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Ignoring incoming messages - Rude or not?
December 17 2019
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RHP User
6 years ago
It’s really simple, too many men fall over themselves to hand women the power to treat them as they please. And with this social power most abuse it and few have respect for it. And so seeking the few from the many is the goal. Good luck with that. Tip; use big brain not dick brain.
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RHP User
6 years ago
This topic again ......
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RHP User
6 years ago
Without knowing the specific content of said messages, you are being precious. Given they’re unopened it would be reasonable to think they’ve not been read wouldn’t it?? So why would they respond with a thanks but no thanks?? This also assumes that those you’ve messaged are actually who they present themselves to be... I also don’t really understand why people get so invested in responses......it’s such the norm even when you’re seeking out employment via written applications.....send the approach, hope for a reply but a fair assumption after the closing date of applications that if not response is received then it’s on to the next one... Mr dragon
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Teaser7
6 years ago
Do you think perhaps the profiles you've messaged aren't active therefore they haven't checked their messages...🤷♀️
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BungCpl
6 years ago
I would assume that unread messages have either been sent to people who are not online at the moment or they have been sent to people who don’t have your age / relationship status as part of their looking for, therefore the messages are filtered into the not matching folder and not seen. It would be a bit rich to expect a reply in either of these circumstances. For a no reply to messages that have been read, it might be worth a read of one of the many other threads on the same topic, the answers are always the same - No reply is a no thanks
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RHP User
6 years ago
This topic has seriously been beaten to death...there's no different or new way to approach it. And the answer is always the same... NO reply *IS* the reply. No one 'owes' anyone anything here, they don't know you or how you would take a polite rejection reply. So safer to stay silent. And really, if you're not what they're looking for, why should someone have to sit and spend time politely and considerately crafting a reply to your message when you didn't take into consideration the things they may have put in their profile that they're looking for?
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Freaky_Fun
6 years ago
Here we ho again.....
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Freaky_Fun
6 years ago
Ho ho ho 🎅 😂
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Teaser7
6 years ago
Also I don't think people are writing their profile for accolades...
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Doesn't mean it hasn't been read. It can be read in the unconventional manner but shows as unread on your mailbox. Just as there is a stealth mode that you can view profiles without them knowing. Assume they read your message, viewed your profile and no reply because it's a no.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Read your message but it shows unread. What a spiteful thing to do. Far out. Some people are just ruthless. This knowledge makes me sad, how fucked up is that ?
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RHP User
6 years ago
Unfortunately if someone isn’t interested they just simply are not interested. A response is not guaranteed or to be expected. Just got to move past the bitter dissapointmemt and move on.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Quoting 'usebi' Read your message but it shows unread. What a spiteful thing to do. Far out. Some people are just ruthless. This knowledge makes me sad, how fucked up is that ? Sensitive petal aren't you.....
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
I use the backdoor to read messages usually when l Havn't time to reply. I figure it's better for the sender to think l Havn't opened it yet rather than see it open and anticipate a reply that doesn't come for a day. It also gives me time to consider the situation to gauge if the sender is a worthy contender or a rejection. Rejection syndrome is a strange phenomenon. A male considers you worthy of an approach, hopeful of a positive reception. But from someone they would like to get to know/fuck, suddenly we morph into a repulsive human being. Too skinny, too fat, ugly, up ourselves etc etc and worthy of a block immediately.
