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Ignoring incoming messages - Rude or not?
December 17 2019
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madotara69
6 years ago
They’re worth 10 cents now obi. Cash.. Except the rum bottles... got to be careful which bottle to slip your little love me for all that I am and I am what I am... romantics. Yeah it’s the messenger in the moment.. horny and having a dabble with a passion... hastily typing a bit of pussy whispering with all and great intentions and that’s fine.. perfectly fine. Thing that takes the fizz out is... the messenger seems to have the notion that the pussy... and that’s a thing... guys message the pussy and all the things to tickle the fancy of the pussy! .. I’ve sent messages back too the angels telling.. it’s hubby here atm, Tara’s off tip young through the tulips or some thing or another and she’s gonna brb... the angel returns another thing he’d like or love to do too the pussy... can’t blame the blokes. But the pussy may not be in the mood right there in those few seconds come minutes come the problem at hand.
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RUcheckingmeout
6 years ago
Unfortunately I ignore 98% of messages. I've learnt that politely responding and declining only encourages more unwanted attention. Then I end up having to block them. Not my choice. Men need to accept that a woman responding is not an invitation to harass. I'm respectful, friendly and time poor!
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RHP User
6 years ago
Wow Wee! Being new to all this online dating stuff I'd never usually comment but I have to say, I try to reply to most messages... however I don't really check them too often maybe every few days...weeks... and if there is lots I usually just don't have time so i tend to cherry pick the ones I find interesting first. Apologies if you find this rude but when your working and juggling a family on your own, time is precious.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Yo
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RHP User
6 years ago
Not rude, if they clearly don't match what you are after, or are sending multiple messages after you have said that you are not interested.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Wishing you all the best for the festive season and hope Santa is generous to you, hopefully he can arrange some rain for those suffering from the fires and drought. I logged on last night and my heart skipped a beat...there was a message for me...alas it was only a Christmas message from RHP .....for the record I did reply to it and wished them all a merry xmass Heading out to distribute some tucker for my cows and pump water...forecast is promising a chance of some rain over the next few days which will be the best xmass present for me if it eventuates. Be good and don't do anything I wouldn't do
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Cunnilingenius
6 years ago
Rude. Nothing wrong with “ thanks but no”. We are all human here.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Definitely rude. Especially if you leave the girl drunk and lone in a hotel room. Fuck face! Irish! I hope you see this.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
WHooooA! Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'MissD81' Definitely rude. Especially if you leave the girl drunk and lone in a hotel room. Fuck face! Irish! I hope you see this. Damn MissD, that goes beyond rude....reckon that d**khead needs the burdizzo !!! Stories like that make me feel embarrassed to be a man
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
2 sides to every story
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LustAndLoveXoX
6 years ago
Don't take it personal mate. So many stars need to align for a girl to answer a message believe me. And even when that happens it is very hard to keep the conversation going and you have to measure every single word you say because it can be perceived as rude or pushy. I also got "too kind, not aggressive enough, too smart, too fit and etc...." At the end of the day, it is a game of numbers. A million men for a thousand womam, it is never going to work unless you are rich, a fitness model or willing to do stuff you wouldn't be proud off. To understand this concept, try to go in South East asia and you will be the one forgetting to answer maybe... But this is a western society, don't take it personal, I wish online dating never existed and people could not hide behind a screen, it was so much better before;)
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nma87
6 years ago
My profile even states don’t be upset at no reply.. silence is the answer. I don’t need to let 10 million blokes know why I’m not interested..
