and fingers gliding down the ear lobes and slowly moving around the lower neck could be a nice ice-breaker, do you think that might be right? I actually made a gf just by giving her a normal massage in the office which turned into a sensual massage in her car seat before moving to a dinner date and a full body massage a few days later at the back of my car and then eventually leading to the full Monty. Love Charmer - Posted from rhpmobile
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