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Obi1kenietzsche
6 years ago
I would expect that this is a common theme on every such online platform as this. Whilst there is indeed absolutely no obligation for ANYONE (irrespective of gender) to reply to or otherwise acknowledge any message of any kind, the consistent evidence is that people (and men in particular) find it discouraging when their advances go unanswered. And irrespective of how these messages are written, they are all “advances” of some kind are they not? Let’s not kid ourselves on that point shall we? A few other things to put into perspective are as follows: Some people find it hard to “reject” those advances as they simply don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings (particularly if the person sending the message looks and sounds like they are a genuinely nice person). In those cases a no reply at all may be easier on both parties? It is also apparently common that sometimes any reply that constitutes a “no thank you“ can result in an insulting response back full of vitriol and abuse. Again, and particularly in that case, a no reply at all may have been better? Guys can be pricks in that regard! And guys, never forget that some women are constantly inundated with messages day after day after day, and the simple fact is they can’t read them all, let alone reply to them. The advice you will get on here, RE your post, will range and vary from “harden the fuck up” to “don’t take it personally“ to “I agree with you”, so take on what sits best for you. However, if the owners of RHP wish to improve overall customer satisfaction ratings then perhaps they should make available a template reply (available to everybody to use) which simply says “RHP thank you for being a pro-active member of our community. Unfortunately the recipient of your recent message has respectfully declined to respond in person. However, we encourage you to continue your search with our other members” Would that be easier and more palatable for many than both sending or receiving a rejection in the first person? Obi1
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RHP User
6 years ago
Firstly, apologies for starting a discussion that "has seriously been beaten to death" I feel I need to clarify that I am not being a "sensitive petal" (I strongly agree with the adage -"if you can't stand the heat then get the f**k out of the kitchen), having a whinge about these people or feeling bitter and twisted about them......I was merely posing the question to gain an understanding what people generally think about that behaviour these days as, no doubt you all know, social etiquette changes over time. Also to clarify in response to another comments....I know at least 6 of those recipients are "active" as I have seen them as 'online' from time to time and the messages I sent would definitely not have caused offence even to Mother Theresa..God rest her soul. Respectfully,K
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RHP User
6 years ago
All us blokes have sent messages with no reply, just part of the journey I guess. Hang in there....throw enough pebbles in the pond and you'll fill it one day.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think it would be great if everyone received a response from a message sent. Just have to remember people often live busy lives and may just want to wait for a quiet moment to respond. I send a template reply if a 2 or 3 word message or just way outside what im interested in. If a well thought out and written message then I respond with a respectable reply.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Lol you wanted to congratulate them on a profile well done eh?? Ok let’s work with that....In a simulation... man: congratulations on your profile...it really spoke to me!! Responder: it spoke to you eh?? Do you think maybe you should seek help with those voices reading my profile to you or are you happy talking to them? ........ Man: love your profile 😘😘 Responder: thanks....me too 😊 ........... Man: love your profile, we should meet up some time!! Responder: oh hi, what did you like about it ?? The response to this scenario changes too...but rarely goes anywhere....my partners single pofile inbox is a testament to that... I’m sure there are plenty others that could simulate some possible ways with how it gets received.... I’m not saying I’m an expert here but I think you get my drift....again, I don’t know the exact contact of your messages so .... Mr dragon
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RHP User
6 years ago
But mine is not a popular opinion. It worked for me though, and I felt good inside. Probably already said, but your messages have likely been read through your profile so they don't show as read.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I've had the exact same thing from men, so it's not just women, that's how I first worked out that trick about reading through profiles in the first place, lol. Try not let it get to you and count your lucky stars it's really not about you at all... If they can't act assertively to answer a simple message, how are they going to cope with real life? It's not an easy thing to encourage a different point of view but I recommend you count your lucky stars and remember it's not really about you at all so don't take it personally, Peachy
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SpicyKale
6 years ago
Exactly what peachy said, it's not about you! We generally reply, even if it's just using the auto fill one. We've had two this week that have made me rethink that policy though. One was that vile an opening message that I wish I hadn't opened it, stupidly replied and got a phone number in response! I had to chuckle, but the message content was just shocking. The other was a demand to know "why not". In all fairness we haven't had any of those in a while. We're a couple that is actually looking for single guys when we're actively searching. Just read the profile first and don't waste your messages when we clearly don't match. This sort of thing on top of flakes has made us much more inclined to meet couples and that wasn't what we were originally looking for on here. I'd hate to be a single on here, so many make it hard for the good ones!