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RHP User
6 years ago
When I did reply I usually hit ‘but why’ then they would argue. Or just straight out attack any of my flaws and insult me. Try to hurt me. No answer is easiest, just not doing it for me. Damn, I get no replies all the time. If they want me they will contact me. If they don’t contact me, I forget and keep looking. I don’t owe anyone anything. Online dating / fucking whatever you are into is brutal with lies deceit and rejection. If you took everyone’s opinion or rejection onboard you would be a mess. Its about prioritising, what’s important and what isn’t. Sometimes replying is on the bottom of my list of ‘responsibilities’ Try going to events etc if messages aren’t working. Or get a female friend to look over your profile and give you some suggestions on how to approach women. We are all different but most of us are pretty specific about what we want so try reading our profiles and personalising the message to show you are interested in us not just ‘the first pussy that says yes, will do’
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'nma87' My profile even states don’t be upset at no reply.. I'm upfront in my profile that no response means no thank you. If someone doesn't like that, they can choose not to message in the first place. No, I am not inundated with messages so that is not a reason why I don't reply. I have, however, learned that a number of men do not deal well with direct rejection and I don't want to deal with that bullshit. No, not all men but as there is no way of knowing which ones are going to throw a tantrum I'm afraid it's a blanket rule applied to all.
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swf1970
6 years ago
and the reason is as simple as the post and the comments.. its the same old comment and the most boring messages.. hi I'm... want to meet up..or hi .. hi.. what you doing nothing much what about you.. make it interesting so we have to reply you know the song simply irresistible.. what made him sexy lol
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RHP User
6 years ago
I guess when women get inundated with messages and men totally outnumber its not hard to understand the difficulty in replying to all. I’m guessing not all are genuine either. Some men unfortunately are over sensitive and most likely over think the lack of response. There is no doubt if serious you can receive a mutually satisfying outcome on RHP but there is no substitute for getting out and meeting people instead of totally relying on here. Enjoy the festivities over New Year and enjoy life
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RHP User
6 years ago
We don’t owe you anything There’s some men that will message me 3 times asking for a polite “no” Like dude , I didn’t reply the first time now you’re just hassling me for a response? You’re not entitled to anything from me. This is perfectly acceptable nowadays to not respond. It’s means I’m not interested. This is why apps like bumble were created to give women the power of Initiating contact. We are constantly inundated with messages. We don’t have time or need to really to respond to every Tom dick and Harry in our inbox. No reply? No interest. Please move on with dignity and not demand a response
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make_me_scream
6 years ago
When i first set my profile up it had over 500 views in 4 days, so you can imagine how many messages and flirts came along with that. I was so overwhelmed i actually changed my photos & hid my profile. I just didn’t have time to deal with it to be honest. I didn’t even have time to read all the messages, let alone peruse the profiles & write a response. There were also some messages i intended to come back to, but simply didn’t find the time. Managing my profile would have been a full-time job if i was going to take the time to respond to every message. I am sorry if i offended anyone who sent me a message & they didn’t get a response. I also need to mention though... some guys sent 10 flirts & 10 messages in a short space of time, this behaviour was way too full-on & i simply didn’t want to engage with these people at all. I think you will find most people who don’t respond are not deliberately trying to be rude or disrespectful. 🙂
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hi Ladys .Im 30 years old and im not sure if i want to commit im in a relationship but i think i still want to enjoy myself what shall i do .do i need to experiment ,im looking at older women than myself and cant take my eyes off them and i feel they are doing the same to me thats why ive joined this website . I need to know if this website is worth it before j do anything
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RHP User
6 years ago
......raises bat and lets it go through to the keeper 🙊🙈🙉
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RHP User
6 years ago
How disappointing it is to see so many negative responses.Then again people are expressing their personal opinion, which obviously people don’t read or care. Seems like some or many single males are helping to painting all males as offensive, inconsiderate, compassionless, obnoxious, revolting.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Yeah look I make my specifications really clear, so if someone messages me and: a) they clearly have nothing in common with me and their opening message is completely bland/banal. b) they make no effort to appear interesting or multi-dimensional by having a well-written / descriptive profile c) they have no pics or even a single para written d) their name is something sleazy and obvious e) their responses to my questions about their interest are of the one short generic sentence type, aka they can not converse confidently at all ... I am going to ignore them, and assume they either just skimmed mine or otherwise their ego must be massive to go "yeah I will message her" when their profile goes against everything I say on mine. No guilt, nobody owes any of us an explanation or apology and vice versa, I don't get annoyed if someone doesn't reply to me.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Are we the only couple in melbourne still going from last night horny, high, bored and can’t find anyone to play with us?? Jesus Christ what’s wrong with us??