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teamaj2
6 years ago
Spicykale and Peachypearl I am totally in agreement with you both . I try to treat people as I’d like to be treated. I do try to respond to most messages . If it’s obvious that the sender has not read our profile , is rude or sends a one line message I do not feel compelled to reply . We’ve been very lucky, when I do reply with a no thanks most are gracious , appreciative of the reply thanked us and wished us goodluck . Everyone gets rejected on RHP I would think at some point. Frustrating as getting no reply is , I again agree with the previous responses- it is an answer unto itself . Goodluck ‘iamwhoiam ‘ all good things come to those that wait .
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newcumers69
6 years ago
We always reply to people's messages if they have clearly read our profile. In sayimg that if someone sends us a 3 word or one line introduction we won't bother, we certainly don't expect war and peace type of messages but a bit of who and why the person is contacting us especially so if their profile states different interests to who and what we are looking for we don't respond to 'how you going or what you upto today" type of messages, if people can't be fucked writing a proper introduction don't expect a proper reply or any.
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SpicyKale
6 years ago
ps. that made it sound like couples were an afterthought! We love our couple friends 😉 As an aside, anyone that posts on here a bit has probably had their fair share of random messages because of posts. One random innocuous reply about a bdsm question resulted in a stack of cuck holding offers. God knows where that came from! People read into profiles what they want to at times... bit off topic, but interesting food for thought anyway 🤔
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RHP User
6 years ago
Spicy.... Lol the things my sick sense of humour wants to say in reply .... lol Mr Dragon
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SpicyKale
6 years ago
Mr Dragon, don't worry my mind probably beat you to it😂 Happy to sit back and watch my lovely wife go town, but he'd want to bring me a bottle champagne to get me in the mood... then put the rubbish out for me on the way out😉
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RHP User
6 years ago
Honestly when I do reply saying no thank you I get abuse so now if I’m not interested or their message is offensive I just ignore it or block them
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RHP User
6 years ago
You are a smoker and your profile pic is pretty lame maybe that’s the reason
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RHP User
6 years ago
Well, I enjoyed reading your profile IamwhoIam. Cheers, 🍑
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RHP User
6 years ago
And I yours Peachy.....can't wait till i'm 99, will send you a message then... Keep in mind that when things get a bit rough you don't have to look too far in this world to find some poor bugger that's worse off. 12 years on RHP must have to be a record.....it would be 11 or 12 years ago I was on RHP, it was much more dynamic back then. I remember the chat room/s were always crowded with up to 3 rooms going as others reached their number limits. I had many wonderful times with a special lady I met on there.
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
Lmao 50
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BungCpl
6 years ago
Love that you’re still counting these Boobs 😂
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RHP User
6 years ago
Oh god.. Here we go again.
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RHP User
6 years ago
1,000,000 😒 New topics introduced by whingers to outweigh the repeated topics they repeatedly whine about = 0 😣 😂👌
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RHP User
6 years ago
When I hit 99, Ima keep an eye and then check with hubby 😉😋 Don't worry about me and my profile 😂, I have a droll sense of humour. You have to around here. The chat rooms were the bomb back then weren't they! Me n he had a lot of fun there. I just like to bore the natives now. 😇 🍑 👌
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RHP User
6 years ago
Reckon would be no need to check with hubby Peachy...if by some miracle I make to 99 I don't reckon I would be in any state to be a threat to anybody...except maybe myself Will no doubt forget my promise to message you anyway...can't remember what I had for breakfast most days !!! Glad to hear you have a droll sense of humour misinterpreting written words has gotten me into trouble on the odd occasion before. Probably a long shot...do you remember 'Society Lady' from way back then ?
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boobsandbusted
6 years ago
@vic tbh I think I missed a few ,lol
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BungCpl
6 years ago
😂😂😂
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RHP User
6 years ago
You seem to have your shit together and some en pointe sensitivity but who knows what toll the years will take, right? 😉😂 I coincidently can't put a finger on the name of the profile you mention though it does sound familiar. 😊 Merry Christmas, 🍑
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RHP User
6 years ago
I haven’t got time to reply to every single message I get sent. If I’m interested, I would reply. Also, if I message a guy and he says some pity message back saying sorry but no thanks I would prefer not to know and just have no reply personally
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RHP User
6 years ago
Thankyou...Obi1
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LetsFrolic
6 years ago
Yes it's rude.. a reflection of them though
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PlayfulBursar
6 years ago
Try wearing something more appealing in your profile pic and having less rules and more positives in your bio 😘
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think the process goes something like the following. I find usually in everyday life/business, socialising and relationships silence is a default no. Usually it will be a quiete and polite no not seeking any hassle or follow up. Because when you reply to an unsolicited approach, you inadvertently create a conversation. Even if you’re saying no, you make it a two way simply by replying. This gives heart to some who think the attention may be positive and continue pursuing. Separately, added to that dynamic, the nature of this platform allows a conversation to continue using one initial message credit if both parties respond alternately. So if a recipient answers a message, then she/he leaves the door open for another approach and leaves the safety of no more contact.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I’ve responded to people saying thank you and no thank and I get abused for “judging” people and that “I don’t know them” . So now I don’t it. I thought i was being polite. 🤷🏻♀️ But if you profile has no description no effort then it’s simple no response.
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kinkiecouple
6 years ago
No one owes you a reply just because you sent a message if u can't take rejection you are on the wrong site.. we will reply if we are interested and won't if we are not.. and if u press the issues you will be told.. We are here to have fun with people who we are interested in not here to spend time replying to massage.
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5exxytimes
6 years ago
Too rude a simple ty but I'm not interested takes seconds
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RHP User
6 years ago
This topic does come up quite often... but I also like to recap on it because it does happen to a lot of guys more often than not. I can totally understand that there are a lot of selfish, dickhead, f**k boys out there that are probably on the drugs and treat women like shit, show them disrespect and don't appreciate a woman. But also remember too ladies that not all guys are like that, and we do have feelings and get rejected a lot!! Would be awesome to see more singles and couples that receive a message from a guy and not interested to just flick a quick "thanks, but no thanks" message in return :) Or if they fit the criteria, even better!! Lol
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RHP User
6 years ago
What may help with that..... Would be nice if RHP would clearly show inactive profiles as inactive, or simply remove them from searches until that user logs in again.... But no, they want to make it look like there's more people here hot to trot than perhaps there really is..... Pretty underhanded how they removed the 'last on - over a month' text from profiles. Maybe this is what's getting you upset.... But, people do simply not reply.... Yeh, it's kinda rude. But, just assume it's a no and move on.
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RHP User
6 years ago
If it’s unread so be it It’s not your choice Build a bridge and get over it
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thiccgirlowner
6 years ago
We seem to have the unpopular opinion too. Just because it’s online doesn’t mean you can afford some common civility (and that goes for how you respond after being rejected too) Yes, RHP could make this easier with some templated quick replies like they do with flirts.
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thiccgirlowner
6 years ago
Of course we could all do ourselves a favour by it sending speculative emails outside close location or preferential matches. That’s what those are there for
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RHP User
6 years ago
From a personal point , I do try and respond but lately have stopped in men’s profiles I don’t like as the responses back when I say thanks for your time much appreciated but sorry best of luck .. are then responded back with abuse and calling me a fat ugly whore or the likes So don’t take it personally about not being read or responded too as to avoid the abuse I don’t look or answer anymore, assuming that they get the message Also copy and paste type emails can be picked a mile away so I ignore them as well
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Thanks, (I think) for telling me what I should and shouldn't do here on your moral compass. I can decide for myself, thank you. I'm quite capable of doing so. Ms Foxy
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MissRedFox
6 years ago
Men do this too - just that because they normally dont recieve a tonne of first messages it's usually down the line a bit If men were inunaduated with first messages they wouldn't reply to every single one of them either Ok and just so the rare few who wouldn't don't get upset I acknowledge this wouldn't be ALL men but based on the experience of many women I think we all know this would be case So let's just move on from this tired old topic can we XX
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RHP User
6 years ago
There are 3 types of business in life Your business Gods business (weather, traffic etc....) Their business You can only ever be concerned with your business... Having expectations of how others should or shouldn’t behave will only lead to disappointment in life..... so best keep out of their business.... Also reality is reality it cannot be changed ..... they haven’t replied.... accept the reality as it stands and move on. Acceptance is a wonderful thing! If they haven’t replied then they weren’t meant to be a part of ur life... it’s simple
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RHP User
6 years ago
To all the people saying “here we go again” or not this question again”, clearly with the amount of comments it is still an active topic. Just because you’ve viewed or commented on previous posts related to this topic doesn’t mean the rest of the RHP world has. Why not just say to your self “this again, not interested” and get on with your day. Why comment at all with no useful information. Could even send the link of the previous topic with comments. To respond to the actual Q. I don’t really have an answer or an opinion so like others should have I wasn’t going to comment and I’ll now get on with my day.