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RHP User
6 years ago
Well so far my experience here indicates firstly the obvious, that women on here are in the minority and have the upper hand. Secondly most women are on here to flirt and nothing else. Call it attention seeking or whatever but most are flippant about communicating let alone meeting. For couples, its more complicated as they both have different needs.
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RHP User
6 years ago
How ironic that you are calling out the women for being shallow when you are using a fake pic for your profile. No wonder we dont reply to fakes and flakes who cant post a real photo of themselves.
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RHP User
6 years ago
People who have just barely spoken to you and ask for private pics, and when you say No because you've hardly conversed with them, instead of trying to have more of a conversation to get to know you, which you make clear on your profile - they get stroppy and block you. So it's clear: they're not interested in chatting, they're just another fuck-boy or fuck-girl who's impatient. There are so many legit reasons why people on here have to be stringent and it's because of the lack of manners and pushy expectations of others.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Sometimes I answer the sponsored posts sent by RHP with a quick reply, even if they don't match me in some way, shape or form.. Because I'm considerate like that. Unfortunately, because they don't match, it has to be in the negative. Peachy
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happygolucky12
6 years ago
You want to congratulate them for their well written profile .... are you for real .... get over yourself ... you sound like a drip . They are not interested and yes they feel you are not worth a reply ... you sound so pious and any woman could see right through your letter ... no one is interested
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Women are flippant about communicating with you let alone meeting you because your profile pic is stolen from the net. It is misleading, as people would think it is you. Only vunerable people would fall for that. So do you actually inform people the pic is not actually you prior meeting or you just dont show up at all (ghost). Plus having "Laid" in your profile name doesnt help either. I agree with your last sentence, couples do have different needs therefore the dynamics make it more complicated. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
I used to answer to every message ( thanx for your msg but I'm not interested, good luck in your search) But after getting abused a lot (you're a fucking ugly bitch anyway etc....) I only respond with a no thanx to people I think are genuine and march what I described on my profile what I'm after. 🤷
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D_Light
6 years ago
flatten them fast, if pain persists activate... code name Flamingo!! reality will be brought back in order quicker than the feathers will dust them off.....
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3SM_Events
6 years ago
Women on here get absolutely inundated with messages daily and while some have the time and inclination for most it’s just a matter of sifting through the pile and plucking out the ones that grab their attention. Mostly this is based on profile pics firstly, then a well written and original message. Without these two weapons in your arsenal then the online dating world is pretty much a lost cause for you. It’s not their fault. They owe nothing and can cherry pick whats good for them while the rest of the men live in a delusional state and pay for the site. I deal with this from all angles. People always register for events then don’t reply to my correspondence even though I can see they’ve read it (and single men are actually the biggest timewasters here). I just put them on the blacklist and don’t invite them to future events and remove them as soon as they register. A lot do it to try and line u “predrinks” or a date prior with no intention of actually attending the event so I don’t give them the luxury of being seen
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RHP User
6 years ago
I wrote a reply in relation to this topic . Without a doubt what a wrote explained perfectly the reasoning behind the non reply/ignoring of messages. It was not rude but because I stated a number of truths it was obviously deleted!!!!
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RHP User
6 years ago
I'd need to hire a secretary to reply to all the messages I get. And most of them are dead lazy. If the message is any less than a coherent sentence it's not worthy of a response. If it's a social pleasantry like how are you going doubly so. This isn't a supermarket.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think that I have a very honest and informative profile as well as pictures that I think show me off. I work hard on the first message I send as this is the only chance we might get to talk. I put the work into online dating. But STILL If I don’t get a message back from someone, thats it. Nothing more than can be done, no hard feelings. The game is simple, no need to get angry because you cant grasp the rules. I don’t know how it feels to be inundated with messages and to still struggle to find a good match, just like I’m sure most women on RHP don’t know how it feels to send 100 messages and not get a reply. Men and women live in different worlds on dating sites, just like they do in real life. If you’re the type of guy who’s going to be abusive after rejection or just wants to get your rocks off with minimal effort, get a fleshlight man. Even better it’s 2020, get a sex doll.
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Obi1kenietzsche
6 years ago
There’s a post Boxing Day sale on the Snork-bot 5000 (still available apparently!). Obi1
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think it can depend on the message. In my bio I have outlined what I’m looking for. If someone hasn’t read my bio or just disregarded what I’ve taken the time to write, I don’t feel the need to respond. Many will write to me saying ‘I know I’m not what you are looking for, but ......’. I also get messages that simply say ‘hi’ or once just a wave emoji. I will not respond to these messages and don’t feel that’s rude. If someone has taken the time to send me a respectful message, I will respond. Even if it is to say thank you but I’m not interested.
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RHP User
6 years ago
And really that criteria is all it would take to make most reasonable people happy. Go You
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madotara69
6 years ago
The 5000 still available are re furbished after a recall due too a problem with the raxle. Similar too the portable inflatable spa baths whereas electrocution was an imminent certainty, where moisture occurs. Seems Lanolin spray has been applied to mostly all the raxle’s of the refurbished 5000’s for the Boxing Day sale. Just a bit of trivial information, and that in fact the 5000‘s available is a terminological inexactitude with the flyers letterbox dropped.
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Obi1kenietzsche
6 years ago
As sex-bot technical researcher Mado so accurately reports, the raxel issues with the latest Snork-bot have indeed been recently addressed. Also, in an additional measure of good will, Snorky Industries (the manufacturing giant behind the Snork-bot brand) are offering all customers a free plug and play upgrade which will enable all Snork-bot models to extend both fellatio and cunnilingus settings to a new “Berserker” level. Umm.. please don’t ask me how I know this. Obi1 xxx
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RHP User
6 years ago
If you can’t be bothered to send a cursory sorry, not interested message using a template response, then you’re too lazy to be on here. It’s rude to leave people hanging, and if you’re getting too many messages you need to review your profile and be more specific about the kind of people you’re interested in.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
I disagree with your post. What a load of bullocks. If you are hanging around waiting for a reply from an email you sent, that's not anyone's issue but yours. It is your expectations that expect a reply. No, people are not "lazy", it because they don't have to reply nor do what you want, nor should they change their profiles to suit you because you want a reply. What is rude is demanding from others and telli ng them what to do. Why should people reply to your emails that have no interest to them and especially if they have not met you? Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Its a topic men an women need to hear/read about its out just rude both sexs get sent stupid msgs not just ladys so to use thst as an excuse is just pathigic if you ask me its petty people who photoshop the shit out of them selfs never had hundred guys/girls msg them it gets to there head if u ask me if you simply state ur here to fuck thats it well to just delete or nt read is valid as thstperson has stated there reasons but if you put lookn for relationship looking for the one 😂😂😂 to that line but yet u dnt read or delete msgs how do you kno u just didnt click away the one
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Quoting 'thewinchester' If you can’t be bothered to send a cursory sorry, not interested message using a template response, then you’re too lazy to be on here. It’s rude to leave people hanging, and if you’re getting too many messages you need to review your profile and be more specific about the kind of people you’re interested in. A female corpse would get 200 messages in the first few days such is the reading abilities of desperate guys in here
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onewilldo
6 years ago
Ppl, cpls, singles on many forums and sites complain about messages like, grunt, ugg, you girl me want, wanna meet...,. yeah wankers. My profile and messages are genuine, I'm validated verified and I turn up but gaining the attention of ppl who are as courteous as my intentions is highly frustrating. Still, battle through the bs of many and you find a few real people, not a lot but they're there.