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Funcoastcouple1
6 years ago
I actually agree that some acknowledgement should be given. Every single message thread we have ends with us sending a message with no reply from the other party. But go with the odds of 1 in 100 will be genuine and you shouldn't be too disappointed.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Well my experience so far on RHP is that quite simply the ratio of men to women on this site is high therefore you (and I) are competing with guys much younger. The second overriding factor is that women our age on RHP are cougars and not looking for a relationship with a guy the same age, but enjoying the freedom of having a fling with guys in their 30's. After all, lets face it, if the balance here was favoured towards men, we too would enjoy ourselves meeting only younger women.
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SpIcyVibEs
6 years ago
When I was new to this site, I was unsure but learned quickly not to bother but felt pity for ladies who receive sizeable number of messages. Don't bother yourself if they read your message. The moment message is sent then it's forgotten is what I follow and I can suggest. If someone replies me no, I just replies thanks for replying and end of it. No more contact. I reply only to thank their Courtesy, not sure it's correct behaviour but my manners says to appreciate their manners.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Not interested? One click send of preformatted " Thanks but not interested" message and then block them . Maybe RHP can program that function We wouldn't have all these sooky topics about no replies. We would have a new lot " Why have the 6,500 women in here that l messaged telling them how special they are, blocked me?"
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RHP User
6 years ago
This topic sorta kinda gets done to death, all you really can do is ignore those who ignore you and everyone is happy. :)
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RHP User
6 years ago
This is an evergreen and always will be until...Blokes, Fellas, Men, Boys.... Accept the following: You are in a highly competitive environment in here and so to in the real world. Try and stand out just a little. Thinks of it like a bar. You are not going to strike gold.with every contact but when you do the rewards are worth it. It's why you are still in here isn't it and its why people keep heading out to bars clubs and other social avenues to meet people. Women have the choice and yes for you control freaks they do hold the sway of power in here and in life generally. Women are on the whole more intuitive than us blokes and will make their judgement call on the strength and genuineness they can establish out of your message, your photos and yes even your username. Words count, what else they got to go on until you meet and establish further connection...or not. Sending a lazy message such as "Hey" or "What are you up" to or my personal favourite "I want to cum in your bum" are not going to increase your chances of a response. I know....fucking revelatory stuff huh?? Yes...true...women and couples have shown me these types of messages. Surely it is not hard to look good with guys pulling those tactics is it?? Make an effort and sell yourself for fuck sake. Tell the woman or couple about yourself and what you bring to the table to address what they say they are looking for. No guarantees of a response either but surely could not hurt your chances and it might pique their interest more than an offer from a stranger to ejaculate inside their holier than holies. Women and couple are hit with an endless stream of message and flirts, it is impossible for them to answer them all without the the need for a PA. One couple I was talking to received 37 messages after being logged out for less than 24 hours. With a family.and work life how can they possibly keep up?? So the judicious scanning and selection required by that volume dictates that not every message is going to be replied to, so you need to stand out and say something that catches the right attention. "Hey" is just not gonna cut it and sure as shit the offer for a blast in the ass is not either on first contact when dealing with such volumes. I am no expert by any stretch but a keen observer of people and just passing on some thoughts from what I have seen and heard from others. Take it for what it's worth....or not. Given the volume of blokes in here if you silly buggers keep coming up with "Hey" or "let me shoot a wad in your pod" then I for one will be grateful as it will not be all that difficult to stand out in that sort of crowd.😉😁
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
I'm having a giggle at the comment from men who are stating and making female choices/decisuons for us. It would be nice if we were asked what we want first rather than making the assumption for us. 😉😊 Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
It's OK to state "people should reply" and people should do this and that, its morally respectful blah blah blah.... But what are they going to make people reply?? Nothing, because there absolutely nothing anyone can do to make a person reply to their emails. Ms Foxy
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HotfunGC
6 years ago
There could be many reasons for people not replying. Sometimes people get busy and sometimes they just couldn't be bothered. Either way if someone doesn't respond what does it matter to you any way? Life goes on. You'll find people that do and more than likely those people will be a better match for you anyway.