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Spicy_Play_Time
6 years ago
Not rude but does suck. If everyone could make an effort and reply that be nice. It’s not like you are getting a thousand messages on your profile. But hey each to their own :)
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RHP User
6 years ago
i just think how the other person would feel if i ignored their approach. a simple no thanks is all thats needed Quoting 'usebi' It’s really simple, too many men fall over themselves to hand women the power to treat them as they please. And with this social power most abuse it and few have respect for it. And so seeking the few from the many is the goal. Good luck with that. Tip; use big brain not dick brain.
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RHP User
6 years ago
When you get “Hey you guys are hot, let’s hookup” 20-30 times a day from guys who obviously couldn’t be bothered reading you get sick of saying no thanks pretty quick and the delete button becomes easier. So who’s the rude one, us for not responding or the guy who didn’t read what we are looking for?
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RHP User
6 years ago
Like some other sites, if people dont match your criteria, eg, single, non smoking , age etc, it should block them from messaging you?
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RHP User
6 years ago
Seriously?? Maybe it's old school respect but if ya got time to read messages a "No thanks surely isn't a big deal.. Or let's keep being arrogant and eventually we won't even communicate anymore..nah there's Lot of rude pricks on this site!!!
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
True fact: I do have 1600+ messages in my inbox. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Where the profile owner gets to have options to block via personal preferences. I wouldn't use it because profile is mostly set to limit the amount interest I attract. The messages I get are from the forum and not to do with sexual interest at all. Mind you I make it clear where I'm at in my profile so there is no chance of miscommunication. 🍑 xo
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RHP User
6 years ago
I don't think your comment reflects the point HornyViking was making though his post isn't clear about that, that's my reading of it. Those messages you mention have built up over the time since you made this profile? A period of years? Rather than a flood that has given no time for replying?... 🍑
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Obi1kenietzsche
6 years ago
If your letterbox at home gets full of “junk mail” of which the contents you are not interested in, is it rude not to write back to all the originators of that junk mail just to let them know “thank you but you’re simply not interested”? I think not. How many times have guys on here expressed the view that “its a numbers game” (interpreted as “the more messages you send, the higher your chances of success”). Not necessarily true people! (particularly if one is outside the parameters of what the recipients are looking for). Indiscriminate saturation bombing has never worked... either here on Earth or in a Galaxy far, far away. If people on RHP (and this clearly relates to the guys more than the gals) simply relax, turn off their targeting computers, and trust the force instead, they may just find that their photon torpedoes will then hit the mark. Obi1
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Obi1kenietzsche
6 years ago
Either that, or you will blow up a Death Star... either way, it’s a win! Obi1
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RHP User
6 years ago
No reply is an answer, it’s as simple as that
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RHP User
6 years ago
Putting faith in the force? Junk mail, on the flip side, I used to deliver it... people who don't want it put a sign on their letterbox saying so. When I was passing by some would have a whinge they didn't want it, and I'd explain that I signed a contract to deliver and to place a sticker on their letterbox if they didn't want it. Clear communication is the best, nothing to do with manners really. The beauty though is that many used to give a big thanks as we passed by because manners ARE still a thing even if it just receiving catalogues for shopping. Considering the OP, I can only guess the jink mail you mean is the compliments Iam sent? I guess you're right that sending a compliment doesn't require a response. Many women are wary of responding to innocent appearing messages. From the sounds of the OP though, responses to the other messages he sent would have been the right thing to do because Iam isn't sounding desperate, to me at least, and they did ask for the contact! Just because women are so in demand doesn't mean we should expect any less of them than they expect of the people who contact them. That's my outlook, I replied to all the messages we used to receive, and didn't have the problems or receive the thousands of messages I hear so much about. I'm all for encouraging clearer needs and wants because that worked for me. I don't know, I have this fantasy that if we treated each other like we all mattered, it would make for a better world. It's a shame the Force has to fight so hard to resist the dark side constantly... That's no fun. Peachy
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RHP User
6 years ago
The Force can have a strong influence on the weak-minded.These are not the dick pix you're looking for.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