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RHP User
6 years ago
No issues with people ignoring messages , isn't that their right to do that?
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RHP User
6 years ago
I used to do my best to send a polite message to almost all that contacted me, “a thanks not quite my flavour” I never want to go out of my way to be rude or impolite. But this response didn’t always work in my favour, a lot of people I guess were excited they got a response at all, and then would continue to hassle me which is very frustrating. Also when you are very clearly out of the age range I choose, as well as people being relentless with their msgs, 1, 2, and 10 messages later never once having had a reply? They continue Talking to you as if you have been speaking back? Please take the hint. It is flattering that my inbox is always full, but I honestly can’t keep up at the best of times, so please don’t be a hound dog - very unattractive trait. These are the type of people who make me now automatically delete a bunch of msgs outside of my selection range without even viewing them or their msg at all. So please fellow RHP gang, Accept the polite decline and respectfully move along. Just because one has a profile on here doesn’t mean we want any piece of ass that is thrown our way. xXx ItalianSorella xXx
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RHP User
6 years ago
RHP does have one line templates we can respond with. We can also make templates up. I used to write my own, I only needed one. 🍑 😊
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naughtycple4U
6 years ago
Don't get me started here, some profiles are very specific about what they are looking for and if people choose to ignore that or don't even bother reading what the person they are trying to contact is into then being ignored should be expected.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Ahhhhh why do people do this to themselves starting these forums🤦♂️ It always comes across as bitter sore loser even when not meant to but opens you to the whole site’s ridicule. Best thing to do is delete this forum ASAP.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Kindness is a language which the deaf the can hear and the blind can see (Mark Twain). I give up my seat. I hold doors open. I let drivers in in traffic. I put my trolley back. I listen. I smile at people and say hello. I respect people who serve me. I let people go before me in the queue. I am pleasant to others even when my heart aches. I say please/thank you. I don't make fun of people or gossip. I pride myself on these attributes. Bleating on about the erosion of 'common courtesy' in society because you are not having your emails answered is ludicrous. Just because I make eye-contact, nod or say hello as I walk past you does not grant me the same behaviour in return. I would be a fool to think it would. Expecting others to behave as you see fit is disenfranchising of their free-will to say the least. I think you should move on and allow others to do the same.
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RHP User
6 years ago
At the self righteous outrage presented here and there that doesn't acknowledge the self effacing tone of the OP that asks questions rather than forcing anything on anyone. I question where so many are coming from that they're stuck in an inflexible mold that doesn't encourage or allow exploration of healthy ideals. Happy days, my holiday break has begun. 💞🍑💗
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' At the self righteous outrage presented here and there that doesn't acknowledge the self effacing tone of the OP that asks questions rather than forcing anything on anyone. I question where so many are coming from that they're stuck in an inflexible mold that doesn't encourage or allow exploration of healthy ideals. Happy days, my holiday break has begun. 💞🍑💗 I'll probably be accused of being biased or self serving but....(makes mental note to self - don't piss Peachy off if she's holding a hammer)....Talk about hitting the nail on the head!!! Enjoy your holiday break Peachy.....be good, or at least be good at it
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
😍😍😍😍 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Every no reply (to a quality message)Is a bullet dodged.