My junk mail must get delivered by single males. I have a no junk sign on the letterbox. Still get the junk mail. Just like here......except here they have erections when they send the mail. Curious now, might stalk my letterbox see if they have stiffys
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RHP User
6 years ago
Well, it sounds like you have proper dicks delivering your brochures. I have to thank you for your post... It's true, there's too many idiots that ignore the signs... You know me, I didn't, well except that very last day when I got to the one with the No Junk Mail sticker with idiot and arrows pointing to the sticker written under it. With that fine timing I experience so often in my life, he came home seconds later while I was still only a couple of houses away. I don't think he appreciated my explanation that I wasn't an idiot. 😇 The difference here at least is that the deliverers can be reported (I was, hehe) and the businesses fined, there are laws if people take up the chance to report. Peachy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Well, it sounds like you have proper dicks delivering your brochures. I have to thank you for your post... It's true, there's too many idiots that ignore the signs... You know me, I didn't, well except that very last day when I got to the one with the No Junk Mail sticker with idiot and arrows pointing to the sticker written under it. With that fine timing I experience so often in my life, he came home seconds later while I was still only a couple of houses away. I don't think he appreciated my explanation that I wasn't an idiot. 😇 The difference here at least is that the deliverers can be reported (I was, hehe) and the businesses fined, there are laws if people take up the chance to report. Peachy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Well, it sounds like you have proper dicks delivering your brochures. I have to thank you for your post... It's true, there's too many idiots that ignore the signs... You know me, I didn't, well except that very last day when I got to the one with the No Junk Mail sticker with idiot and arrows pointing to the sticker written under it. With that fine timing I experience so often in my life, he came home seconds later while I was still only a couple of houses away. I don't think he appreciated my explanation that I wasn't an idiot. 😇 The difference here at least is that the deliverers can be reported (I was, hehe) and the businesses fined, there are laws if people take up the chance to report. Peachy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Dunno what happened there! But I really, really, really mean what I said! Peachy
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Obi1kenietzsche
6 years ago
Love your work fella. 😂😂😂 Han Solo: talking to a woman in a bar on Tatooine: “Hey Babe, did you know I can make you orgasm in less than 12 parsecs?” Yoda: having a beer in the next booth and overhearing: “Hmmmph, such a wanker, he sometimes is!” Obi1
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RHP User
6 years ago
Im yet to get one so I can't really have an opinion on this yet LMAO
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RHP User
6 years ago
Question... How can you tell if a message is unread or not? I didn’t think that was an option. Any advice or answers would be greatly appreciated. Cheers
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RHP User
6 years ago
Go to your message page and click on sent messages, the column on the left shows if messages have been read or are still unread. But that doesn't mean much if the person has clicked on the profile that sent them the message (assuming the profile isn't locked or has them blocked)(are you aware your profile is unavailable?). Click on More Activities and you'll see the flirts and messages between you under Contact History. On the right it gives you the option to view. Messages read this way show as unread. Cheers, Peachy
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RHP User
6 years ago
You don't have to be a member to answer, any mail sent to you can be answered without you being a member, of course that doesn't oblige you to answer everything.So a conversation can continue once you receive a message you can answer back and forth infinitum as long as you are answering only.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hi, Over the years this has been a topic that keeps raising it head. The question really should be why do some people get responses and not other. I have an 88% response rate to messages I basically never initiate Flirts but I still get plenty. If you have an interesting profile, and you make an effort in your message, the odds are you will get responses. A single paragraph message, or worse a single sentence is hardly making an effort. The filter on some people mail will take out non matching messages, I accept that and do not get miffed if they do not respond. Some people read a message and do not respond as I am not for them in any way shape or form. The vast majority however do respond. Guess I am just lucky... LC
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RHP User
6 years ago
I will let you know if I ever get one 💁♂️😂
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RHP User
6 years ago
When I reply to a message, doesn’t it count as one of the initial senders limited messages that can be sent each day? I don’t reply because (a) I don’t want to use up their credits just to say no; or (b) The message was a boring one word message, the profile was blank or they are rude
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