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RHP User
6 years ago
The word 'should' isn't in the OP and the first person to mention it on this page is you. The OP has asked a question in the first place. Owned that his opinion is his own in the second part and that it's perhaps based on his own preconceptions. And explained where he was coming from in the last part, which seemed respectful to me. I honestly find these threads get a bit hysterical sometimes and I don't mean that in a funny way. We all have expectations of how we'd prefer to be treated and a bit of give and take can work wonders when we're trying to work that out together. Just my thoughts based on how I see the questions at hand in the OP as opposed to the very strong resistance to the idea that manners are a thing anymore and that expecting to be treated respectfully is a fault in my own persona. Peachy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'usebi'One way to look at it Every no reply (to a quality message)Is a bullet dodged. Is the way I see it Usebi. We're best off looking out for ourselves because that's all that is under our control. Peachy
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RHP User
6 years ago
This is a very popular topic no matter what people say, lol. And Iam, I'd rather be a hammer than a nail! I'm admiring your self control. Peachy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hey iamwhoiam ☺️ We are inundated and to be honest once I reply the thanks no thanks it generally starts in a back and forth of messaging which I am not interested in doing....... if I receive a reply of “cool thanks for that” I would do it every time but I never have........ It is not a venomous thing at all, like someone has already said, you through enough pebbles in the pond eventually it fills up. I understand where you are coming from but this site isn’t like messaging someone personally.... it’s a hook thrown out and sometimes you get a bit.....sometimes you don’t. Good luck in your search
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RHP User
6 years ago
No self control needed Peachy.....well maybe just a little thus morning when I was tempted to quip - for a topic that...quote "has been done to death" unquote..it has rocked along pretty well 🙊 I prefer to look at it in the light that I have brought a diverse range of people together for a lively and mostly civilised discussion which ultimately answered my question....I think 🤔
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RHP User
6 years ago
I do understand sthnbell....as I said in the opening paragraph of my topic starter. Admittedly I wasn't aware that a lot of people would feel the need to argue the point after they get the 'thanks but no thanks' response...maybe English is their second language . I would readily concede that in those circumstances you would not be unreasonable to ignore and/or block the wombats.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Sort of Answers question being asked I think! Some people must get inundated with messages no doubt, so as life's busy some may remain unread therefore unacknowledged, nobody's fault just desperation or hormones
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RHP User
6 years ago
I don’t answer everyone as alot of the messages are disrespectful and when I actually answer then politely saying no thank uou, they respond with nasty messages which is really immature and I can’t be bothered with it . Not every likes me and I’m fine with it people need to grow up and respect females responses even if it’s a polite rejection
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DownToEarthPair
6 years ago
We dont mind a non reply, and if its a No thats all we want to know just a "No Thankyou", we are not interested why the reasons why its a No, Is not our problem....for example "you are not Bi"Thats out of our control our sexuality is decided in our DNA before birth.
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
Certainly related but via a different site, I'm on RSVP and like some similar dating sites, with a pay per message feature, this system revolves around sending winks/kisses/flirts to send or receive positive interest BEFORE going through with an actual individual paid message. Still, many do not reply, even after you receive a reply or initial flirt saying they wish to hear from you, or similar. I've recently used up the last of my message credits ("stamps") on someone this way, still waiting on a reply. The system of purchasing credits has changed now and new purchases for messaging are essentially more expensive and with more limiting time constraints (credit expiry times) these days. Throwing back to the other forum here about online dating, makes it really difficult to make an actual offline date, even for basic vanilla dating activities.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think after so many no replies you should be warned then if no change profile deleted...
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RHP User
6 years ago
I used to take the time to reply to every single message but was often being met with an unkind response or the person saw the reply as an opening so just kept pestering and trying anyway. ( good on them for trying, but no is no). So now I usually just read the message and then check out the profile and if there is anything that doesn’t gel with me I just leave it at that. I do have to say though there have been some extremely polite men who have responded very nicely to my honest feedback as to why I don’t think I would be interested in pursuing anything with them, which has been refreshing.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Meh.....who cares. You send a message, it may be read it may not. I’ve sent a few in my time here and couldn’t give a rats 🐀 arse. They either interested or not. Pretty simple really I would’ve thought
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RHP User
6 years ago
I had replied with a “Thanks, but no thanks” message once. I got abused. Not doing that in a hurry again. No reply means “No Thanks.” Simple.
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RHP User
6 years ago
8,000 horny guys: 80 women with specific preferences. I think expectations might be too high for the realistic numbers. I get some lovely polite rejection replies about 50% of the time. (And thanks again ladies). The rest I am sure just don’t have enough time in their days to deal with their RHP inbox. Plenty of other sites out there or try improving your game so play friends come back to play again. Or wear deodorant 🤷♂️ Anyway good luck.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Not bad for a “ done to death topic”
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RHP User
6 years ago
It takes no time to reply and have decency, the issue here is all the desperate men that in update women with senseless messages and dic pics... why would they want to sift through a pile of shit due to the disrespectful nature of most of the men and many women on this site. Some people just lack basic empathy or skills for humanity it’s a sex site that doesn’t allow people to be rude and dismissive
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m4451
6 years ago
I understand that sometimes you may read a profile and think “we’d be a great match”, then be disappointed at not receiving a reply (either way). The transactional cost to sending a message, even when thoughtful and well considered is really quite low. Which is probably why some send them indiscriminately. At the end of the day perhaps think of it more like making eye contact and even a smile at a party expressing interest, rather than composing a letter. If the stars align they might smile back- great, if not enough has been said already.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Meh....get over it. Quite frankly, who gives a fuck. Sent messages myself, had a response and didn’t have a response. Couldn’t give a big fat rats arse either way. Just how it goes
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RHP User
6 years ago
I get 100+ messages a day, it isn’t meant as disrespect that i don’t read these messages, I simply would not have time to reply to every message.
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madotara69
6 years ago
Obi.... Your in the middle of the ocean...no wind in your sails...it’s hot and the fish are off the bite... low visibility with all the bush fire smoke..all on your own. Again lol. Love Mado Tara xx OP..if you step out and look in..perhaps it’s just a simple thing where patience can be a virtue.. If you sent us a message. We’d most likely notice it when we are horny and to be honest... if Tara see’s a smile...cheeky smile.... How soon can you get here ? Baaaaaammm... it’s on when it’s on and when it’s on it’s wild..it’s all and everything spitroasting...double penetration... deepthroating two cocks... toys...sex swing...etc etc...exhausting and about as good things get... Anyhow... Mado Mado Tara xx
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Obi1kenietzsche
6 years ago
Becalmed as I may indeed be at the moment! But this DOES provide me an opportune time to reply to a few messages of my own (gosh! Are they piling in at the moment or what!!!). However, I must confess, OP, that the reason I personally don’t get too worried about whether MY messages are read or replied to at all, is that I usually send them by bottle, and it can take a few years before they reach their destinations. Of course, the problem is compounded if they then reply via bottle as well (taking another couple of to float back to me). So all you somewhat impatient Guys, just imagine how it feels to have to wait 4 odd years to hear back from a simple message! (Let alone fucking MEET anybody!). Hmmm? However, take heart, for there IS a faster way!.... Just take some of what Mado obviously takes and you too can enter the physic plane (telekinesis, strange mystic out of body weirdness and everything) and you don’t even need this app to communicate back and forth! (I think he extracts the sacred juice from the reclusive whoopity frog as a main ingredient). Obi1 PS: Merry Xmas Mado and Tara! 😊 xxx
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Rockme2018
6 years ago
I hear you mate, but honestly its same shit different day on here. Its always been this way and it always will be. It will never change in this game.
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